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In the past, there was no scientific basis for conjecturing whether the marriage between men and women matched by combining the zodiac signs of young men and women in rural areas. But from the old background, this statement implies an appropriate view of the age gap between young men and women in rural areas under the historical background at that time. From this point of view, this proverb has its reasonable side in real life, so it has been passed down to this day.
Why do you say that? This should be analyzed from the background of this proverb.
In the old society, men and women were arranged marriages under the ritual system. Young men and women can't make their own decisions, but their parents can. For example, shoes don't fit. Young men and women haven't tried it themselves, and they don't know. After seeing the shoes, both parents thought that the son and daughter hit it off and let them put them on. Young men and women put on shoes, some fit and some don't fit. What is suitable is that men and women get married, and what is not suitable is that men and women get married.
In the old society, the marriage of young men and women was based on parents' orders and matchmakers' words. Unlike today's young men and women who are free to fall in love, they have to get along first and get familiar with each other for a while, so that both sides can get to know each other better. If they see fit, they will get married. If they feel inappropriate, they will say goodbye. In the past, young men and women were completely decided by their parents. At the beginning of their marriage, they never even met, let alone got to know each other. The personality, interests, hobbies, life and other aspects between two people depend on marriage.
In that case, as I said before, it must be like wearing shoes. I haven't tried it myself. I have to wear it when I wear it, and I have to wear it when I don't. Couples who get along well will be happy for life, and those who get along badly will often make trouble. As the saying goes, "everything goes well at home", and couples often make noise when they live together. It is undoubtedly difficult to build a small family and make life rich.
In the old society, when it comes to marriage, the age gap between young men and women is an unavoidable problem in rural areas. The age gap between husband and wife, how much difference is good, different classes of rural people have different family views. For example, there is a saying in rural areas that "women are small three, holding gold bricks" and "men can be ten, women can't be one". In fact, in the old countryside, these two views can only be said to be the views of a few young men and women in rural families, but not the views of most ordinary rural families.
For example, "female junior, holding gold bricks" is generally the concept of the age gap between men and women in rural rich families. Because most of their sons will marry in the future, when they marry, women are several years older than men, usually more than three years older. In this way, the wife can take care of her young husband, and because she is older than her husband, she has more experience in management, which is not only conducive to controlling daily behavior, but also to accumulating experience in managing the family (in charge of the family) after marriage, and is also conducive to controlling the wives and concubines married behind her husband's back.
And "men can be ten, women can't be one" refers to ordinary rural families, that is, those families who live a well-fed life by their own labor. Most of these families are monogamous for life and marry as many wives as the rich. On the one hand, they married into a rich family. Therefore, when such farmers get married, they all avoid being older than girls. "Men can be ten years older" is an exaggeration. Men are not necessarily ten years older than women. In the old society, people thought that women engaged in heavy manual labor were older than men, and men were older than women, which was a better choice for men and women to get married. This statement has also become a common concept of marriage in rural monogamous families.
In the past, in rural areas, it was generally believed that the age gap between young men and women was best between 2 and 4 years old. In other words, it is better for men to be two to four years older than women. In the age gap between two, three and four years old, it is generally believed that two and four years old are better. The main reason is that rural areas are influenced by the concept of "yes-men", and the age gap between husband and wife is slightly lower than two to four years old. Between the ages of two and four, people think that the oldest male is two years older than female and four years older than male.
One of the reasons is that people in rural areas think that, firstly, the husband and wife will live in harmony and the family will become prosperous and rich. Second, husband and wife can "go hand in hand", that is, in their later years, the time interval between husband and wife's successive deaths will not be too far apart, so as to avoid the pain of one spouse for too long after his death.
Although these statements are not scientifically reasonable, they are the experience accumulated by rural people in their long-term lives and are much more reasonable than those statements.
The difference between the male rabbit and the female snake in The Snake Wrapped Rabbit is only two years old. In fact, for men and women who are snakes and rabbits, there is another saying in rural areas, that is, "snakes and rabbits have no way out" (also known as "dragons and rabbits have no way out"). This statement is just the opposite of the last one. Nowadays, it is difficult for many people to understand why there is such a contrary statement. This is not surprising, because if it is a female rabbit and a male snake, the female is two years older than the male. As an ordinary family in rural areas, it is inappropriate for a woman to be two years older than a man. And "the dragon pesters the rabbit, there is no way out", whether male or female, the difference is one year. In the concept of the old peasant village people, everyone thinks that this age gap is not ideal.
In the old society, it was not just a saying that "snakes around rabbits make generations rich". If you are interested, you can check the statement about the marriage of men and women in the zodiac. Zodiac mostly takes care of the combination of two types of marriage, that is, male and female Xiao are two and four years older than female respectively. Two years, four years. Most of them are suitable for couples. This also shows that the old saying of fate should also cater to the mainstream of farming.
Although it is a new saying, "the snake around the rabbit makes the rich generation" also embodies a common concept of the gap between young men and women in rural areas in the old society. As for the fact that women who belong to snakes and men who belong to rabbits are very rich, it is just a good wish of people in the old society. Whether a husband and wife are rich or not depends not on the combination of the zodiac, but on the labor of both hands and the hardships of the family. Therefore, as in the old days, it is a new statement and outdated concept to infer the marriage quality of young men and women by combining the zodiac, which is not credible.
In fact, no one in rural areas believes this absurd statement. The age gap between men and women in marriage has broken the old traditional concept in rural areas, and the age gap is no longer an obstacle to marriage.
The above is about the marriage of a man, a snake, a woman and a rabbit, two years older than the woman, and it is about the sharing of marriage. I hope this will be helpful to everyone who has finished watching "The male snake, the female rabbit and the female rabbit are two years older"!