Hormones and sex drive are the first and most important elements of courtship behavior.

To put it bluntly, people who like you will usually want to sleep with you. Unless he has mental or physical disease.

So, I have to answer this question as "How to tell if a boy is approaching you just to sleep with you, or if he is approaching you for a long-term relationship."

Men who aim for sex will have some similarities. These are also some of the tricks they will use in the process of pursuing the result of "sex".

So whether a man has these *** similarities, and whether he uses those deceptive tricks, has become the standard for our judgment.

Here we have made a 100-point scoring tool for you to help you have a basis for screening men.

The first commonality between the scumbag routines is: it’s called screening mode.

What does it mean? When ordinary boys chase girls, they usually identify a girl, then get to know her, and approach her in a targeted manner. In the jargon, we call it sniper mode.

Men who approach girls sexually oriented are different. Their pursuit is not targeted, because to them, it doesn't matter who the girl is, what matters is whether they can sleep with her. Therefore, unlike ordinary boys, their pursuits are more inclined to cast the net over a large area and focus on catching fish.

Such a boy must have one or more ways to meet strange girls. For example, APPs and dating websites are keen on going to nightclubs and participating in local dating activities as singles. These things are their way to obtain female resources. Through these ways, they can quickly get to know a large number of girls and select those who are easy to be tricked into sleeping with them, thus achieving their goals.

This is their first commonality, the screening mode.

Every time a man has a way to meet a strange girl, he will score 5 points, with a total score of 15 points. Work needs do not count.

The second thing all scumbags have in common is their hookup routine, which is called Jinnuo Liang.

What does it mean to get higher? To put it bluntly, it is gradual physical contact. You will find that when many girls meet a scumbag, they will say, "I don't know what happened." They feel like they just naturally slept with him. This is the routine of being promoted by Jinno.

When a scumbag goes on a date with a girl, he or she may touch her head the first time, hold her hand the second time, then kiss her face and mouth, and then go to bed. The size difference between each physical contact will not be particularly large, nor will it be very abrupt. This is a way for them to get girls used to being touched by him and slowly let go of their psychological defenses.

In order to realize this method, men who have sex as their purpose will always revolve around women, whether their words or actions. A normal man, on the other hand, will revolve around a woman's emotional response to him.

For normal men, all physical contact is usually aimed at women’s feelings; while for scumbag men, all physical contact is aimed at women’s bodies.

What does it mean to use emotions as a purpose, and what does it mean to use the body as a purpose? For example, one day, you were in a restaurant, your eyes met, the lighting was beautiful, and he suddenly took your hand and confessed to you. This is called emotional purpose.

While you were waiting for the food to be served in the restaurant, he suddenly said that he wanted to read your palm, then took your hand, and even wanted to interlock your fingers. This is called using your body as a purpose. When we first met, he said that you were thinner and fatter than before, so he hugged or pinched your waist. This is called using your body for physical purposes.

Physical contact for physical purposes will be worth 5 points each time. Full score 20.

The third similarity is called pre-selection.

It means that they will express or hint to you that there are other girls around me who like me, and I am very popular. This gives girls a sense of urgency to hurry up and confirm the relationship with him before others take him away.

In addition, pre-selectability also implies that, look, so many women like me, then I must be a high-quality stock.

Normal men who have no routine are different. They are afraid that girls will think they are carefree, and they are afraid that girls will think they are not dedicated enough. Instead, they say as little as possible about friends of the opposite sex and beauties, and they will not mention it if they can. carry.

So, when a man is in the pursuit stage, every time there is a woman who expresses or implies that you are interested in him, score 5 points. Full score 15 points.

Oh my god, sister, people of the opposite sex who have experienced life and death together during the earthquake do not count.

The fourth similarity is that time is cyclical.

The average boy pursues girls on a fixed schedule, and he can’t wait to chat and date you every day. Scumbags are different, because they are likely to be flirting with multiple girls at the same time. Some girls were about to be conquered by him, so he would hold on tighter. In the past week or even half a month, I would concentrate on seduce these girls who were almost done. After I got it, I was no longer interested in it, so I went back to flirt with the remaining girls who hadn't gotten it yet or the girls I had just met.

Their behavior pattern will show a certain periodicity when it comes to time. Suddenly I disappeared for a few days, and my contact with him became inexplicably less. He shows up again a few days later and continues to flirt with you as if nothing happened.

This kind of cyclical feeling of hot and cold will be scored with 5 points each time, with a maximum score of 15 points. If you continue to do this after having sex and still ask for sex, you will be directly deducted 15 points.

The fifth similarity is called social safety distance.

Ordinary boys have finally found a girl, or they have a closer relationship with the girl they like more. They will be more eager to let people in his social circle know, and they also want to enter the girl's social circle. Firstly, they hope to provide some support for his pursuit through comments in the social circle. On the other hand, they declare their sovereignty, this girl is mine, and other people should not make mistakes.

But scumbags are just the opposite. They are unwilling to integrate your social circles. Because he abandoned you later, if the social circles overlap, your friends will attack him morally, and his friends will also disapprove of him. So they try to keep a certain safe distance from you in the social circle.

Concerning this item, every time he fails to see your friends or lets you see his friends even though he could, he will score 5 points, with a total score of 15.

The last item is called the declaration of getting out of bed.

This is an attribute unique to scumbag men. Because they are approaching you for sex and have no thought of being responsible. So before going to bed, they will plant some statements about leaving you in the future or not being responsible for going to bed.

For example, some people will say, I think sex and love can be separated. This is a disclaimer for cheating on other women in the future.

For example, I think career is the first priority for men. I don’t like people to send me messages or interrupt me when I’m working. This is setting the stage for neglecting you after sex.

For another example, I like you very much, but I feel that many of you are unstable now. I am worried about whether there will be any uncertainties in the future, but I cannot control myself from getting close to you. This is clearly paving the way for a future breakup.

For this last item, as long as a man makes any statement about getting out of bed, 20 points will be recorded.

With this 100-point scoring tool, you can rate a man yourself.

A score of 80 or above can be considered a high-risk species, almost like a scumbag.

With a score of 60 or above, he may be a semi-scumbag who mixes long-term and short-term choices. When he meets a girl who is super satisfied, he will consider falling in love and abandon the others after going to bed.

With a score of 40 or above, he may be an experienced guy or a good at flirting with girls, but he is not necessarily a scumbag. You can go further through the three-stage process of screening men that I mentioned in the live broadcast. Understand and filter.

With a score below 40, these people are safe for the time being. As long as your parent-child uncertainty is not too high and your own initiative hints are not too strong, you can consider becoming a target.