He is still single. Since I met him, I have often listened to his anecdotes about blind dates. When he was 34 or 35, he often made fun of his "wonderful" experience.
This year, he is 40 years old. He told me that he had recently gone on a blind date again. As expected, it didn't work: because the woman thought he was a big fat man!
In all fairness, from my perspective as a Northeastern, my friend's figure should only be called "strong".
He 180+, weight 180 kg. He is big and strong, but he is still very different from the word "big fat man"
After detailed inquiry, it turns out that the girl on blind date is only 150 and weighs 80 kg. ...
These two comparisons must be because he is fat!
I said half jokingly that you should go to the north. Your figure is a standard figure in the north. He smiled in agreement.
But it is a pity that he is in the south, and the reason for this figure is the "rejection" excuse he often faces.
After dating for many years, he is most afraid of two kinds of girls: the first is "princess disease" and the second is "Dance Academy".
Princess disease is easy for everyone to understand, just like to let the other person guess her thoughts, stick together all the time, and "work" with passion. My friend thinks: I am old and can't do this anymore.
As for the girls in the Dance Academy, they get along very well. From time to time, they will take the initiative to ask you out to visit the park, watch movies and exercise. But after a while, they suddenly lost contact. After asking around, they got the answer: I am not suitable for you!
The friend sighed: "I just want to find a comfortable one."
As a woman, if I go out on a blind date and meet a 40-year-old unmarried single young man, I may guess through perineum investigation: Is it gay? What's wrong? Is your personality distorted?
This is human nature. In the lost 20 years, you have a proper job, a house and never been married-you feel good, but you have been single, which always makes people feel.
But my friend, I know him very well: he likes tall and plump beauty, he is patient, he has a good personality and he has a wide range of friends.
However, he just didn't find the other half!
Maybe you will have one or two such friends around you. I can't say why, but I've been single.
Speaking of his standards, it's really not too high.
He repeatedly stressed that his goal is clear: easy to get along with, not tossing, and lively personality. It is also important to let "eye contact" fall in love at first sight.
But it has been dragged on until now.
All his friends are worried about him and feel wronged for him. So many older girls cry every day without a good man, but they ignore him.
Therefore, the people who introduced him to the object were simply "endless". I also looked through my circle of friends and showed him some photos from time to time.
After dating for a long time, he was a little numb, but at the same time he was a little relieved.
"I want to get married is very simple. But what's the point of quarreling all the time after marriage, or even playing with each other in the cold war? "
I think what he said is very reasonable, and I can't help but nod my head and say yes.
"I just want to find someone who is comfortable with me. I'm over 40 years old and I can't move. It's hard for me to change myself too much. Everyone gets along rationally, gets along rationally, understands each other, and it is best to reach the level of mutual affection! "
He still has a clear idea about the future.
Studies have shown that even the happiest marriage in the world, both husband and wife have caused divorce many times-"running in for many years" is the consistent purpose of a plain and happy marriage.
However, what my friend wants is a one-step goal-to directly cross the series of steps of "getting along, approaching, quarreling, running-in, compromising, being dull ..." and reach the realm of "growing old with children". Is it a bit wishful thinking?
The tacit understanding and cooperation between husband and wife and lovers, you know, I know and you know, are often obtained after countless collisions of pots and pans, rough running-in of blushing neck and bone-breaking quarrels.
If you are unwilling to pay the "price" of happiness because you "adapt and enjoy" the single life, I am afraid you will never find the other half.
So there are some internal reasons for being single, and we can't all look for it from the outside!