How to make your girlfriend happy when she is angry? When two people are together, boys should be more accommodating to girls, and girls should be more considerate of boys. Boys in daily life are at a loss when they are angry with their girlfriends. They don't know what to do, so how can they make their girlfriends happy when they are angry? Let's take a look together.
How to make your girlfriend happy when she is angry 1 1. Distraction method
If you make your girlfriend angry, you must have coaxed her before, but it didn't work well. At this time, you might as well coax her by distracting her. For example, if you suddenly change from coaxing her to saying nothing, then she will definitely stop to see what's wrong with you, and then you can say to her:
That new shop that we opened downstairs, you've always wanted to eat. Pack your things and let's go downstairs for dinner!
Didn't you say you were going shopping to buy spring clothes that day? I'll go shopping with you later!
Do you want to buy everything in your shopping cart? Let me help you empty it!
Distract her with these interesting topics, and she will be embarrassed to be angry with you and ignore you at this time.
Second, coax her with words.
In fact, my girlfriend is angry because she wants her boyfriend to coax her and follow her little temper. At this time, you can use such words to coax her:
Baby, don't be angry. Look, you are angry, even our cat is afraid.
I heard that being angry can make people ugly. If you continue to be angry, you will regret it. I don't want such a beautiful girlfriend to be ugly!
This time, I was wrong. I deeply reviewed my own problems and hoped that the Queen would forgive me for this mistake.
It depends on your specific situation to coax your girlfriend with words. It should be noted that if you coax her, your girlfriend will "skip" a few more times. At this time, you need enough patience to guide her not to get angry.
Third, empathy and comfort
In fact, it's hard for boys to be angry with their girlfriends. At this time, we might as well use empathy to comfort our best friend and let her know that she is not the only one who is sad. When you see her angry, you will feel that everyone is in balance, and you will realize your mistake and leave you alone. What should I say about you? For example:
On the nth angry day, when I got up in the morning, there was no good morning and breakfast. Everything in your feelings is meaningless. I don't know when I can return to my normal life. Life without you is really hard.
In fact, I knew I was wrong as soon as the words came out that day, but the so-called face kept me from coming to you. Now that I think about it, face is really worthless in front of you. Only you are the most important thing in my heart.
Actually, I feel bad when you are angry. Now I just hope you can give me another chance, and I promise not to make mistakes in the future.
If you make your girlfriend angry, the most important thing is to make her happy according to what your girlfriend is angry about.
How to make your girlfriend happy when she is angry? Method 1: appease the words.
1, ask what questions. Let your opinions be published only internally. Give her a chance to uncover her inner story. When you hear her head, you can nod your head and make some short comments as needed. You may not want to tell her why she is angry with you. If yes, please don't use it by force. Just tell her she needs help, tell her you like it, and then give her some time to cry.
"How do you feel now?"
"What have you been unhappy about recently?"
"I think I'm angry ... are you okay? What's wrong? "
"If you need to talk to someone, I'm here."
2. Expressing support can't be ignored. You don't have to agree with her. When she is sad or angry, let her assure you that you will be there for her. Take her to private space and make her cry. Let them know that you are on her side.
"I am really having a hard time now. Sorry. "
"I can't even imagine how I feel now. This must be very difficult. "
"I'm sorry, I'm very angry. If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know. "
3. Find out the problem and simply express your feelings. Just show the other person that you understand their problems, and you can help them calm down. But it must be short and clear. "
"You should be promoted. Unfortunately, things did not develop as expected. "
"She is a very good friend. I am sorry for her actions. "
4. Avoid suggestions. For most people, it is difficult to solve the problems they face, so their emotions become strong. Don't give her a solution. You may have considered the solution before you speak. In this case, if you give the same advice, it will only affect the severity of the problem. Instead, let's say this:
"It's really hard for this to happen."
"I wish I could have an answer or a solution to tell you. I hope you remember that I am always by your side. "
"What do you think will be the next step?
"How do you want to solve this problem?"
5. Accept and sympathize with her feelings. It may not be easy, but letting her control the situation and emotions will help her control her emotions and emotions. Don't give her advice or position based on your experience, but let her have room to express her feelings. In particular, naming her emotions and saying the following will help her control her emotions:
"I know you want it very much. If I am like you, I will be really disappointed. "
"You have the right to feel sad. If I were in your situation, I would feel sad. "
"When I saw you feel depressed and angry, I thought I knew. I see. A bit like that. "
6. Stay optimistic. This is really important. When you support her, please keep reminding her that things will get better and better. She may try to ask your advice. Never have a negative attitude. Let your positive energy light up the atmosphere of conversation, and her emotions will gradually accept your energy and gradually disappear.
"You can express your feelings. You know, even those terrible feelings will disappear with time. "
"Let's think of good memories together. Do you remember the time? "
"I know ... that's really bad. I will stay with you until things get better. "
7. Don't ignore her problems or look down on her. The reason for being next to an emotional girlfriend is not to improve the situation, but to support her. Saying "no problem" or "I've had the same thing before" is like telling her that you won't take her problem seriously. Make sure to avoid using the following words:
"In any case, that's very kind of you. That's not worth your time. " The fact that her feelings have been intensified is that she thinks it is worth it.
"I know exactly how you feel." Just as everyone is different, everyone's problems must be different. You'll never know exactly how she feels. And she knows it.
"You are really strong. Everything will be fine. " Sometimes people need time to show off their weak appearance. Don't let her show off her feelings just because she doesn't appear "weak"
"I also know that this is terrible. I have experienced before ... "Now this question has nothing to do with your past. Don't try to change the subject.
Method 2: Physical comfort.
1. She should be patient when controlling your emotions. I don't want to act passively. Observe her, wait and when to take action. It may take her some time to express her strong feelings to you. Of course, it may depend on her excitement. Please remember that only by communicating with her can you know the above time. Make sure she's ready to talk about her feelings.
Don't disturb her only when she tells you not to disturb her. Even if she is angry or excited, it is best to stay with her until she calms down.
2. Relieve through physical contact. Even slight physical contact can play a good role. Physical contact releases a hormone called oxytocin, which promotes various positive emotions, such as connection, trust, attachment and intimacy. When shaking hands, wipe your knuckles with your thumb or massage in circles on the back of your hand. Putting a hand on her shoulder or back has the same effect.
It is said that holding hands can greatly reduce stress. This simple action makes others feel safe and trustworthy, and lowers the level of stress hormone cortisol.
3. Hug me. Holding her tightly and patting her gently can calm her down before speaking. Remind you to hug her and comfort her. Please hug her and make her feel safe and protected.
Hugging will make the other person feel safe. Anyone can get a sense of security through close physical contact.
4. Don't be forced. A touch or hug can reassure your girlfriend. All she wants is a kiss.
5. Move the position. Take her to another place and surprise her with friendly behavior. Maybe she didn't want to be with anyone else when she was strengthening. In this case, it will help to provide her with some ways to divert her attention.
Let's have a picnic alone. You can go to the spa for massage in the afternoon. Let's go to see a new comedy movie. Let's go for a walk together.
You may joke to keep a good mood, but you need to be careful. She will respect your efforts, but your joke is likely to fail completely.
Most women will respect your efforts to appease her. But some women like to be alone when their feelings are intense. If she shows that she wants to be alone, or has already talked to herself, please consider making sure that she is alone. However, keeping your distance from yourself is not good at all. Later, she may change her mind and want to be with you.