Modern Dale Carnegie does not advocate tit-for-tat. He said, "There is only one simple way to really hate others, and that is to give full play to their strengths." Hating each other and being cruel will only make you exhausted Carnegie's "hate" is another form of "tolerance". Hating others is not gnashing your teeth.
No matter how the wolf plays the role of "kind grandmother" and vows to be a vegetarian from now on, it is difficult to change the nature of eating sheep, but if it is completely killed, sheep are prone to plague; Fighting between two tigers is inevitable, but once the hero is lonely, he doesn't need to be locked in the fence, and even the fierce tiger will degenerate into a sick cat. Treating your opponent as a friend is a higher level of tolerance.
President Lincoln has always been known for tolerating political opponents, which finally caused dissatisfaction among a member of Congress. The congressman said, "You shouldn't try to make friends with those people, but destroy them." Lincoln smiled and replied, "When they become my friends, am I not destroying my enemies?" Yes, a more tolerant and open opponent may be our potential friend.
Who has made the greatest contribution to the Three Gorges Project? Pan, a famous water conservancy engineer, said in response to a question from a foreign reporter: "Those who oppose the Three Gorges Project have made the greatest contribution to the Three Gorges Project." The existence of opponents can keep a clear head and do things more comprehensively. It can inspire your courage to accept challenges and generate the potential to show your life. This is not simple tolerance, but sharpening your will and sharpening your life edge.
Although I don't agree with you, I have an obligation to defend your right to speak. As many people know, this sentence contains the tolerant democratic core. Bad words in June hurt people. If you have a tolerant heart, use it as an air conditioner to cool down in hot summer.
Tolerance is a kind of beauty. Only when the deep sky tolerates the temporary ravages of lightning storms can it be clear. The vast sea is boundless only when the stormy waves are raging for a while; The vast forest temporarily endured the law of the jungle and was lush. A river can be great only if it doesn't choose small streams. Tolerance is the towering Mount Tai, and it is the rivers and lakes that accommodate all rivers and lakes.
When dealing with friends, tolerance is the gold for Guan Zhong. He doesn't care about Guan Zhong's selfishness and understands Guan Zhong's fear of death. He also recommended Guan Zhong to Qi Huangong as his boss.
Treating people and things with tolerance is the torch of Emperor Guangwu burning books to defect to the enemy. When Liu Xiu defeated Wang Lang and invaded Handan, he found many letters that flattered Wang Lang, insulted Liu Xiu and even planned to kill Liu Xiu. But Liu Xiu turned a blind eye to this and ignored the opposition of all ministers. He let bygones be bygones, turned enemies into friends, strengthened his own strength and finally became emperor. The fire was put out.
You should tolerate other people's different opinions, exclude or even frame them, because you know that what scares your opponent is your strength. You should also know that grass growing in crevices can withstand wind and rain best. Cynicism can just "cold compress" your fiery mind; The little shoes given to you may make you jump out of the wonderful "ballet" on the stage; A blow to you, like a barbell in an athlete's hand, will only increase your explosive power. Bitterness is a double-edged sword, which eventually cuts itself; Answer blows with blows can only show that your "teeth" are falling off; Blood boiling is the most likely cause of "hypertension". "One foot crushed the violet, but it left a fragrance on the heel, and that is forgiveness." andrew matheus said such an inspiring sentence in The Heart of Tolerance.
Tolerance and kindness
When I was a sales manager, I had an argument with an employee. I don't like her arrogance and decided to talk to him. In order to avoid quarreling in public, I'm going to call her home. "Should I fire her?" Suddenly, I remembered something that happened nine years ago.
At that time, I had a full-time job to help my husband Mike finish his studies. Finally, the day came when he graduated. Our parents will come from other States to attend his graduation ceremony, and I have made many plans for that day. For example, go to eat ice cream after graduation, and then go to the city for a chic time.
I ran into the bookstore where I was happy to work. "I'm going to take a holiday on Saturday after Thanksgiving," I announced to my boss. "Mike graduated!"
"Sorry, Mary," the boss would say. "The weekend after the holiday is our busiest time. I need you here. " I don't believe the boss can be so unreasonable. "But Mike and I have been waiting for this day for five years!" I argued, my voice trembling with excitement.
"Of course, I won't give you a job at the graduation ceremony," he said.
"I can't come at all, Ross," my face tensed with anger. "I'm not coming!" I stormed out.
I ignored him for the next few days. When he asked me a question, I just answered coldly in a few words.
Our relationship is getting more and more tense. Although Ross still looks enthusiastic and often smiles, I know he is not feeling well and I am determined to take a day off.
We had a cold war for several weeks. One day, Ross asked me if I would like to talk to him alone. So, we went to the reading area to do it. We stared at my feet and told ourselves to be strong no matter what happened. Apparently, the boss wants to fire me. He can't let me despise him like this and be indifferent. After all, he is the boss, and the boss is always right.
When I gave him a cold look with disdain, I was surprised to see the injured expression in his eyes. "I don't want to cause any anger and unhappiness between you and me," he said quietly. "You can have a holiday that day."
I don't know what to say. My anger, my narrowness and my childish behavior are all so insignificant in front of his humility. "Thanks, Ross." I managed to squeeze out a sentence, which I won't forget.
I took my work permit from my work permit and dialed her number. Apologize to her. After hanging up the phone, our relationship is as good as ever.
God has a way to hide what we have learned in life in our hearts and show them when necessary. And she also made me understand that sometimes it is more important to be kind to others than to insist on being right.