Behind the mode of getting along with others, it seems that you used to show your emotions when you were young, but only after remembering them, let yourself fall into emotions and be consumed internally. This will have a long-term impact on your physical and mental health. At the beginning, if you have a problem with this mode of getting along without expressing your thoughts, then others will not realize what needs to be changed and get along slowly.

First of all, you are actually resistant to this mode of getting along, so why did you prefer to let this emotion consume you rather than express it? In the meantime, you have some concerns, perhaps because you are worried that your immediate expression will make the other party unhappy, or make the other party think that you are narrow-minded and care about every little thing. When we think too much and think of others first, we only hurt ourselves. We are not necessarily the best. We can't make everyone like us. Living in other people's comments and opinions will only make us very tired. Therefore, under the premise of not hurting others and yourself, it is best to choose to be the truest self and express it when you want.

Second, try to stick to your own principles. The general test results can only be used as a reference, not 100%, and even if the test results come out, it doesn't mean that we have always been like this. There is a saying that at the age of three, I look after my wife at the age of seven. Maybe many people think that the characters they create are like that, but they are not. Our character can be changed by the environment, the people we contact and the study. You feel that you are too kind and unprincipled, and you don't know how to protect yourself when being attacked by others. In fact, I don't know how to protect myself. There is no principle and it has nothing to do with kindness. This is more of a reason for you to avoid the problem. Some people are kind, but they can protect themselves well and know clearly what they want and pursue.

Third, accept yourself. Faced with the unequal treatment of others and inner resistance, most subjects will suppress their emotions, but never express them to each other. Is also troubled by this kind of self. In fact, many people are faced with this problem. This is because we are afraid of some things, such as losing friends and losing our good image in each other's hearts. In order to maintain what we are afraid of losing, we convince ourselves to accept it while consuming it internally. Think about it from another angle, others can accept all their actions, why can't we? If we can't accept the real us, then what is the need for us to maintain our relationship?