A good friend is yourself, you don’t need anyone else to be OK...

Always understand what you are doing and what you need most. Know and understand your life goals and ideals on the road of life. Living in an environment, you may be affected by the environment on yourself, but you cannot lose yourself. You should stick to your own principles and living habits, and stay within reasonable limits. Change yourself within the scope, the art of life lies in your constantly adjusting yourself to adapt to the changing environment and different situations you encounter. For each of us, I think the problems we face are nothing more than two points: how to handle the relationship between ourselves and ourselves and the relationship between ourselves and our surroundings. These two relationships are always with us. What we live in is nothing more than how we handle these two relationships. My point is that each of us should be ourselves in our own position. The principles of my life are:

1. Know what you need most and what you need most at the moment.

2. Don’t care too much about other people’s opinions and comments, because each of us has our own way of thinking. Don’t expect everyone to be the same as you, but there is a premise that what you insist on is what you think. What is correct must comply with laws and moral concepts, and must not deviate from what is right. Respect other people's opinions and do not fight back head-on.

3. Be a person and make friends differently. Don’t treat everyone as your friend. Be cautious when making friends. Be sincere as a person. Don’t rely on appearance. Pay attention to your inner cultivation.

4. Accept things gently, be firm but not stubborn, be calm but not indifferent, and be steady but not lose your passion.

5. Always adjust yourself to follow the trend and accept new concepts and ideas.

6. Don’t deliberately cater to others, don’t deliberately alienate others, do your best to help others, leave room for words, and be tactful.

7. Don’t rely on others for everything, rely more on yourself. The most obvious way to live is to be yourself. Only when you are strong can others look down on you. The kind of teasing, flattery and jealousy are stronger than you. The most stupid person is to win people. Each of us has our own small garden that needs to be tidied up by ourselves. Don’t just envy and envy other people’s. You can also tidy up your own garden on your own.

8. Appropriately reduce your unnecessary desires and don’t want everything. In that case, you will live very tiredly and you will not have more energy to do what you should do. Things, learn to give up. The truly successful person is not the person who is excellent in every aspect, but the person who is excellent in one aspect.

9. Respect everyone, so that you can win the respect of others. Remember to talk about the good points of others and don't expose the shortcomings of others.

10. Cherish your time and that of others.

The last and most important point is that you must like yourself and love yourself. A person who hates himself will not be liked by others. Love yourself!

How to improve interpersonal relationships is a technical issue. Before explaining this problem, we must first discuss why we need to improve interpersonal relationships. If it is not necessary, the technical discussion will be of no value. Psychologically speaking, regardless of status, everyone wants to be popular, because being popular means affirmation of self-worth. Teachers want to be popular with students, and students also want teachers to like them. A person may not care whether others like him or not for a while, but he cannot care all the time. The reason why people want to be popular is doomed when we are born, because we can never survive independently without others. There are two common misunderstandings that many people have when it comes to interpersonal relationships. One is to have an indifferent attitude towards interpersonal relationships, and the other is to be overly strategic in interpersonal relationships.

The key to handling interpersonal relationships well is to be aware of the existence of others, understand the feelings of others, and not only satisfy yourself but also respect others. Here are several important principles of interpersonal relationships:

1. The principle of sincerity in interpersonal relationships.

Sincerity is the golden key to open other people's hearts, because sincere people make people feel safe and reduce self-defense. The better the relationship, the more both parties need to expose part of themselves. That is to communicate your true thoughts with others. Of course, doing this will also take certain risks, but you cannot gain the trust of others by completely packaging yourself.

2. The proactive principle of interpersonal relationships. Taking the initiative to be friendly to others and actively expressing kindness can make people feel valued. Proactive people tend to make people like them.

3. Interaction principles of interpersonal relationships. The goodwill and malice between people are mutual. Generally, sincerity begets sincerity, and hostility begets hostility. Therefore, interacting with people should be based on good motives.

4. The principle of equality in interpersonal relationships. Any good interpersonal relationship gives people a sense of freedom and freedom. If one party is restricted by the other party, or one party needs to look at the other party's face to act, it is impossible to establish a high-quality psychological relationship.

Finally, it should also be pointed out that good interpersonal relationships must be found in the practice of interpersonal relationships. Avoiding interpersonal relationships and wanting the friendship of others can only be a fish in the woods, and it is impossible to achieve the ideal goal. I believe that being popular is sometimes better than being wealthy.

At work, we will also face different people, and how should we handle interpersonal relationships at work?

Interpersonal relationships are a very important issue in career, especially for professionals in large companies. Good interpersonal relationships are a necessary condition for a comfortable work and peaceful life. Today's graduates, most of whom are only children, have just come out of school and have strong self-awareness. When they enter a complex social environment, they should adjust their coordinates in interpersonal relationships.

To your boss - respect first and then get along with them: Any boss (including department heads, project managers, management representatives) who holds this position must have at least some merits. Their rich work experience and strategies for dealing with people are worth learning from, and we should respect their wonderful past and impressive performance. But every boss is not perfect. Therefore, at work, it is not necessary to only obey the orders of your boss, but you should also remember that giving advice to your boss is only a small part of your job. Trying to improve, improve, and move to a new level is the ultimate goal. In order for your boss to accept your point of view sincerely, you should do it in an atmosphere of respect, in a polite and measured manner. However, before raising questions and opinions, you must come up with a detailed information plan that is enough to convince the other party.

To colleagues - understand and support them carefully: After working in the office and getting along with colleagues for a long time, they have a certain understanding of each other's interests, hobbies and living conditions. As colleagues, we have no reason to demand that others serve us loyally. When misunderstandings or disputes occur, you must change your perspective, put yourself in the other person's shoes, and understand their situation. Don't get emotional and reveal other people's privacy. Any behind-the-scenes comments and criticism will eventually destroy your own generous image in the process of belittling the other party, and will be met with resistance from others. At the same time, we must have sincere enthusiasm for our work, and we must choose to support our colleagues carefully. Support means accepting other people's opinions and ideas, but blind support can only lead to blind obedience, and can also breed suspicion of cliques and affect the trust of the company's decision-makers.

For friends - be sociable and diligent: As the saying goes: If you move a tree, it will die, but if you move people, you will live. In the modern fiercely competitive society, the iron rice bowl no longer exists, and it is rare for a person to stay in the same company throughout his life. Therefore, it is necessary to make more friends. It is said that the more friends you have, the easier your journey will be. Therefore, if you call a friend, write a letter, or send an e-mail when you are free, even if it is just a few words, your friend will be grateful. This is more meaningful than inviting a large group of people to have a meal.

To your subordinates - help and listen carefully: In terms of work and life, there are only differences in positions, but they are all equal in personality. In front of employees and subordinates, we are just leaders and have no great honor or pride.

Helping your subordinates is actually helping yourself, because the more motivated your employees are, the better the work will be done, and you will gain more respect and establish an enlightened image.

Listening can better understand the mood of subordinates and understand the situation at work, which provides detailed basis for accurate feedback of information and adjustment of management methods. The person in charge of a well-known American company once said: When a manager has a dispute with his subordinates, and the leader is impatient to listen and guide, so that most of the subordinates do not obey the instructions, the first thing I think of is to replace the department manager.

Smile to your competitors: In our work and life, there are competitors everywhere. Many people are on guard against competitors, and some even go so far as to stab them in the back. This kind of extreme will only widen the distance between each other and create a tense atmosphere, which is undoubtedly harmful to the work. In fact, in a whole, everyone's work is important, and everyone has a lovely shining point. When you surpass your opponents, there is no need to look down on them, because others are also seeking to make progress; when others are above you, you don't have to deliberately cause trouble, because work is the result of everyone's united efforts, and "no one can be left behind." No matter how your opponent embarrasses you, never compete with him, smile gently, calm down and do the job in hand first! Maybe he is still resentful, but you have accomplished a great job. With a toothy smile, you have both a generous and open-minded tolerant demeanor and an open-minded good mood. Are you still worried about defeat? Maybe your opponent has already surrendered to you in his heart.