In the long feudal society of China, both men and women pay attention to giving and receiving, emphasizing that "there is no cloud or rain in the sky and no media on the ground." Generally speaking, both men and women should discuss it before getting married. This is the so-called "parents' life, the words of the matchmaker." There are many descriptions in the Book of Songs, such as "My son didn't have a good media when he was robbed" and "How about marrying a wife?" It can be seen that matchmaking has a long history. In fact, the matchmaker occupies a special position and role in the process of marriage. From proposing marriage to getting married, there is almost nothing missing. If men and women privately book their lives without matchmaking, it will not only be tolerated by families and society, but also end in tragedy.
For a long time, there are many nicknames about matchmakers, such as Yue Lao, Hong Niang, Zhang Jian and Zhike. Take The Iceman as an example, there is a very interesting story. According to the Book of Jin, Xiaolian Linghu had a dream that she was walking on a frozen lake and talking to people under the ice, and suddenly woke up. Some fortune tellers explained this dream: "Ice is Yang, ice is Yin, and things of Yin and Yang are also;": A scholar returns to his wife, but the ice is uncertain and the marriage is successful. You are on the ice, and you talk to people on the ice. This is a matter of duplicity, and the media is also involved. You should be a matchmaker and marry Bing. "According to today's words, that is to say, you can stand on the ice and talk to people under the ice, symbolizing that you are reconciling Yin and Yang, and reconciling Yin and Yang is to be a medium, and you will be a matchmaker for others. But this media is not easy to do. It takes your enthusiasm to melt the ice and both men and women can get married. Since then, "Iceman" has been used as a matchmaker, which is also called "making ice". This is also reflected in vernacular novels, such as "Ancient and Modern Wonders" Volume 41. " This kind of matchmaking is good for an iceman. Unless his daughter doesn't stop until she gets married, there will be many men and women. In Jin Yong's famous novel "The Dragon Slayer by Eternal Adversity", Yin Susu and Zhang Cuishan, two people who told the truth to the judge, finally became a loving couple by making an iceman with Xie Xun.
However, despite the infinite scenery of the matchmaker, this bowl of rice is actually not delicious. Matchmaking requires extremely high skills, even art. Let's take a look at the better matchmakers in the pile, which one is not eloquent and exquisite. The matchmaker should not only be familiar with the basic situation of men and women and their families, but also strive to propose marriage, and must basically and accurately reflect each other's situation to both men and women and their parents, try to hide evil and promote good as much as possible, so that both sides can fully understand each other's strengths and are willing to reach a marriage agreement. The ability of matchmaking is all in this clever mouth, so you must be diligent in running errands. From the day you begin to bridge the gap between men and women, you should always shuttle between men and women, exchange information, convey each other's wishes and demands, and prevent unexpected changes. The media said it well, and both sides were satisfied. In the future, they often exchanged views and became old friends. If the media doesn't speak well and both sides are not satisfied, it will often be blamed on the matchmaker. From then on, they were regarded as passers-by and even enemies. It will be even harder to match people in the future. For the official media, because they represent the government in the marriage between men and women, their engagement is recognized by the government and has legal effect. If there is a problem with marriage, the government will punish it according to law, so the responsibility is greater.
Regrettably, despite the praise of adult beauty, tragedies caused by the matchmaker pulling the wrong red line are not uncommon. Even today's matchmaking agencies often cheat. Sometimes it is the coma of the matchmaker that leads to being unsociable, but some people, in order to seek personal gain and covet money, use sweet words to lure men and women into marriage. Especially in the feudal era, men and women could not meet and fall in love freely, and the consequences were more prominent, which became the chief culprit of many unfortunate marriages in the world. In view of these unscrupulous so-called matchmakers, China ancient folk songs made a bitter irony: one handkerchief has flowers on both sides, and the matchmaker praises both sides when carrying it. First, the husband's family owns land, and second, the family is everyone; He also said that men are smart and women are beautiful. The mouth is like a frog in the field. If you have nothing to do, just talk empty words and call your son a bitch. He will die in the underworld in the future, and the ghost will take him to the fork in the road.