1, we should have a correct attitude, cultivate a healthy awareness of communication and dilute each other's gender awareness. If you think naively, you will naturally be natural and graceful when communicating.
2. Make extensive contact and avoid individual contact. The degree of contact should be shallow rather than deep. Extensive contact helps us to know more about the opposite sex, have a basic overall grasp of the opposite sex and learn to distinguish the opposite sex. Some people seem to be a very attractive little handsome guy, but they will feel that he is flashy in communication. Some people have excellent academic performance, but they are arrogant and bossy. If you only engage in a limited and small-scale personal communication, you will inevitably "see the trees but not the forest", and your understanding of the opposite sex is not only limited, but also biased. Therefore, it is very necessary for us to make use of the opportunity of every group activity to communicate consciously in a wider interpersonal range.
3. the relationship should be sparse, not far away. At arm's length, grasp the psychological distance between the two people, and eliminate the contact that makes the other person feel too close and causes emotional fluctuations. If we find each other's signs are wrong in communication, we should adjust our attitude to make our communication return to a calm and calm state. This is more conducive to our growth.
The benefits of communication between boys and girls can at least be shown in the following aspects:
1, intelligence. There are differences in intelligence types between boys and girls. Boys and girls often learn from each other and influence each other, so they can learn from each other's strengths and improve their intellectual activity level and learning efficiency.
2. Emotionally. The emotions in interpersonal communication are rich and subtle, and the emotional exchanges and feelings obtained in heterosexual communication are often not available to same-sex friends. This is because there are differences in emotional characteristics between the two sexes. Girls' emotions are delicate and gentle, full of compassion and calming power. In this way, boys' distress and frustration can be comforted by girls' peaceful mood and sympathetic eyes; Boys' emotional exposure, rough expansion, enthusiasm and strength can eliminate girls' worries and doubts.
3. Personality. Only in the same-sex communication, our psychological development tends to be narrow, which is far less than the multiple communication with the same sex and the opposite sex to enrich our personality. A variety of interpersonal communication can make different personalities penetrate each other, complement each other, make personality more open-minded, enrich emotional experience and be stronger. A psychologist in Bulgaria once said: The real strength of a man is his fortitude with a hint of femininity.
We have all had the experience that we generally feel happier, more enthusiastic, often play harder and do better than activities in which only the same sex participates. This is the "opposite sex effect" in psychology. When the opposite sex participates in activities, the need for psychological closeness between the opposite sex is met, thus obtaining different degrees of pleasure and stimulating inner enthusiasm and creativity. Although healthy sexual intercourse has many benefits for our growth, we should grasp the scale of sexual intercourse and prevent "excess" and "deficiency".