As a parent, here’s what you need to do:

First, accept her emotions. If she can chat with you, it means there is no problem. If she can cry while chatting with you, it means she needs an outlet to vent.

At this time, just use it as an outlet for her to vent her emotions. Let her cry as much as she wants. You just need to hug her and pat her.

Secondly, start to have sex with her. For example, you can say: You used to have a good relationship with your friend, but now she has another friend who you have a good relationship with. You may feel left out and disliked, so you feel uncomfortable, right?

At this time, the child will definitely tell you that you are right, and it will be very uncomfortable.

Ask your child again, what do you think would make him feel better?

Guide children to consider this issue from their own perspective.

Next, you can tell your child that you had a similar experience when you were a child.

For example, you said that something like this has happened to you, and then the three of you decided to get together and sincerely talk about how the three of you can also build a friendship and become three friends.

After that, you can ask your child if she has any solution for this matter.

Perhaps, the child will tell his own way and work hard for it. Problems can also be solved.

If your child still says that she doesn’t want to be friends with them, then you should also support her and tell her that it is also important to listen to her inner voice. Because friendship cannot be forced.

Parents must remember that when it comes to relationships between children and their peers, there is only guidance, advice, support and help. Never overstep your authority.

Because in such a relationship, children continue to explore and be frustrated in order to grow.

You can understand if you think about how you grew up as a child.

I hope the above can help you. Wish you a happy life!

What she needs is not "enlightenment" but "love"!

Everyone may encounter this problem. Extroverted people will not become a shadow in their hearts. If someone borrows something, I want it. If I don’t come, I will not interact with him next time. Or have less contact with him. I myself may be careless. I often forget to return other people's things when I borrow them, and I'm not careful enough.

Introverted people always don’t want to bother asking, don’t want to open their mouths to borrow things from others, and don’t want others to borrow their own things. It’s annoying when others borrow their things. If the other person doesn’t return them, they don’t want to. When I ask questions, I always feel like I am trying to offend someone. It's always hard to come by in my heart. Those with a bad temper always blame others and may even get into quarrels. The relationship between classmates and friends is very tense. I feel more uncomfortable, and it even affects my study. This is obviously caused by my lack of sociability and not being broad-minded enough. How to enlighten? When others lend me something, I give it to them, but I must remember to urge the other person to return it. If I need to borrow something from others, I must be bold enough to do so, but I must be polite and have a grateful heart. As long as the other party is not so stingy, doesn't differentiate between you and me, and is mentally balanced, nothing will happen. In other words, classmates and friends can give and go. They don’t care about each other, or both parties think that they are not at a disadvantage, they can help each other, complement each other, and everything is fine. This is the best way to get along. Sometimes, if you suffer a little loss when getting along, you shouldn't care. As long as you don't hold a grudge, that's fine.

My daughter is in the third grade of elementary school and has the same problem. Here is how I enlighten her:

From time to time, I ask her who she is best friends with at school, and tell her that good friends are not A lot, two or three are enough! Not every classmate has the same hobbies and interests as you. It’s normal to have disagreements and make noises when you play together. Don’t take it too seriously.

It doesn’t matter if some classmates don’t play with you occasionally. There are one or two good friends to accompany you. That's enough! Don’t you often lose your temper and not play with so and so [face covering]

First of all, I think you have a very good parent-child relationship with your daughter. Her telling you is also a signal for you to ask for help. You can try Find some books to guide her through stories.

My daughter is now 6 years old. When she was 5 years old, there was a girl in the kindergarten who always disliked her. We go to kindergarten in a community and live in the front and back rows of our house. I usually play downstairs after school. Every time the girl shares everything with everyone but not my daughter, my daughter will not refuse if she takes the initiative to ask for whatever she brings.

I bought the picture book "The Book of Friends" and told her about it, telling her that some people can become friends, and friends must give to each other. It contains pictures that vividly explain the definition of friends.

There is also a book "How to Cultivate Children's Social Abilities" that I recommend you read. It contains practical methods to teach parents how to train their children to use some vocabulary in interpersonal communication.

This book introduces an educational method called "I Can Solve Problems", which is the ICPS technique.

1. Ask what specifically happened.

2. Let the children be aware of their own feelings after the incident and the feelings of others during the incident. Parents should not judge or label the incident. Ask her to tell her how she felt when these things happened. For example, she said she was distressed, specifically why and how she felt.

3. Don’t directly provide solutions to problems, but guide children to find solutions.

4. Let the children estimate the consequences of the solution. For example, in this situation, your daughter clearly feels uncomfortable and feels that her behavior makes her distressed. Can you think of a solution, how to communicate with her classmates, what is the worst outcome if you use this method, and can you bear it? wait.

Girls’ moods in school, especially in adolescence, are really affected by interpersonal relationships. It is a good thing that your daughter is willing to tell you about her sufferings and distress now. You can communicate with her more or seek help from the teacher. come on. I believe the problem can be solved if the child has a good mother who cares about her like you.