A wise man is never disturbed by others, and he can always keep a firm eye on the road under his feet and always carry a heavy load. I have fallen down countless times and experienced all kinds of human feelings in real life. When the business is booming, everyone wants to curry favor with me; But after the business failed, they avoided me one by one. Until later, I met a monk in an obscure temple in Zhejiang. He gave me three words, which made me realize a lot.

first, make friends with light words

As the saying goes, a gentleman's friendship is as light as water. Each of us has our own friends, and it is an extremely useful principle to make friends with light characters in the process of dealing with friends from all walks of life. Making friends should be light and peaceful, should not be tainted with greed and power, and should not have a special purpose. In this way, our friendship can be pure and flawless, and we will stay with our friends for a long time, and our feelings will become deeper and deeper, and we will never leave when things go wrong.

second, stop slandering with the word deaf

in life, everyone will inevitably encounter slander. Faced with such problems, some people will fly into a rage because of grievances, and they will fight back angrily. This may confuse their own situation, and driven by anger, they will be impatient and leave a worse impression on others. If you can learn to stop slander with deaf words, you will learn a peaceful attitude of taking things calmly, which will first leave a calm impression on people, and rumors may have been broken at this level. Besides, if you learn to be calm, you will be able to see the situation clearly and control the overall situation better.

using the word deaf to stop slander is quite a bit like being foolish. If you can stand firm under the slander and misunderstanding of others and move on confidently and calmly, you will not be affected by temporary events. True or false, right or wrong, will always show its original appearance under the baptism of years. If you really encounter this situation, you might as well calm down and not be fascinated by the distractions in front of you. Instead, you should keep a clear awareness and continue to carry on.

Third, blame yourself with lettering

People who are motivated are often strict with themselves. Blame yourself with lettering is easier said than done. To be strict with yourself, we must overcome procrastination and laziness, learn to adjust anxiety and daily mood fluctuations, and always have a clear awareness and cognition of ourselves. In this way, we can not only develop strong mobility, but also improve our self-control and exercise our will.

everything is difficult at the beginning. Blaming yourself with lettering is bound to be an extremely difficult task at the beginning. However, once we persist in the most difficult initial stage, we can gradually establish a positive cycle, build confidence, enhance our ability, and continue to overcome difficulties and forge ahead courageously in the future life.

If you want to be such a wise person, after reading the above words, maybe you will gain something of your own.