Xu zhimo said: her eyes are also talking and shining, which is the secret of her heart.
The love story between her and Xu Zhimo is regarded as true love on earth by countless men and women in the world of mortals. After Xu Zhimo's early death in an air crash, Lu Xiaoman gradually disappeared from public view.
How did Lu Xiaoman spend the rest of his life without Xu Zhimo? What kind of entanglements does she have with Weng Wu Rui?
Lu Xiaoman, 1903, is from Shanghai. At the age of 6, I went to Japan with my parents and later returned to Beijing to spend my youth.
Lu Xiaoman was born in a noble family. According to Lu Jia's own statement, Lu You, a great writer in the Song Dynasty, and Lu Xiufu, a famous minister in the Southern Song Dynasty, belong to Lu Jiazu.
My father Lu Ding, who studied in Japan and graduated from the famous Waseda University in Japan, is a proud disciple of the famous Japanese figure Ito Bowen. While studying in Japan, Lu Ding joined Sun Yat-sen's League. After the founding of the Republic of China, Lu Ding worked in the Ministry of Finance for a long time, and he also founded the Savings Bank of China.
Lu Xiaoman's mother's family, Changzhou Wu, was from Jiangxi in the Qing Dynasty. Lu Xiaoman's grandfather is a celebrity in Changzhou, and Lu Xiaoman's mother, Wu Manhua, has a profound ancient cultural heritage under the influence of her family since childhood, and is good at painting.
Growing up in such a family, when Lu Xiaoman was 16 years old, he was proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, as well as foreign languages.
At this time, Lu Xiaoman has become a generation of celebrities. Her elegant demeanor is as dazzling as the stars in the sky, and countless people are intoxicated by her smile.
Yu Dafu said: Xiaoman was Prometheus who shook China's literary and art circles in the 1920s.
Hu Shi said: Lu Xiaoman is a must-see scenery.
It happened that such a woman married an unloved person early under the arrangement of her parents.
The husband Lu Xiaoman's parents chose was Wang Geng.
Wang Geng is not an ordinary person. He graduated from Tsinghua and then went to study in the United States. After graduating from Princeton University, he was admitted to the United States Military Academy at West Point, where he was a classmate with the later American military star and President Eisenhower. When Wang Geng graduated from West Point Military Academy, he was ranked 10 in the whole school. After returning to China, Wang Geng worked in the army.
Regardless of family background or future, Wang Geng is the son-in-law of Lujia.
But when it comes to love in the world, we must first look at "love or not".
Unfortunately, Lu Xiaoman doesn't love Wang Geng. Lu Xiaoman is young and playful, and is keen on all kinds of dance receptions; However, Wang Geng doesn't care about these things. He is always a bit rigid and serious, because he is a soldier. At this point, the couple seem out of place. After marriage, Wang Geng became the police chief of Harbin, and brought Lu Xiaoman to Harbin to take office.
Although Harbin is also a big city, it is not as glamorous as Shanghai. Lu Xiaoman didn't stay long before he ran back to Shanghai. Since then, the husband and wife have separated and their feelings have become increasingly indifferent.
Lu Xiaoman, who lives alone in Shanghai, has a good time, dealing with various social occasions. 1924, she met Xu zhimo.
Before meeting Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo was still immersed in the pain of losing Lin.
Perhaps it was fate that Xu Zhimo met Lu Xiaoman.
Lu Xiaoman is good at singing and dancing, good-looking and good at painting. As soon as Xu Zhimo saw Lu Xiaoman, he was fascinated by her. The pain of lovelorn love was soon replaced by enthusiasm for Lu Xiaoman.
Unlike Wang Geng's stereotype, Xu Zhimo is a natural communicator, romantic, passionate and talented. Xu Zhimo's romantic atmosphere also fascinated Lu Xiaoman. For Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo is a lamp in the dark, which makes her lonely heart see hope.
The two soon fell in love.
The love of two people is also the pain of three people. Finally, Wang Geng chose to quit.
1926, Xu zhimo and Lu Xiaoman held a grand wedding in Beijing. Xu Zhimo's teacher, Liang Qichao, is a witness to the marriage. Liang Qichao's wedding words are unprecedented, which really embarrassed Xu Helu.
Although Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman love each other very much, it is one thing to fall in love, and it is another to get married and live together.
They lived in Shanghai after they got married. Lu Xiaoman's life is nothing more than a dance and a cocktail party. She is still keen on all kinds of communication. Lu Xiaoman prefers ostentation and extravagance to work. The expenses at home must be maintained by Xu Zhimo alone.
At that time, although Xu Zhimo taught in several universities, his income was also considerable. But no matter how much money Xu Zhimo can earn, he can't keep up with Lu Xiaoman's spending speed.
More importantly, Lu Xiaoman later contracted opium, which made Xu Zhimo's economic pressure even greater. Xu Zhimo repeatedly persuaded Lu Xiaoman to give up opium and stop indulging in feasting.
But Lu Xiaoman is like a wayward child, and it is useless to persuade him. Xu Zhimo is also a cultural person, unwilling to use cruel means to deal with Lu Xiaoman.
In desperation, Xu Zhimo had to go north to teach, but Lu Xiaoman didn't want to leave the prosperity of Shili Yangchang after all, and stayed in Shanghai alone.
Xu Zhimo loves Lu Xiaoman after all.
When he was in Beijing, his monthly salary was about 600 yuan. He sent Lu Xiaoman 500 yuan to meet her expenses in Shanghai. After all, when traveling in Lu Xiaoman, you should have a driver, a cook and a servant at home. All this is a big expense.
Xu Zhimo is in Beijing, but his heart has always been on Lu Xiaoman. He kept writing letters to persuade Lu Xiaoman to get rid of her old habits, hoping that she would come to Beijing, visit famous teachers and improve her painting level.
It's not that Lu Xiaoman doesn't want Xu Zhimo, but that she can't give up her inner noise.
Friends advised Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman to divorce and get rid of this "burden". Hu Shi even thought that Lu Xiaoman hindered Xu Zhimo's career development and urged Xu Zhimo to take the courage to get married and divorce decisively.
But Xu Zhimo didn't want to. There is still a fire burning for Lu Xiaoman in his heart.
During his stay in Beijing, Xu Zhimo was reluctant to part with Lu Xiaoman and often ran from Beijing to Shanghai. In order to save money, Xu Zhimo tried his best to rub those free planes.
It was this free plane that finally took the poet's life.
193 1 year1month 19, Xu zhimo flew north from Nanjing. As a result, the plane crashed into a mountain in the fog and Xu Zhimo was killed at the age of 34.
When Xu Zhimo left, Lu Xiaoman was very sad, holding the coffin and crying.
With the departure of Xu Zhimo, another person began to occupy an important position in Lu Xiaoman's life.
This man's name is Weng Wurui, and he is a noble queen. Father Weng Shouqi was a famous painter in the late Qing Dynasty. Weng Wurui was influenced by his family since childhood and was proficient in Chinese painting. Later, he studied under the famous doctor Ding Fengshan and learned the technique of massage. He started practicing medicine in Shanghai in his twenties and made a lot of money. He is also a celebrity in Shanghai.
Before the death of Xu Zhimo, the relationship between Weng Wurui and Lu Xiaoman was quite ambiguous.
Lu Xiaoman's weak body, especially asthma and stomach trouble, made Lu Xiaoman particularly miserable. Xu Zhimo sought medical treatment everywhere and was introduced to Weng Wurui. Weng Wurui can't cure Lu Xiaoman's illness, but it can greatly alleviate Lu Xiaoman's pain when he is ill. Lu Xiaoman fainted several times, and all recovered after Weng's treatment.
Besides treating diseases, Weng and Lu Xiaoman are also interested in opera and painting. They are not ordinary opera fans. Weng studied Peking Opera and Kunqu Opera from famous teachers, and painting was a family heirloom.
All this, Weng Wurui and Lu Xiaoman are also very congenial. As long as Lu Xiaoman is not feeling well, he wants Weng Wurui to go home for treatment. This massage is naturally physical, and gradually the relationship between the two people has a little ambiguity.
On one occasion, Lu Xiaoman asked Weng Wurui that I was ill. What should I do without you? Weng Wurui suggested that Lu Xiaoman take opium to relieve pain. From then on, they often smoked in Lu Xiaoman's house.
From 65438 to 0938, Weng and Lu Xiaoman began to live together, and Weng began to support Lu Xiaoman. Daily expenses are basically paid by Weng.
Lu Xiaoman's feelings for Weng Wurui are very complicated. Love, affection, friendship, it seems, are a little mixed. Lu Xiaoman himself said so.
Maybe it's because Lu Xiaoman knew in his heart that he didn't love Weng Wurui so much, but he couldn't get rid of his dependence on Weng Wurui economically and spiritually. Over time, that's it.
Hanging from the rails, Lu Xiaoman simply refused to allow Weng Wurui to divorce. "We won't get married formally until he abandons his wife.".
Weng Wurui ran at both ends like this, taking care of both Lu Xiaoman and his original children.
For such a relationship, others advised Lu Xiaoman to make a decision as soon as possible, and not to drag on like this. But Lu Xiaoman didn't think so. She felt a clear conscience, she said.
Weng Wurui is very kind to Lu Xiaoman, and can be said to be meticulous and satisfied with everything.
As long as Lu Xiaoman is happy, he will do anything, even if he sells his fortune, he will support Lu Xiaoman. But from 1938, they lived together until Weng died in 196 1, and Weng raised her for 23 years. For 23 years, Lu Xiaoman has never agreed to Weng Wurui's proposal.
After a long time, some things will change slowly. Weng adopted a girl named Guan. At first, Weng Wurui only regarded Bao Xiao as his adopted daughter and apprentice.
But after a long time, Weng seemed to see Lu Xiaoman when he was young. They are all so radiant, so bright and moving.
The relationship between Weng and Guan changed, and later Guan gave birth to a child for Weng.
After Guan gave birth to the child, he left Lujia and disappeared. Lu Xiaoman, on the other hand, adopted the child.
As time passed, Lu Xiaoman never fell in love with anyone again. The relationship between her and Weng Wurui is still the same, just living together without getting married. So she accompanied other people's husbands and raised other people's children.
Weng Wurui was ahead after all, and Weng Wurui died in 196 1. Before he left, he still remembered Lu Xiaoman and asked his friend to "take good care of Xiaoman, and I am grateful to him in his grave". So he is not at ease and wants his daughter to continue to support Lu Xiaoman.
After Weng Wu Rui left, Lu Xiaoman became a brand-new person. She goes out alone and goes home alone every day. Lu Xiaoman has been in the spotlight all his life. When has he ever been so desolate and lonely?
But she can only spend the rest of her life in silence in this "desolation and loneliness as deep as the sea".
The death of Xu Zhimo touched Lu Xiaoman greatly. She is determined to be the kind of person that Xu Zhimo hopes, and she will do something serious.
She gave up opium, picked up a brush again, and visited famous teachers to practice her painting skills.
194 1 year, Lu Xiaoman opened his own solo exhibition in Shanghai.
1947, Lu Xiaoman compiled and published Xu Zhimo's posthumous works, which was also regarded as Lu Xiaoman's response and explanation to Xu Zhimo.
From 65438 to 0956, Lu Xiaoman became the librarian of Shanghai Literature and History Museum, and finally got a job to support himself. This job is steady, and it seems that Lu Xiaoman, who has washed away all the lead, has finally begun to become independent.
1959, Lu Xiaoman was named "March 8th Red Flag Bearer" by the National Artists Association.
196 1 year, Weng Wurui died. Another important person left Lu Xiaoman's life. Lu Xiaoman said that although I have no love for Weng Wurui, I have feelings.
Together for so many years, Weng Wurui is not so much a lover as a family member to Lu Xiaoman. There is always only one lover in Lu Xiaoman's heart, and that is Xu Zhimo.
Lu Xiaoman died on 1965, and a generation of celebrities left without brilliant fireworks and noisy music, only cold sighs.
Lu Xiaoman hoped to be buried with Xu Zhimo, but the Xu denied Lu Xiaoman, the daughter-in-law.
Can't be buried with Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman's ashes are unclaimed, and he can only lie in the funeral home for many years. The stars changed, the funeral home moved, and finally Lu Xiaoman's ashes disappeared.
Until 1988, Lu Xiaoman's cousin Lu Zong and his niece Lu jointly funded the construction of the Crown Tomb in Suzhou Dongshan Overseas Chinese Cemetery.
A generation of celebrity Lu Xiaoman was finally buried.
From beginning to end, Lu Xiaoman loved Xu Zhimo deeply. All her feelings for Xu Zhimo were finally condensed in the elegiac couplet she wrote.
She and Weng Wurui, affection is better than love. Two people are just comfort to each other in a lonely world. Although there is no such strong love as Xu Zhimo, there is still friendship.
In Lu Xiaoman's personal file, in the column of family, she filled in Weng Wurui.
What is love in the world? How many people can make it clear?
Not Xu Zhimo, not Weng Wurui, not Lu Xiaoman.
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