So now many parents are cultivating their children's social skills in addition to their learning ability, self-care ability and sports ability. Even if parents can't train them, children still need to socialize in their world.

Every child's personality and ability are different, and their social performance is also different. Some children are loved, some have few friends, and some are unwilling to socialize, afraid of contact with others, or become bullies that no one wants to talk to.

1, help children "shun things"

There will always be bumps in the interaction between children. Parents come to make excuses for their children in order to calm things down as soon as possible. "He is still a child and has never experienced anything." But this sentence is actually evading responsibility. Don't admit mistakes, don't correct them, and always make excuses for yourself. Your child's social circle will certainly become narrower and narrower, and other people's parents and friends of the same age will leave you.

2. Help children choose friends

Parents have the final say on what friends their children make. What kind of children to play with is mostly considered by parents as adults. For example, look at the rich and the poor, look at the reputation of parents, look at the character of children, and even look at their origins.

More parents like to keep their children with "smart" children, and don't always "fool around". It is true that all people close to Zhu Zhechi are black people, and making friends with "smart" children will make their children develop academically, but parents should let their children know that everyone has their own weaknesses and strengths. Even if their children's friends are not as good as your children in some ways, the advantages of others are still worth learning. For example, it is great to be polite to others, to be considerate of others, and to know how to respect and care for the weak from an early age. Such children are also easy to mix with others.

3. "Talking" is communication.

Many parents simply think that children can talk when communicating. On the one hand, they think that language ability and glibness are all about communication. Whoever has a loud voice and a strong momentum will have the upper hand. In fact, shouting is no more imposing and convincing than speaking in a gentle tone. In children's communication, whether friendship can be maintained is the key to the problem, and getting along with others politely and peacefully is more acceptable to others. Etiquette needs to be cultivated from an early age.

So, if children want to have better social skills.

1, let children learn manners.

When getting along with others, proper etiquette is a bridge of communication. Therefore, parents should treat their children as adults when they are sensible. At ordinary times, we should teach him some manners, and let the children know what to pay attention to when dealing with people. This is actually slowly cultivating children's life literacy. In the process of cultivating children, parents should set an example and encourage children to be polite.

2. Correctly guide children to overcome shyness and cowardice.

The research shows that about 1 1 ~ 15% of children tend to be too shy, and severe criticism makes children's shyness more and more serious. When children are seven or eight years old, they stutter for a while. If the mother forcibly corrects it, it will make the stuttering more serious. Facts have proved that any threatening behavior, such as scolding, satire, sarcasm or nagging, not only does not help the child at all, but will make him shrink back and turn him from shyness into a serious psychological obstacle.

Parents can tell their children not to care about other people's ideas when they speak, just as mindless dolls. Give children more opportunities to express themselves. Encourage her to perform on stage and take part in the speech contest. As long as the manuscript is memorized and the child can play normally, self-confidence can be established, thus improving shyness. Even if you fail and lose people, don't over-expand. Tell him that autumn is just a memorial.

3. Cultivate children's sports hobbies

Sports is a kind of collective activity that directly contacts and competes with people. So no matter what kind of sports, as long as there are two or more people involved, there will be more opportunities to contact with others, and it is easy to find like-minded friends. Therefore, in life, parents had better let their children participate in some sports activities. In this way, children's physical fitness can be improved, and secondly, their communicative competence can be cultivated.