For rational people, the brain dominates life; for emotional people, the heart dominates life. I have always been dominated by my heart, but my heart has always been at a loss. Before college, I focused solely on studying for college. I had nothing to focus on except textbooks and teaching materials. At that time, my mind was closed. After my father's car accident, he was entangled in various conflicts in the family and blamed himself for not being able to shoulder the burden of building a family together. At that time, his heart was clogged. From the county seat to the city of Guangzhou, my footsteps cannot keep up with my soul, and my heart is in chaos. I really want to settle this "heart", but the harder I try, the worse it gets. It seems that I am always at odds with others, and between myself and myself.

I accidentally saw "Let the Heart Be Quiet" at the book shopping center. The four characters "Let the Heart Be Quiet" captured my heart and I bought it immediately. After buying it, it was put away in a shelf. After returning from loan, the book was left undisturbed. One sleepless night, I suddenly opened this book. The card, the three-line message, touched my heart: It’s time to read this book! So this book and the people who have read it accompany me during sleepless nights.

What Krishnamurti said over and over again is "know yourself, know yourself in relationships, and know yourself by observing the present moment." Zhuangzi summed it up for him with "Xin Zhai" , but it is his repetition that time and time again guides me to use subtraction to face the problems of life. Zhuangzi said, "When you catch a fish, you forget your trap; when you are satisfied, you forget your words." Krishnamurti has always advocated that abandoning methods and goals, and letting nature take its course is the method.

That day, when I called my mother, she complained that her younger brother was disobedient. I interrupted her chatter and unconsciously criticized her for worrying too much. After hanging up the phone, I suddenly felt very uneasy. I called again and my neighbor's aunt answered. It turned out that after hanging up the phone, my mother burst into tears, which led my aunt to find out. I also remembered the scene many years ago when my mother sat on the ground and cried bitterly because she lost a hen. How could mother do this? Why not consider the impact of crying like this? How are we sisters going to support ourselves in our old age? A baby loses its father or mother, a middle-aged husband loses its husband, how difficult a mother’s life is! My sister's complaints about my mother...all kinds of scenes and thoughts filled my heart, which made me extremely irritable. I woke up suddenly at night, and all the scenes during the day replayed in my mind, making my heart even more restless. I opened the book, "Don't imagine, don't try hard to listen, just listen." Yes, my mother's nagging and crying are just her. As a reaction to the world, I just listen. I don’t need to change her thoughts or her behavior, nor do I need to explain to her that children have grown up and have their own world. I just need to listen to her chatter, no Explaining without criticizing, accepting or rejecting, I played her words again like a movie, and I heard that she just wanted to find someone to listen to her rambling words. These words filled her, and no one listened, which made her feel very uncomfortable. When she talked to her children, she was either interrupted, refuted, or ignored. She was lonely and helpless... I gradually fell asleep while listening. The next day I called my mother again, just to listen, to listen to her talk about whose children were filial and whose children were not, to listen to her talk about her brother's disobedience, and her sister's temper, and to listen to her talk about how she wanted me to be by her side. She said what she was busy with... This was the first time for me to abandon "me" and chat with my mother. The sense of isolation caused by being separated from my mother since childhood seemed to be gone, and the sense of rejection caused by differences in thinking in the past was gone. For the first time, I experienced the flow of emotions between my mother and myself.

To know yourself, you can only know yourself in relationship. I felt very comfortable during this exchange with my mother. I began to notice and review behavioral patterns in my interactions with others. I became aware of my thought patterns in relationships: either rushing to respond (agreeing vs. disagreeing), or remaining silent for fear of making a mistake. Behind both models are using thoughts to deal with the present, rather than using experience and integration to deal with the present. Krishnamurti said that "knowledge and thoughts hinder growth" (roughly speaking), yes, knowledge and thoughts are often not conducive to the harmony of interpersonal relationships, and are not conducive to understanding oneself, and can also lead to mental confusion. And a peaceful heart is like a free-flowing abyss, quiet but not resting, flexible and fresh. Knowing oneself is the beginning of meditation.

Abandon the past, don't think about the future, and live in the present - at this moment, feel and experience, and keep the mind and brain in an empty but not empty state, so that you can deal with people and affairs well and make yourself relaxed and comfortable. I try to make myself act like this.

Eliminating Fear: When the fax machine or printer breaks down at work, I let it take its course. I am no longer afraid of replacing parts, repairing, or being criticized by my colleagues (in fact, many times, the comments are imaginary), and I no longer worry about faxing to the superior fax office over and over again. Bad attitude. When sending a fax, just send it seriously, pause for a while if it fails, and try again after a while. The fax machine seems to work much more smoothly. Eliminate stubbornness in drafting documents. If certain ideas and wording are denied or criticized by the leader, then change them according to the leader's intention. After all, the leader's thinking is closer to that of the superior leader and no longer insists on the use of words. To eliminate internal friction when chatting with colleagues, just listen carefully and speak slowly. Even if you say something wrong, don’t dwell on where you went wrong for a long time. How should you respond? Yes, let them hide the secrets in their words. , I can’t understand what’s being said in seconds, so just let it take its course. Eliminate the assumption that your husband is giving orders in a long way, and then listen to the kindness in his words; he said that working overtime and socializing in bars are for us and the family, so I will help him spend money with the kids (haha). Others respond to them too slowly and late. They no longer wait persistently and no longer wonder why. Eliminate desires. Old friends become increasingly distant, and it is difficult to cultivate new friends. This is caused by my slow-tempered personality. In fact, the path of life is more and more about getting along with yourself. The salary is lower in the comparison species, but in the comparison species, you have free time. A lot, isn't it?

Insomnia is no longer a torment. The clutter that filled my heart during the day is washed away and washed away by the flowing water of books, and my heart becomes clean and quiet.

After I finished reading the book, I sorted it out for myself. It turned out that I was quite simple, but I made it complicated with my heart, and in turn my heart was messed up by it. "Let the Heart Be Quiet" has temporarily made my mind a lot quieter and cleaner, and made my work and life a lot smoother. But this state does not come from nature, it is achieved through hard work. This is not in line with Krishnamurti's inaction. After the book is dusted, will the mind return to its old state? So let this book continue to be your pillow!