To what extent is the chat between middle-aged men and women considered ambiguous?

To what extent is the chat between middle-aged men and women considered ambiguous? Middle-aged men and women are generally married. It is best for married people not to have ambiguous conversations with the opposite sex, as this may cause a relationship crisis. Next, I will take you through the relevant content of how ambiguous the chat between middle-aged men and women is. How ambiguous is the chat between middle-aged men and women 1

1. Chat involving sexual issues

Even if married men and women are married, they should have their own social circle, so chatting between men and women becomes an important evidence for judging cheating. Sometimes the parties involved do not feel that the chat content touches the restricted area and is already ambiguous. For example, when it comes to sexual happiness after marriage, sometimes you don’t know who to talk to to avoid embarrassment, but when you communicate with the opposite sex, for example, ask the other person what he or she would do if they are similarly confused, or consult the other person about sexual issues. . In fact, this has touched upon the morality of marriage. Sex is a private issue, and you will feel embarrassed talking about it with people you trust or are close to. Then when you talk to the opposite sex, it is definitely pornographic behavior.

2. Take the initiative to talk about small details

Generally speaking, only people who have a good relationship with you will talk about some details of life. Sometimes it is to let others know more about your life, sometimes it is to explain, and sometimes it is to let others understand your situation of not replying to messages for a long time. Always sharing trivial things with each other means that you have regarded her (him) as a trustworthy or close person, so such chat is a kind of ambiguity. Just imagine who would be willing to listen to you and reply to you all the time about these little things. They will only care about these things after the ambiguity arises. So when you find that you have started chatting about these small and detailed things with the opposite sex, you should stop in time to avoid ambiguity.

3. Care extremely about the other person’s feelings

In life, when getting along with your family and friends, you will care about their feelings and not touch their restricted areas. . Therefore, you care about the other person's feelings because the other person is someone you care about and you have a close relationship. So when you are chatting with a person, being extremely concerned about the other person's feelings means that your feelings for that person are more or less unusual. At this time, it is an obvious ambiguity. And the extent is not shallow. You are married, you have your own family and your own living environment. Home is the warmest place and the bottom line cannot be crossed. To establish a sense of responsibility. Don't let this negligible ambiguity affect your mind and end up doing something unethical and unjust. The only one you will regret is yourself.

4. Address each other intimately

It is unavoidable to address each other in a chat. Normal friends are basically called by their first name or their last name in small letters. You only use sweet names when you call your lover, such as: dear, baby, my little friend, etc. In your heart, the people you love are treasures, so you call them different from others. So when you are chatting with the opposite sex and find that the title is too intimate, this is a sign of ambiguity, which means that you have begun to betray your marriage and become unfaithful. Therefore, we must pay special attention not to overdo it, but to be appropriate and moderate. It is good to have your own circle of friends, but it is important to remain honest and dedicated to your lover. To what extent is the chat between middle-aged men and women considered ambiguous? 2

If there are these behaviors between middle-aged men and women, it can be judged as ambiguous

1. Saying intimate words

No matter how good the relationship between opposite sexes is, don’t always say ambiguous words.

It may be that the speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. Ambiguous words are more often said to the person next to you than to outsiders.

In an emotional regulation program, there is such a couple.

The wife couldn't stand it. Her husband always had very ambiguous messages on his cell phone. This was not the first time. They quarreled so much that they wanted to divorce.

What makes the wife even more angry is that the husband thinks that it is not a big deal to send 520, 1314 and call baby to a woman with whom he has nothing to do.

Because her husband always did this to other women, the wife began to lose hope in this marriage.

She said frustratedly: "No matter what I do, he is still like this and still unwilling to change."

The husband is not aware of the irritating things. He is still trying to defend himself feebly for his own mistakes: "Who doesn't have one or two friends of the opposite sex, and she hasn't really betrayed her? She is too sensitive."

This passage is very similar to his. People who didn't know him were furious, let alone his wife.

In this society, it is normal for everyone to have friends of the opposite sex.

However, no matter how close friends of the opposite sex get, they will never say ambiguous words to each other, let alone send them red envelopes with special numbers.

Love is exclusive. Having friends of the opposite sex between husband and wife will not affect their relationship. What really affects the relationship is saying cross-border words and making ambiguous jokes with the opposite sex, which has long since transcended the relationship of friends.

If your partner is angry and blames your partner for being too petty and fussy, such behavior will only bring deep harm to the other person.

In marriage, husband and wife have a very strong possessive desire for each other. If you say the same thing to a friend of the opposite sex as you say to your wife, this is very inappropriate.

What's more, saying things to a friend of the opposite sex that you have never said to your wife is even more outrageous.

Such behavior shows that he does not love you at all, but only bases his selfishness on the dignity of his partner.

If he does this, then in the future life, being with him will only seem to be inseparable.

2. Tell each other about the private affairs of the marriage

In marriage, conflicts between husband and wife should not always be disclosed to outsiders. Because issues between husband and wife are considered private between two people.

Some people may think that there is nothing wrong with them, and they think that friends of the opposite sex have a good relationship with them and can be honest with each other.

But one's frankness is not the other's frankness. What is truly frank to each other should be friendship, not matters between husband and wife.

If you talk too much, the other person will start to think too much. Even if he gives you just the right amount of comfort, you begin to become mentally dependent on him.

I once saw such a story.

Evian once had a marriage, but the reason it ended was not because of feelings, but because of WeChat.

She and her ex-husband were from the same hometown. They worked in the same unit. Because their hometowns were in the same place and they were very close to each other, they quickly developed feelings for each other, established a relationship, and finally got married.

But after the marriage, Evian became dissatisfied with the marriage because it was too dull for her to adapt to.

Therefore, she always complained to her friends of the opposite sex. He was more mature and would give a solution every time after listening to Evian.

Since she always talks to the other person, Evian believes that this friend of the opposite sex knows her better than her husband and understands her feelings better.

So, she expressed her thoughts tactfully, but she did not expect to be decisively rejected by the other party: I just treat you as a friend.

The husband also began to realize that Evian's heart was not with him, so he chose to divorce.

The alienation of a relationship may not be due to saying too little, but precisely because of saying too much.

When you chat with a friend of the opposite sex, you will unknowingly compare him with the other person, and you will also develop feelings for the friend of the opposite sex.

It is easy for people of the opposite sex to have feelings when they get too close. If you don’t deliberately keep the boundaries, the relationship will break through the bottom line sooner or later.

3. Contact often late at night

There is a saying, don’t make any decisions late at night.

Because late at night is the most emotional time for a person, and he is most likely to have negative emotions. If a person appears at this time, he is likely to become dependent on him.

If two people always chat late at night, over time, they will naturally have ambiguous emotions towards each other.

Yang Liu talked to a friend and said that her husband had become more and more cold to her recently. She was always bored at home every day and didn't want to say a word. And he didn't seem to sleep well during this period and couldn't get up every morning.

My husband had never been like this before. He would get up early every day and go to work leisurely.

The woman's intuition told Yang Liu that something was definitely wrong with her husband, but she just didn't know it.

So, Yang Liu took advantage of her husband's bathing time to look through his phone and found that her husband always chatted with friends of the opposite sex late at night. This had been going on for some time.

They talked about everything, even marriage, and Yang Liu obviously felt that their distance had become dangerous.

Yang Liu tried to communicate with him, but her husband remained stubborn and refused to cut off contact with friends of the opposite sex.

Studies have shown that late-night chatting between opposite sexes generally only occurs between lovers, or between men and women who are not yet together.

No matter what happens between friends, they should contact each other at the appropriate time and keep an appropriate distance to avoid causing trouble to the other party.

A true friend will not fade away easily even if we don’t keep in touch.

On the contrary, they will stand in your perspective, understand your approach, and will not make it difficult for you.

Therefore, drawing clear boundaries between opposite sexes is a sign of respect for your partner, and it is also the bottom line of marriage.

Of course, if these behaviors occur between middle-aged men and women, it can be judged as ambiguous.

Marriage is something that takes a lifetime to manage. We will all encounter such situations in marriage. For example, your partner is too ambiguous with the opposite sex. For example, you don’t know how to deal with such a situation and what to do. How to keep your marriage safe.

In fact, if you can learn some marital psychology, when you encounter these situations again, you will have a clear mind and direction, and know how to face it calmly, and even more Protect your marriage well.

If you want to protect your marriage, you must draw clear boundaries with the opposite sex and avoid doing things without a sense of proportion. This is the best way to deal with it. What actions between opposite sexes are considered ambiguous

1. I always want to hold your hand. But he hasn't done it yet because he keeps moving his hands, thinking whether he should hold your hand or not. He is someone who always has the desire to hold your hand. They will definitely pay attention to your feelings in their hearts. Both men and women should know this.

2. When chatting in front of you, I like to tell some colorful jokes. Men and women may be embarrassed to tell those jokes, but the other person is willing to tell them in front of you. More often than not, he wants to deepen his relationship with you, because he feels that he needs to act tentatively in the beginning in front of the person he likes.

The two of them behaved in an ambiguous manner

1. Touching the ears

This kind of action is very private and ambiguous, so don’t bother me. Say it. This can show how much a person dotes on you. It seems that only your mother would touch your ears when you were little. Therefore, if you are getting along with friends of the opposite sex, do not behave like this, especially if you are not interested in the other person. If such behavior occurs again, it will be too easy for people to misunderstand!

2. Inadvertently looking at each other and then smiling ambiguously with tacit understanding in their eyes

In fact, if a man and a woman have an ambiguous relationship, even if they are hanging out with friends, or they are old Sticking together, or deliberately keeping a distance that can be felt by others, but the two of them have a tacit understanding of everything they do.

Sometimes they look at each other inadvertently, but the eyes are very understanding, and then they smile ambiguously. That feeling is really embarrassing for others to see, but the person involved does not know it and thinks that this relationship between them This behavior is very normal.

3. Each other has a unique title

Each of you has given each other a unique title. Only the two of you can call each other. In fact, getting along like this is really sweet. There is no difference between young lovers, so if you are just friends of the opposite sex, then you must pay attention to these small details. The relationship without distance is not the relationship between friends, but the closest partnership.

4. Always think about the other person

When encountering difficulties, the first thing you do is not look for your partner, but immediately consider your friends of the opposite sex, and not just once or twice. My friends of the opposite sex are a bit too much. No matter what happens, I always tell my friends of the opposite sex first. Do you think it doesn’t matter at this time?

5. Frequently send sexual words

If a friend of the opposite sex is more ambiguous, he often wants to send some sexual words to the other person to let the other person know his feelings. mind. Just like some specious words, revealing one's thoughts from the side. Maybe the other party will send pictures expressing their love. Then this kind of relationship is very ambiguous. If neither party has the intention to like the other party, then don't be ambiguous. This is not good for both parties and will delay the other party. .

Ambiguous behavior of the opposite sex

1. Frequently eating and shopping together

Even if the relationship between opposite-sex friends is very pure, after a long period of time, After getting along, the relationship will also become ambiguous, especially if two people always eat and go shopping together, the relationship between the two people will be very close, because this is actually something that couples do, but some friends of the opposite sex do the same By doing this, misunderstandings can easily arise. If friends of the opposite sex can go shopping together, you will gradually get to know each other during the shopping process, and you will also open your hearts. In the end, it will be difficult for you to control your emotions, and you may fall in love with each other.

2. Sometimes there is an invisible tacit understanding

In fact, if the two people remain ambiguous for a long time, they will gradually form a lot of tacit understanding, and this kind of tacit understanding may even affect their relationship. I don't even realize it, I just do a lot of tacit things in my life involuntarily. You will find that they have many similar hobbies and habits, and even their speech and conversation are becoming more and more similar. These invisible tacit understandings are definitely not coincidences or developed overnight. They must be intimate. After contact, a tacit understanding will be formed.

3. Reply to chat instantly or make dirty jokes

Even if you only have a little time, you will chat with the opposite sex, no matter when, where, or what you do, as long as the other party makes it When I receive a message, I must reply quickly, and when chatting, they often make some dirty jokes and use some dirty emoticons. Because we often chat together and are used to having each other in our daily lives, this kind of behavior has already exceeded the scope of friends. A gentle look or an inadvertent movement between each other may make the two of them fall in love. In my heart, as time goes by, I will become more and more passionate.

4. Give each other a very affectionate name

It is okay for friends to give each other exclusive nicknames and nicknames, but for friends of the opposite sex, in terms of nicknames, It's best not to use a title that's too special or exclusive. If he has a very popular nickname, then just call him that nickname. If you are creative and give him a nickname that only the two of you can have, it proves that the relationship between you is definitely not as simple as ordinary friends. In the eyes of outsiders, you are no longer ordinary friends.

What kind of physical contact is ambiguous?

1. Always stand very close to you. Two people who like each other will cherish each other after all. One person is willing to do it at any time. Standing closer and closer to you, thinking about the person next to you. In my heart, I also want to have a deeper contact with you, so this kind of physical contact can be regarded as long-distance contact, and it can also quickly heat up the relationship between two people.

2. I am willing to touch your cheek every time I see you blush. Or when you have an eyebrow expression on your face, you are always willing to touch your face with your own hands. Being able to have such physical contact means that as a man and a woman, the other person should have you in their heart, and you are not particularly rejecting the other person in your heart. .