I love you and it has nothing to do with you.

Since you can’t let go or let go, then take his shadow and grow together.

01

There are too many people in this world who cannot be loved. You are not the first, nor the last.

It is really difficult to forget someone, because he will appear in your mind all the time and flash in any corner around you.

But the way to heal is never to forget, but to put it aside.

There is a line in the movie "Ashes of Time": When you can't have it, the only thing you can do is to make yourself not forget it.

In fact, the more you try every possible means to forget a person, the more often he will act with you. You will think of him all the time, and he will never get out of your mind.

Imagine your brain as a room filled with all kinds of things, and memories about your ex take up the largest area.

Don’t try to remove it from the room because it belongs in the room and you simply can’t.

Just keep it in a corner. Even if you see it occasionally, you will still feel sad and sad.

But you have to believe that time has a magical power. As the type and number of objects in your room increase, the proportion of the largest thing occupying the room will become smaller and smaller.

You didn’t forget it in the end, but you just didn’t remember it very much. Occasionally, you would look it up and look at it, and you would only sigh: That person is also a part of my life.

Then, you will find that there is such a thing in the room that reminds you of those times when you were in love, and you were happy after all.

02

Watching "The Swordsman", Linghu Chong is so dashing, but he still has a little junior sister that he can't forget. Watching "Passing Through Your World", Chen Mo, the meanest person in the city, also has an unforgettable Xiao Rong.

But later, Linghu Chong met Ren Yingying, and Chen Mo also met Yaoji.

Later on, although we were gone, there was me and another person who could be with us for a lifetime.

In this life, there are always some things that cannot be said, regrets that cannot be undone, distant places that cannot be reached, and lovers that cannot be forgotten.

We swore to forget and declared failure again and again. Emotions are like a scourge. The more you block them, the more they will surge in and turn the river upside down.

If we talk about a relationship, if we say let it go, let it go, and if we forget it, forget it, then there won’t be so many earth-shaking love stories in the past and present.

Can't ask for it, can't let it go, people are like this most of the time, so they never forget it. But precisely because of this, we live a more real and unforgettable life.

The person you once loved deeply is like a star in the vast night sky. He has carried the sweetness and pain that you cannot replicate. But the experiences and insights he brings to you will help you find the next person who loves you.

Time will eventually heal everything. Even if it cannot completely solve our problems, it can make the problems that bother us less important.

So, if you really can’t forget it, hide those unforgettable feelings in your memories. If you can't forget it, just remember it. Maybe if you remember it, then forget it.

03

When I was browsing Douyin, I saw this conversation:

A: Do you still remember him?

B: I don’t remember, I have forgotten it a long time ago.

A: I haven’t said who it is yet.

We really loved each other when we were together, and the vows we made to each other were true, but we were indeed lost for some reasons.

The streets we walked hand in hand, the stars we counted back to back, and every minute we spent together are not allowed to be forgotten.

It is impossible for us to completely forget a person, because the human brain is a human brain after all, and if the memory cannot be forgotten, it cannot be forgotten.

And as long as you once loved someone very much, it is impossible to forget.

So if someone asks me if I still remember him, I will smile lightly and say: How could I forget.

After all, that person and I have experienced the same life, and we have many similar memories, and he has already become a part of my life.

Acknowledge the past, accept his departure calmly, and learn to let yourself go a little bit, even if the process is difficult and long.

Why must you force yourself to forget someone you have loved with all your strength?

If you can’t forget it, just remember it gently. Remember him at his best. Remember that the normal state of life is not just one person who cannot love you. For the rest of your life, love others seriously.