Modern pedagogy tells us that problem students exist among students at all levels, and their psychology has such a shadow: some people hide frustration, inferiority or stubbornness and extreme emotions; Some are self-enclosed and withdrawn; Some students have bad behavior habits and do things carelessly. Because the problem is obvious, doing a good job in their transformation is conducive to the management of class collectives and realizing the service concept of all for children and all for children. At the same time, it is also the responsibility of teachers to educate them well. The author thinks that it is necessary and effective to visit the problem students at home and do a good job of transformation with their parents. So how to conduct home visits to problem students?
First, before the home visit: prepare lessons carefully and make full preparations.
The following questions should be considered:
4. Time selection and control: Generally, students are selected after school or on weekends, so that students can also be present, and the effect of home visits will be better. Home visits should not be too long, so as not to delay parents' work.
5. Contents and methods: The contents of home visits are varied, and it is difficult to understand the students' family situation, make progress and find new problems. Don't be stereotyped in the way of home visits, just open a lock with one key.
Second, home visit: love plus strategy, the combination of small town and comfort.
1, adjust your mentality and make your heart full of tolerance and love.
It is human nature to make mistakes. Home visits are not for complaining, but for solving practical problems or communicating feelings with parents, exchanging opinions, forming a consensus and forming an educational synergy. As the saying goes: the depth of love is the cut of hate. The teacher's hatred is based on love. But it is not enough to hate, but also to let students feel the true love behind hate. Therefore, teachers must deal with the relationship between love and hate in home visits, so that their hearts are full of tolerance, understanding and love. Gorky once said: whoever loves children, children love them. When I visited the problem students at home, I repeatedly told myself that only by loving children can I educate them. Love is a bridge to successful education and a basic educational principle.
2. Pay attention to strategy and make the language full of artistic charm.
A successful home visit can first make your parents accept and trust you. Therefore, it is very important to meet and talk for the first time.
Talk humorously. Humorous conversation can not only attract the attention of the listener, but also establish a close relationship with the listener. A student's record in history was poor, so the teacher visited his home. The student's father asked: How is my son's history? The biggest headache in my student days was history, and I often failed the exam. The teacher smiled and said casually, I just want to discuss with you how to make history not repeat itself. They smiled at each other. This handy humor, punning and light humor, not only speaks inconvenient words, but also lubricates the relationship with parents and strives for their active cooperation.
Speaking tactfully and tactfully refers to expressing one's original intention in a subtle and tortuous way with the attitude of respecting the other party and when it is inconvenient to say one's original intention directly, by means of synonymous substitution, allusion and vague language. For example, a primary school student often eats other people's meals and takes other people's toys. Teachers will try to avoid stealing words and taking them quietly during home visits, so as not to hurt parents' self-esteem.
Speak flexibly. Language flexibility means that the speaker determines the content and way of his conversation according to different objects and different occasions, and can make adjustments quickly when the situation changes suddenly. For example, if the mother refuses to let the students with falling grades participate in school cultural and sports activities, the class teacher will visit her home for this purpose. The student's mother wanted to cook dinner, and the class teacher seized the opportunity and said with a smile, let's take our cooking as an example. If we cook a pot of rice, will we stop cooking? Have we adults ever lost our hands? The student mother smiled. The head teacher also gently analyzed the reasons for the decline in students' grades, thus telling parents not to educate their children with resentment.
Speak in moderation. Pay attention to your language, choose your words appropriately, and never be rude because of a slip of the tongue. For example, some class teachers describe the weakness of students' personality as a stain on human nature, which is a misnomer; It is an understatement to say that the shortcomings of students' behavior are the defects of conduct; It is an exaggeration to say that students occasionally make mistakes and mistakes are old problems that never change after repeated education. Complaining to parents about students' small mistakes is making a mountain out of a molehill. Such a conversation is bound to arouse the resentment of parents, and the result is just the opposite of the desire to talk.
3. Combination of soothing and soothing for students to take orally.
The town is wise and alarmist, profoundly pointing out the child's mistakes and possible serious consequences, and giving the child a strong medicine; Comfort is to explore the positive and kind side of children when they make mistakes, comfort them with words, point out the bright future after transformation, and enhance their courage and confidence in correcting mistakes. One town, one stroke, strong contrast makes children's hearts shake and their understanding sublimate.
Xiaohong, a graduating student, got good grades, but she never got rid of the bad habit of petty theft. After making another mistake, I came to his house to learn about the situation and educate him in front of his father: first of all, your behavior is a manifestation of bad ideology and morality, which shows that you are not a qualified student at school; Secondly, if you don't repent, you are likely to become a thief and a prisoner; Third, this irresponsible behavior will ruin your life, and you will not be able to gain a foothold in society; Fourth, because of your poor performance, all teachers, classmates and friends who love and care about you will feel sorry and sad. Even parents who have worked so hard to give birth to you will bear a heavy burden and even be extremely sad. In short, because of your mistakes, you will do irreparable harm to yourself and others. Xiaohong bowed her head and wept silently. Because I communicated with his father in advance, his father also enlightened and educated him rationally and severely. I saw that he was really shaken, so I went on to say, of course, as a student, it is inevitable to make some mistakes. The key is to correct it when you know it. Your good grades show that you are very talented. Should it be okay to get rid of this little problem? With your talent, as long as you continue to work hard, it is very promising to be admitted to the university and have a bright future. As your teacher, I believe you will live up to the expectations of all those who love you, right? Do you have confidence? Xiaohong nodded tearfully. After this home visit, under the supervision and guidance of his father and me, Xiaohong seems to have matured a lot and never stole anything until graduation.
Third, after the home visit: implement the home visit agreement and be patient.
Marxism holds that man is a social animal and cannot exist without certain social relations and material conditions. People, people and their surroundings interact all the time. The transformation of problem students needs time and space, and it is a process of self-adjustment and continuous improvement under the influence of the outside world. As educators, in this process, we should not only promote the excellent, but also restrain the inferior. On the one hand, we should make full use of the positive influence of the surrounding environment, strengthen the positive correlation and realize the complementary advantages of environment and self-regulation; On the other hand, we should be good at overcoming the negative influence of the surrounding environment and reducing the negative correlation. Let the problem students eliminate the interference after home visit, and implement it according to the home visit agreement reached by teachers, parents and students. The content of the agreement should be specific and operable. Try to consider the problem comprehensively and thoughtfully, leaving room. We should give full consideration to the possible repetition of the wrong behavior of problem students. In the meantime, teachers and parents should be patient enough and never give up on themselves and throw the burden on the society.