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Children’s social problems

When it comes to social problems, parents must be familiar with it. Life in the adult world is almost always accompanied by communication. After all, our society is gregarious. And this ability to communicate is actually cultivated and formed by us in childhood. For this reason, the development of social skills is very important for children.

As children grow up, they will be affected by two kinds of social relationships: "vertical" and "horizontal". "Vertical" refers to parent-child interactions, and "horizontal" refers to children's interactions with peers.

Children will develop "peer" relationships into friendships through interactions with peers of the same age. According to research by W. Damon, the development of friendship between the ages of 5 and teenagers is divided into three stages:

One: 5~7 game partners.

Two: 8~11 children think that friends are people who can help them and share something with them.

Three: Over the age of 12, friendship gradually develops and tends to the standards defined by adults.

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Parents’ training methods

1. Create an equal social environment

In the process of interactions between children and peers, parents The first thing to grasp is to put children and peers on an "equal" position. In daily life, parents may often obey their children and unconsciously cultivate self-centered thinking patterns in their children. It is also very likely that the child will have the thought of "loving his child very much" and be afraid that his child will be wronged. When the child has conflicts with his peers, he will not be able to view the incident objectively and impartially, and will appear to be partial. These are not conducive to children developing correct concepts of communication.

2. Create opportunities for cooperation and mutual assistance

Games are one of the main ways for children to engage in outdoor activities, especially role-playing games, which are an enduring "popular" among children of the same age. "Game format. In games, children need to learn to listen to other people's opinions and understand other people's opinions and intentions. Children will build friendships through discussion and solving a problem together. In this process, children can also exercise their perspective-taking ability and get rid of the "centering" of their thoughts.

3. Be good at listening to children’s opinions

In fact, making friends is a spontaneous and intimate matter for children. Therefore, the children should decide who they want to make friends with. , parents should comply with their children's choices. Every child has a different temperament after birth. Some children are lively and some are introverted. Parents should not use their own subjective assumptions to forcibly interfere with their children's friendships. The "examination" that parents conduct for their children must be based on the child's on the basis of wishes. Therefore, communicating more, listening more, and understanding more have become issues that parents should pay attention to.