Basic introduction Chinese name: friend mbth: Friend part of speech: noun pinyin: péngyou basic explanation, historical explanation, extended explanation, friend title, famous friendship, common sense of communication and basic explanation of friends, that is, they have good feelings, communicate frequently with each other in a common language, get along very comfortably and get together when they are free. Besides lovers or relatives, the highest realm of people who have friendship with each other is bosom friends. My friends, the double moon is cloudy, and the relationship between yin and yin is birds of a feather flock together! Classmates, comrades-in-arms and colleagues can all become friends, help each other and support each other! There are old friends, neighbors and chess friends! Historical interpretation 1. Classmate; Like-minded people. The latter refers to people with deep friendship. A couple: "A gentleman teaches with his friends", and Confucius' Book of Ying Da says: "Friends from the same school, comrades as friends, friends living with them to teach morality. Gao Mingqi's "Two Rhymes On Monday, Scholars See the Moon": "Friends die, brothers go far away. "Chapter 72 of Biography of Feng Ming Menglong in the Eastern Zhou Dynasty:" (Shen) Bao Xu said:' It is disloyal to teach your son to repay Chu; If a godson doesn't report it, he will be unfilial. Zi Mianzhi! All right! Friendship of friends, I won't tell anyone. However, if I can cover Chu, I will save Chu; If the child can be in danger, I will feel at ease. 2. The scholar-officials in Ming Dynasty called them Confucian scholars. Ming's anonymous book "Studying in China": "There was an invitation this morning saying that Zou's friends were going to visit each other, so I couldn't help waiting." "Awakening the World, Zhang Shuer's cleverness to get rid of Yang Sheng": "At that time, new people entered the body, and these friends were very unhappy and took five or six family members on the road." The second time in the Scholars: "At the time of enlightenment, his father Yang and his new friend were named." "The Scholars" the second time: "It turned out that the Ming Dynasty scholars called Confucian scholars friends and ordinary students friends." 3. Fashion: We choose our own family. Liu Hongyi's Notes on Thousand Characters: Ancient humans mainly lived in the Yellow River valley and could not see the sea. Shells are very rare, so shells are used as currency. Make a hole in the shell and put it on with a rope. Five are called series and two are called friends. When an old friend comes, he hangs two strings of shells around his neck and drinks them. He is called a "friend". Extended interpretation 1. The object of love, talking about friends, especially lovers. Chen Yuan's Sociolinguistics 10.2: "Old words are given new meanings. For example, "friend" (in some cases, it refers to the object of love, such as "playing with friends", "girlfriend" and "boyfriend"). Screen friend, if I want to invite friends around me, you can pick a suitable thing and help me do it. Your opponent or your enemy, they know themselves even better than yourself. This friend is very special and has a great influence on each other's lives. 4. A friend's Mongolian name is Anda. A friend is called a stone friend-a friend with a firm friendship. A friend is a dead friend-a friend with a deep friendship until death do us part. Best friend-refers to a friend with deep friendship. T Hu-a sincere and simple friend. Bad friends-friends who don't think of themselves. It is also a metaphor that a friend likes to play pranks in the relationship circle, which is funny to a certain density. The essence of hurting friends is bad, and his starting point and position are based on making trouble and harming people. Friends-refers to friends who are frank and outspoken. A helpful friend refers to a friend who is helpful to himself. Allies-refers to friends who form alliances for specific purposes. Netizen-refers to friends made online. Literary friends-refers to friends who have literary exchanges. Close friend-refers to a close friend. Gay friends-refers to homosexuality, and gay friends is often called on the Internet. In a broad sense, it can be used to refer to good friends, teammates or netizens in competitive games, ambiguous and close. Best friend-a friend who talks about everything in the boudoir. Pen pal-refers to friends who talk through letters. A constant friend-a friend who never leaves. Girlfriend-refers to those who can stand the test of these mundane things, no matter how far the situation is, they can sincerely bless them. A close friend in a boudoir is a "close friend in a boudoir", also called a woman's same-sex confidant. Pay-refers to treat each other with sincerity. Best friend-refers to the friend with the deepest friendship and no doubt. Family and friends-also called friendship and friendship. Generally refers to the friendship between the two families from generation to generation. Old friends-also called old friends, old friends, old friends-generally refer to long-standing friendship. A bosom friend-a friend who knows each other very well. Best friend-refers to a friend who is very trustworthy and easy to talk to. Best, best friend. Best friend is a derogatory term in a friend's address. Male girlfriends-Male girlfriends belong to a new vocabulary, which refers to close male friends who can have a good relationship with you, go shopping together and share everything carefully, but are not lovers. A man's girlfriend is the kind of person who talks about everything with girls and is loyal to them. Women regard her as their opposite sex confidant. You can talk to them when you are wronged, and you can talk to them when you are emotionally troubled. Forgot to make friends-break the age and generational differences and make friends. Forgetting refers to the friendship between the opposite sex. A friendship between gentlemen refers to moral friendship, that is, friends who support each other morally. Don't be antagonistic to each other-this means that we are connected to each other without any opposition to each other. Cold neck-refers to deep friendship, which can share life and death, honor and disgrace. Poor friends-friends you make when you are down and out. Cloth-refers to making friends with each other without being an official. Market loyalty-in ancient times, it refers to friends made by business means, and they forget their righteousness because they value interests, which is later called the friendship of villains. A friend in need-refers to a friend in need. A casual acquaintance-refers to knowing each other only, but not very well. Turn of the Chu Jiu-refers to the friendship regardless of poverty. A friend in Jin Lan-a friend with similar feelings. Later, it also refers to sworn brothers, also called handkerchiefs. Friendship of bamboo and horses-refers to friends who used bamboo and horses as playmates when they were young, and friends who have been friends since childhood. Near-near-re-embodiment friendship-refers to the fact that both father and son make friends. Friendship with one car and one hat-refers to friends regardless of rank. Stone-to-stone friendship-refers to a profound friendship, rock-solid. Make friends with the past-refers to friends made in the past. Heart-to-heart friendship refers to friends who talk about everything and talk to each other. The friendship between poetry and prose-refers to the friendship between poetry and prose. Heart-to-heart friendship-refers to the friendship between Marx and Engels, two revolutionary giants, which is unmatched by any friendship in the world. Marx admired Engels' talent and said that he had been following in Engels' footsteps. Engels always thought that Marx's talent should surpass himself. In their common career, Marx was the first violinist, and he himself (Engels) was the second violinist. The writing and publication of Das Kapital is the crystallization of their great friendship. Engels and Marx's Das Kapital was published in Hamburg, Germany on September 1867, which is a great event in the whole international workers' movement and the crystallization of the friendship between the two giants. This understanding of friendship was so profound that it even lasted until the death of Marx. When Marx was seriously ill, he told his daughter Elena that he hoped Engels could "do something" for the unpublished second and third volumes of Das Kapital. Of course, even if Marx did not make such a request, Engels would have done so. Since the death of Marx in 1883, Engels put down his work and spent ten years trying to sort out and publish the last two volumes of Das Kapital, supplementing many materials and rewriting some chapters, so that Das Kapital was published in 1885 and 1894. Friends who communicate common sense, also known as friendship, are very important communication objects in interpersonal relationships. Some people communicate with friends from beginning to end and give up halfway. Some even turned against each other, plotting against each other and attacking each other. In fact, in the final analysis, this is all because I have not mastered the skills of successful communication with friends. So, how to communicate successfully with friends? In my opinion, besides sincerity and tolerance, we should also pay attention to the following 10 questions: 1. Listen to your friend. As a friend, you should learn to listen. When your friend encounters setbacks and troubles, he will find someone to vent his emotions. As a friend, you can listen to each other sincerely and patiently, which opens an emotional outlet for your friend. When a friend tells you something, you should not only listen patiently, but also insert one or two words of emotional comfort from time to time, or give your friend some ideas and methods, so that his feelings will get out of the swamp, and he will feel that having a friend like you is the real reliance, and his feelings will be deeper and his friendship will increase day by day. A lady was extremely depressed because of her marriage accident, so she called her female friend to talk about her troubles. However, these days, just as this girlfriend was busy with her work, she couldn't find time to listen to her friends. As a result, this lady finally ended her life in anger because she couldn't bear the emotional repression for a while. If I had taken the time to listen to that friend's story and made some comforts, my friend would not have hit the wall. 2. Friends should also be divided into relatives and friends. Although they are the friendliest or most reliable communication objects in the social circle, human nature is complicated. When communicating with friends, you should also think carefully and distinguish between relatives and friends. By nature, most people who become friends have similar interests and personalities, similar interests, similar educational level, lofty personality, empathy and so on. In terms of communication reasons, there are embarrassing friends, friends who never turn their faces, friends who are in need, friends who are friends of gentlemen, friends who have forgotten the past, friends who have met once, friends who live in the market, friends who live in the past and friends who have old friends. No matter what the reason is, friends, after contact for a period of time, should have a choice, should have relatives and friends. For example, some friends are sincere and pure, and naturally they can be sincere and caring; However, some of them are invested in you for some utilitarian purpose. Once the benefits are not achieved or you are too poor to be useful to him, he will leave you Such friends can't be close. What's more, it is better to keep a certain distance. 3. Enough is enough and ask for human feelings. People can't make friends without human relations. However, people can never ask for more. You ask for help once, and people help you. If you don't know much about it and push your luck again and again, your friends will be bored and disgusted with people like you, and the relationship between friends will be unsustainable. Others don't consider each other's tolerance. In order to meet their own needs, they engage in friendship coercion, which is also an act that makes friends disgusted. 4. Show up when friends need it most. Facing the complicated society and changeable nature, no one can guarantee that they are all right, Dont Ask For Help, and no one boasts that their lives will never be in danger. Therefore, when people encounter difficulties, they are always eager for help. Therefore, as a friend, when others need your help, you must show up in time and sincerely reach out to help your friend and help him tide over the difficulties. As long as you grasp this principle of communication, your friendship with friends will increase day by day. 5. Communication should be "moderate". China has a philosophical saying that "extremes meet". In life, anything that goes too far will go to the opposite side. The same is true of communication between friends. The past is very close and prone to cracks. Only by grasping a moderate degree can the friendship between friends become eternal. This is because everyone's culture, morality, personality, attitude towards life, work potential and family situation are different. The size of this difference is sometimes proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is, the more frequent communication, the greater the tension, and the communication between friends, whether it is time or distance. , must be kept separate, in order to achieve "meaning is still unfinished". 6. Don't idealize your friends. There are no two identical leaves in the world. Friends are similar in temperament, like-minded and congenial in temperament, but friends are living people after all, and they will always be different from you. There are always some shortcomings, and there are always secrets that people don't want to know. Therefore, when communicating with friends, don't idealize your friends, and don't take "I" as a reference for all your words and deeds. First of all, you should tolerate your friend's shortcomings. Therefore, once we find his shortcomings, we should tolerate them generously, choose the right time and method, and sincerely help him overcome them. Secondly, let friends keep themselves. When you communicate with your friends, you can't insist that your friends must be your "copies". Let friends have their own hobbies and personalities. If you arbitrarily ask your friends for hobbies, just like you, then your friends will leave you. Third, respect the privacy of friends. Don't let your friends report everything to you. It seems that friends who don't talk to you about things are unfaithful to you, not friends. If you are so overbearing and demand your friends with such idealized standards, your friends will also resent you. 7. Grasp friendship and love correctly. Besides love, there should be a place for friendship between men and women. There are gender differences between men and women. As long as we pay attention to discretion, we can establish a healthy, elegant and pure friendship. This requires the existence of friendship between male and female colleagues and between male and female classmates. This requires men and women to grasp the relationship between friendship and love; First, men have offended women's dignity and should respect the personality of female compatriots; Second, both men and women should recognize the difference between friendship and love. Friendship is only a friendly exchange between men and women, and love has certain responsibilities to each other, such as family and marriage, which is specific and binding. There is an insurmountable gap between friendship and love, which can be developed in friendship without crossing the line. If one or both parties cross the line, there will be feelings between men and women and they will enter the stage of love, but once they change back to friendship due to some internal and external factors, they will become "different" friendships. 8. Friends should also say "no". Friends often ask for something, which is natural. Some people often ask for something beyond the scope of principles and objective reality. For example, some friends entrust you with things beyond your master's ability, and there is nothing you can do; Some friends entrust you with something against your subjective will, and so on. If you encounter such a situation, as a friend, you should say "no" decisively. First of all, you have done a lot of things against your principles. Once you are caught, you and your friends will become prisoners or lawbreakers. Secondly, you can't do things beyond your ability. If you don't explain the situation and refuse, it will hurt your friendship because you didn't do it. Thirdly, if you don't refuse something against your will, it will affect your mood of making friends with you, and it will also hinder you from paying attention to the ways and means when entrusting friends, and you can't be blunt and rash. Common methods; First, you can patiently dissuade and state your interests; Second, you can explain the situation solidly and let your friends understand your difficulties; The third is to make a detour, handle it tactfully, and skillfully use other methods to help complete the things entrusted by friends. 9. Don't just pursue utility. It is human nature to make friends for mutual benefit. However, don't treat the communication with friends as purely utilitarian communication. The communication between friends not only helps each other, but also has the functions of exchange of ideas, complementary knowledge, emotional comfort and pleasure. If friends blindly pursue utility, then such friends will not last long. 10. Leave free space for friends. People communicate with friends for friendship, but friends may have other social circles besides you. Therefore, you should first allow your friends to communicate with people who disagree with you. Be generous when you find that the other person you make friends with is the one who has had friction with you. If you blame your friend for this, your friend will be in a dilemma. Secondly, don't confine the circle of friends to your space. If you "bind" your friends around you regardless of whether others like it or not, it will only be counterproductive. Even if you "bind" your friend's body, you can't "bind" your friend's heart. Most friends will hate you and leave you.