First, all misunderstandings must be eliminated, and ambiguous jokes must not be taken. If the other person has an emotional misunderstanding about you, or misunderstanding caused by other communication, you must find ways to eliminate or explain it. Especially ambiguous words that are easy to arouse people's association, try to make fewer jokes.

Second, don't haggle over every ounce with your friends, who are sincere to you. Some people have their own plans to treat friends of the opposite sex, which is not desirable. In fact, female colleagues generally do not pose a threat to your career or harm your future. Since we are friends of the opposite sex, I don't think it is necessary to play tricks and be sincere.

Third, everything is for pure friendship, and mutual help can last forever. Making friends between men and women is a friendship, a friendship. Therefore, if selfishness pervades communication, or is used for it, friendship is hard to last long.

Eight points for attention are as follows:

First, be honest and respect each other's "unrepeatable" tone. Friends of the opposite sex start with "fate" and end with "fate". How do you say this? Intersection, acquaintance as fate, the ancients said: a hundred years of training with the ship, a thousand years of training with the pillow. Meeting in the vast sea of people is coincidence, and acquaintance is fate, so intersection, getting along and communicating with each other should naturally be called fate. Friends are predestined friends, and heterosexual friends are predestined friends who don't want to have "points". Once the opposite sex talks about fate, it is beyond the scope of friends. Therefore, friends of the opposite sex gather because of karma, and disperse because of karma.

Second, we should remember the differences between men and women and praise them appropriately. Men and women who make friends can be honest with each other as long as they are out of just and pure friendship. Why do you say it's aboveboard? There is a simple reason. If you hide it, it will cause misunderstanding and suspicion. So how to grasp the "degree" of communication? First, you should pay attention to the discretion and occasions when you have heterosexual friends, and invite more friends if possible. Second, communication should be "well known", that is, there should be a reasonable explanation and a reasonable opportunity. After all, men and women are different, and we can't stay together all the time if something happens. It's inevitable that we can't help it after a long time. Third, the time should not be too long. If men and women associate, it is often late at night. Even if this kind of communication is justified, it will inevitably cause family complaints. Over time, complaints may turn into resentment, affecting the harmony of both families.

Third, don't forget to be reasonable, behave yourself and let nature take its course. Familiar people don't necessarily become friends. In fact, it is easier to get familiar with the opposite sex than with the same sex. When men are together, they comment on women and talk about it. Women also talk about men together. It is easier to attract attention between the opposite sex, although the acquaintance of the opposite sex is always shy and shy, even if you pass by, you will not forget it. However, the communication between the opposite sex is shrouded in a sense of alert, mystery, curiosity and doubt. The communication between the opposite sex, if it is to propose to each other on purpose, is very embarrassing. At first, I was impressed, curious and admired, so no one wanted to mention it first. Even when they unconsciously reached the point where they had nothing to say, they found out that he (she) was my opposite sex friend. Secondly, any party's proposal may have impure motives. So, don't deliberately find friends of the opposite sex.

Fourth, friends of the opposite sex can only meet each other and cannot force themselves to be overbearing. The opposite sex is gradually formed with mutual care and help, not love at first sight overnight. Because both men and women are married (or one of them is married), there is no such romance as love at first sight for young people. Generally speaking, through certain observation and comparison, men and women think that some aspects of each other's strengths and personalities can complement each other and need to communicate; Or need to communicate in work and study; Or need help in life, and then gradually increase understanding and form friendship.

Fifth, there are boundaries between friendship and friendship, and friends can be old. First of all, the purpose of making friends with us should be pure, and at the same time, we should remind and help each other to realize that the two sides are purely friendly exchanges. Otherwise, even if you clearly distinguish between friendship and love, but the other person mistakenly thinks that you are in love, then use a fashionable saying: "If the problem gets bigger, the consequences will be very serious!" Therefore, both sides should respect and understand each other. Only in this way can the friendship between heterosexual friends be maintained and developed.

Sixth, it is fundamental to learn from each other's strengths and not let people take the wrong medicine. Friends of the opposite sex should be complementary. When I say complementary, I mean psychology, personality, social interaction, work and so on. That is to say, only complementary friends of the opposite sex are more secure and lasting than friends of the opposite sex who admire each other. Friends of the opposite sex who admire each other are easy to change, and complementary friends of the opposite sex have sources of support and dependence. But this kind of complementarity is complementary advantages, and bad habits must not be transmitted to others.

Seventh, look for fraternity, be broad-minded, and never forget selfless care. Everyone has love, fraternity, fraternity, love and sex. There may be four types of love between men and women. Selfless love is a virtue of human beings, and this is fraternity. Especially in the present one-child family, as a girl, she needs a big brother or a little brother, and as a boy, she longs for a big sister or a little sister. He (she) needs the care, care and care of his sister or brother, and also needs to be naughty with his sister like his sister (or brother). When friends of the opposite sex meet, if they get along like brothers and sisters, they can not only care about each other, help each other, be considerate of others, learn to find the sustenance of love with their beloved, but also improve their spiritual realm. I am a man, but I know that all women who are not mothers have maternal love. So I think, if you are a man and have no sister, do you really want a sister to love and care for her? If you are a woman, do you really want a little brother to care about him, help him and understand him?

Eighth, put yourself in the position of understanding. Friendship is priceless. If you are married and the other person is unmarried, whether you are a lover or not, you should be temperate in your communication. We should put ourselves in his (her) shoes, encourage him (her) to communicate with other friends of the opposite sex and guide him (her) to get married. When a friend of the opposite sex has a marriage crisis, I also think that you should put yourself in your shoes to convince your friend, instead of fanning the flames and creating contradictions. You can also warn them that there is no legal responsibility and obligation between friends and no family burden, so friends are easy to be friends, but couples are hard to be. At this time, you should reduce your contact with the Lord and keep a little distance from him.