Such a short story really happened to my good friend Y. When she told this story, I seemed to see that the female number one in the Japanese drama Tian Yan happened in reality.
Y and her husband have been married for almost seven years, and they are a loving couple in the eyes of others.
College couple, married after graduating from college, her husband is a project manager step by step, and Y teaches in a school. Because she is not the main teacher, the work pressure is not great, and she has a holiday every year, so she can take the baby and hold two jobs. A family of three lives in a good degree room in the city, so parents who are usually separated can take a walk.
Y usually likes to live in the petty bourgeoisie, her husband is obedient to her, and women cheat, and she rarely participates in communication except for business at work. Such a happy marriage should be enviable.
As we all know, the great turning point happened a year ago. Y found that for many days, her husband would 1 1 "subconsciously" cheat at night. What is the evidence? Go to the bathroom and be quiet for a while.
At first, she thought it was normal to go to the toilet, but it was all that time, and it was 15- 20 minutes. A woman's judgment tells her that this is not a simple "pee".
Every time he comes in with a mobile phone, he can't hear the noise of his communication on the phone. Y carefully rummaged through her husband's circle of friends on her mobile phone and found nothing wrong.
I thought I was suspicious, but one morning I found out.
That day, my husband forgot to turn on the sound insulation on his mobile phone, and suddenly a crisp voice prompt popped up. She glanced at her husband and saw him quickly turn on his mobile phone, turn on the sound insulation and shout what he was responding to.
Curiosity and inexplicable jealousy make Y anxious to know what information this is.
Finally, at a friend's dinner, Y grabbed her husband's mobile phone and found an unknown APP name in a mobile phone software group called "Work".
The judgment tells Y that this is an APP that sends out strange voice prompts. I took the opportunity to open it and log in immediately. I saw that my husband usually logs in here.
After the webpage is opened, it is really not work software, but dating software similar to WeChat friends circle. It can send dynamic messages and chat with people, but they are all anonymous.
In my husband's account, there is only one person in the chat bar, which is a woman's head. Y basically holds her breath and opens the prompt box.
A recent message said that last night, the husband and the other party said good night and had a good dream:
The other party: "Sleep, miss you."
Husband: "Well, I am. I will wake you up tomorrow morning. "
What's more, two people are going to talk about movies. You said something about me, but there were dozens of messages. The time was around 1 1 last night.
Y_ madly visited the WeChat chat records of two people. In less than a month, the husband and the "third party" talked a lot about themselves, but they didn't mention each other's real names at all, and they didn't exchange WeChat nicknames. It seems that they meet more often.
Y carefully recalled many things during this period. My husband stayed out all night and didn't run away from home on Sunday. Recently, the new project is on a business trip in the off-peak season, and there is every opportunity to engage in ambiguity.
Y breathed a sigh of relief after defining _ having an affair with a human body. After all, in the traditional social moral evaluation, there is a specific "having an affair with a human body" as a universal norm to define whether there is an affair.
In the following week, y seems to have nothing to do with it. She has doubts and disputes. She just wants to see what her husband will do next.
_ So, my husband went to work on time as usual, and he became much gentler, and even the key points of life that he often haggled over would not be worried anymore.
Y's doubts are puzzling. Is this long-distance woman a "third party"?
While saying this, Y took a sip of freshly ground coffee, as quiet as telling a story.
I asked her: What happened after that?
She gave an intriguing smile: Because I installed this mobile phone software, I wanted to see what magic made him unable to cope.
She applied to register an account, and the steps were extremely simple. Even if "married" is enabled in the background management, it will not endanger friends and chat at all.
In just two weeks, Y attracted more than just a man. At first, she was not real, but gradually, she became a little infatuated.
What is even more incredible is that she even found a "husband's emotional derailment goal."
That's a married man about Y's age. Let's call him Mr. X.
Both sides hide the objective fact that they have been married separately, and usually talk about the troubles at work, trivial matters in life and different hobbies. Because of the same language, y enjoys the interaction with Mr. X.
From ordinary friends at the beginning to some enthusiastic conversations later, Y said that everything happened naturally. Although she feels a little guilty, her husband also has an "ambiguous object". Why not?
Looking at my surprised expression, y calmly said, it's weird, but I really enjoyed the whole process. He (Mr. X) is the one who cares more about you in the fantasy world.
I asked y, isn't it easy to feel playing with fire one day?
Y said: everyone knows each other's situation, and it is not stipulated to meet. They are all adults and have this self-control ability.
Y later said that since her husband's emotional affair, the relationship between her and her husband has become more harmonious, and it has endangered the normal life of the two people, and her husband has even become more gentle. Sometimes she imagines her husband as an imaginary "he", knowing that it is wrong, but Y can't control it and doesn't want to manipulate it, because she has no "human relationship"!
After listening to Y's short story, I remembered a scientific research I had seen before. Statistical analysis from the British Marriage and Life Law Association shows that 8 1% of the criminal defense lawyers in the institute reported that they used many pictures from social media such as Facebook to confirm the objective facts of extramarital affairs.
This involves a difficult problem: is "husband's emotional infidelity" an affair?
Virtual love relationship based on internet technology is nothing new, but after marriage, looking for a "virtual life partner" based on the internet and gradually establishing a relatively stable emotional connection, a new "affair way" has emerged in places where mobile social media has become more and more developed in the past two years.
How can I save my wife's heart if I cheat? This kind of personal behavior has also been noticed by more and more scholars, and it is called "digital infidelity" or "long-distance infidelity", that is, personal infidelity to partners based on the Internet, especially on mobile smart terminals (whether infidelity has a further development trend or not).