The book also mentions that no matter how much we love our children, we instinctively start to be wary of them from the moment they are born. Out of the instinctive desire to save money, we will quickly protect everything we have, even worthless garbage. From the birth of a child, the psychology of adults is dominated by such ideas. Keep the child under control and don't let him get into trouble. Keep an eye on him. In the eyes of adults, children are keen on trivial and useless things, which makes them feel unreasonable They think that children's free exploration behavior is naive and the process is slow, and they try to do everything for them. But for children, these explorations are gratifying and interesting, and they get satisfaction from them. For example, children will ask themselves to unscrew the bottle cap, eat and wear shoes. And they will be completely addicted to these simple tasks for adults. They will try and repeat again and again to explore, discover, be excited and be happy, but adults can't stand it anymore, and finally all the affairs are done by their parents.
The pace of children's growth needs adults to wait. For example, taking children out for a walk, adults should also stop and wait. However, in real life, we adults often urge our children to move forward because we don't want to wait. Sometimes, we humans or animals do a good job of respecting children. Just like an elephant, when it is tired, it will stop and wait. Seeing this, I thought of a story I once saw walking with snails. This story is to let us know that we should respect the pace of children's growth.
I think adults should really admit their mistakes, and we really can't interfere too much with children's growth. Sometimes, it is a good choice for children to look on coldly by adults.
Childhood secret experience 2
After reading The Secret of Childhood by maria montessori, a famous Italian educator and reformer, I feel that this book has really taught me a lot, especially when we adults don't know much about children. In the process of getting along with children, adults will gradually become selfish or self-centered, and will only look at everything related to children from their own perspective, which will only lead to more and more misunderstandings between them. The child knows nothing. Sometimes adults should look at problems from the perspective of children, appreciate children more and reflect on their own behavior more.
The book also mentions that no matter how much we love our children, we instinctively start to be wary of them from the moment they are born. Out of the instinctive desire to save money, we will quickly protect everything we have, even worthless garbage. From the birth of a child, the psychology of adults is dominated by such ideas. Keep the child under control and don't let him get into trouble. Keep an eye on him. In the eyes of adults, children are keen on trivial and useless things, which makes them feel unreasonable They think that children's free exploration behavior is naive and the process is slow, and they try to do everything for them.
For children, these explorations are gratifying and interesting, and they get satisfaction from them. For example, children will ask themselves to unscrew the bottle cap, eat and wear shoes. And they will be completely addicted to these simple tasks for adults. They will try and repeat again and again to explore, discover, be excited and be happy, but adults can't stand it anymore, and finally all the affairs are done by their parents.
The pace of children's growth needs adults to wait. For example, taking children out for a walk, adults should also stop and wait. However, in real life, we adults often urge our children to move forward because we don't want to wait. Sometimes, we humans or animals do a good job of respecting children. Just like an elephant, when it is tired, it will stop and wait. Seeing this, I thought of a story I once saw walking with snails. This story is to let us know that we should respect the pace of children's growth.
I think adults should really admit their mistakes. We really can't interfere too much with children's growth. Sometimes, it is a good choice for children to look on coldly by adults.
After reading this book, I solved some doubts in my heart. I prefer to look at the problem from the perspective of children. I feel that my theoretical knowledge has also increased a lot. It seems that I really need to read more books.
Experience the secrets of childhood 3
Montessori's book The Secret of Childhood tells us that childhood is the most important period in life. Besides physical development, children's psychological development needs more attention. Many vivid and concrete examples are collected in the book, so that people can better understand children, help them develop and give full play to their personal potential.
What impresses me most is that adults' ignorance of children hinders their development and does great harm to them. In the eyes of adults, children are keen on trivial and useless things, which makes them feel unreasonable They think that children's free exploration behavior is naive and the process is slow, and they try to do everything for them. But for children, these explorations are gratifying and interesting, and they get satisfaction from them. For example, children will ask themselves to tie their shoelaces, and they will be completely addicted to these simple tasks for adults, exploring, discovering, being excited and happy in repeated attempts, but adults can't stand it anymore. Finally, even basic life skills such as dressing and wearing shoes are completely completed by adults.
In addition, due to the idea that adults want their children to succeed and their women to succeed, they always look at everything related to children from their own perspective and impose their will on them. Therefore, children have been put on invisible shackles since childhood, forced to carry out orders according to the wishes of adults and live in the expectations of their parents. Over time, they lack autonomy.
Therefore, Montessori believes that the reason why a child can't develop normally is mainly because he is suppressed by adults.
The idea that adults should be prosecuted makes me feel very sad. Perhaps, many parents are under the banner of "for children", but they don't know that their actions are hurting their children step by step. Children are not only material existence, but also spiritual existence. We understand children correctly, adapt to their thinking, adapt to their pace, and really pay attention to their growth from their needs.
Today, we should pay more attention to children's problems. Under the examination-oriented education system in China, children's learning pressure is increasing. In order to "prevent children from losing at the starting line", in addition to exams and homework, children should also participate in various interest classes, cram schools, family counseling and so on. Can you bear it with care? In fact, children are complaining about this kind of life, but parents are bent on it. How can children keep their original beauty in such a cruel social competition environment? Such a heavy problem deserves our consideration.
As normal students, we should try our best to help children create an environment suitable for their age in the future, let their psychological life develop naturally, listen to their voices, take it as our responsibility to understand and listen to their children, and let them grow up healthily and happily. Only in this way can we safeguard children's rights, open a new era of education and really help mankind!
Experience of childhood secrets 4
The Secret of Childhood reveals the secrets of children's growth and development, describes children's psychology in great detail, and also shows us the secrets of children's hearts, so that adults can see their wrong educational methods, fully expounds that the reason for children's psychological deviation is that adults hinder and suppress children, and puts forward correct educational methods and guiding ideology. The Secret of Childhood is divided into three parts: mental embryo, new education, children and society. In this book, Montessori collected many vivid and concrete examples, and after careful observation and thinking, he drew an important conclusion: childhood is the most important period in life, and children's psychological development needs to be highly valued. Because in a sense, children are their own creators-children are the father of adults.
The Secret of Childhood is a good book, which deserves people to think, taste, understand and explore children's inner world. It points out the fallacy of common sense education and puts forward some educational methods that we have never thought of. Through this book, I can not only see the wrong way of treating children in today's society, but also understand the inner world of children more deeply.
In today's society, although children's status has improved, people have realized the importance of children's psychology, but these are only superficial things that adults do to help children, and they have not yet penetrated into their spiritual life. The happiness of an adult is actually closely related to his childhood. Adults often blame their mistakes on their children, which causes children to have an indelible psychological shadow. Any influence we have on children will affect the development of mankind, because a person's character is formed in the sensitive and secret period of childhood. Therefore, we must make sustained and sincere efforts for children's rights, enhance people's understanding and awaken people's hearts.
Psychoanalysis has come to a surprising conclusion that mental illness may have originated in infancy. Adults have the greatest influence on children, especially mothers. A series of events show that the cause of children's pure psychological trauma is the suppression of children's spontaneous activities by a dominant adult, which is the conflict between children and adults. This kind of conflict is difficult to solve and is still regarded as a sign of the cause. Therefore, we should devote more energy to study children's new fields, understand children's psychological life, awaken adults' awareness of caring for children, help children's psychological development and pay attention to children's education.
About children's education, we need teachers' guidance and psychological preparation. He should first understand his own shortcomings and temper, instead of focusing on the child's bad temper and shortcomings. But this does not mean that we must agree with everything that children do. We should implement an appropriate reward system for children's right and wrong, leaving room for children to think, so as to better let children know whether his approach is correct or not.
In the long-term experience of educating children, experts gradually realize that not only adults have a sense of dignity, but children also have a strong sense of personal dignity. However, adults never realize that children's psychology is extremely fragile and depressed. For example, when guests visit, they know how to go to work and know how to receive them sincerely and friendly. They respect their guests and are proud to show them their abilities, which proves that children have their own pride.
In fact, from small to large, family and society are shouldering heavy responsibilities. However, people in the world don't understand each other and have conflicts, which deeply hurt children's loving young hearts. In the civilized era, we should realize people's desire for mutual understanding step by step, so that children can be revived, rejuvenated and live among adults again!
Experience the secrets of childhood 5
"The Secret of Childhood" is a famous book of early childhood education that is popular all over the world, and it has made a very beneficial exploration and answer to the mystery of early childhood. Montessori listed a large number of common examples in our lives, which vividly described the physical and psychological characteristics of children in detail. In the process of reading, Montessori accused adults. In her argument, I felt guilty when I read it. Indeed, until now, in our lives, there are still some wrong behaviors in educating children like those listed in the book. By reading this book, I reflected on the wrong way of communicating with children in my daily life, which also has a certain warning effect on my future education.
By reading this book, I learned that children are not an unconscious individual. On the contrary, children have a huge spiritual world that even adults are not allowed to disturb. Once disturbed, children will develop in the opposite direction to their own personality. Adults are self-righteous, act according to their own will, and will not consider children's feelings, which will violate children's psychological wishes. Children have their own order pattern, and once adults disrupt this order pattern, it will have an impact on children.
In this book, the author lists a large number of examples to support her argument. Montessori believes that children are born with a sense of order, and adults should not disturb this order with their own will. For example, a little girl sleeps in a crib with railings when traveling. When she returned to the apartment and could only sleep in a big bed with adults, she cried and kept coaxing. It was not until at last that she became a right angle with the two pillows and became a railing in her memory that she slept well and stopped crying. This is because the children's bed with railings gives her a sense of support and security. Once this order is disrupted, children will become anxious. Putting things in the wrong place will seriously disturb children's memory patterns about how things should be placed. Adults often don't understand children, don't understand the reasons why children cry, but think that children "lose their temper" for no reason and reprimand them. This kind of similar example is very common in our life. The key to developing a child's personality lies in him. If he has a process of development and a law that he must abide by, there must be a subtle force, and the untimely intervention of adults will hinder the secret play of this force.
Children and adults have two different intellectual horizons, which is not only a matter of degree, but also a matter of gradual transformation from childhood to adulthood. Montessori used many examples to prove that children are more observant than adults. Adults tend to ignore some unimportant details, but children are different in their sensitivity to these small details. In the teaching of teachers, teachers should always pay attention to their words and deeds, and every subtle movement is within the sight of students. Just as students all carry the shadow of teachers, students have a strong ability to imitate teachers. The teacher's writing posture, the way of doing things and the attitude towards people all have an invisible influence on students.
Montessori said that adults should try to understand children's needs, so as to provide a suitable environment for them to be satisfied. Only in this way can we create a new era of education and bring real help to mankind. If children want to develop their own personality, adults must control themselves and understand their expression. And adults should take this as a special thing, so as to understand and follow children. This reminds me that in the teaching profession, teachers should take students as the main body and respect students' choices in classroom teaching. Teachers can follow students instead of students following teachers completely. For example, reading, the teacher does not necessarily require all students to read according to the teacher's standards. Students can read in their own way and choose their favorite sentences. In students' experiments, teachers should not replace students' operations, but should play a guiding role and guide students. Pay attention to the rhythm of students' acceptance of knowledge. Students are slow to accept knowledge. Teachers should be patient and tolerant enough to let students master knowledge at their own pace. Too much teacher intervention will only make students feel pressure and hurt their self-confidence.
In teaching, we should pay attention to strengthening students' self-practice ability. The knowledge gained by students' practice is more profound than that taught by teachers. Students get the joy of experience in practice, even if they make mistakes, they can't hinder their happy mood, and grow faster in mistakes.
Montessori also talked about the more obvious problem of doting in our society now. Montessori believes that family wealth should give children happiness, not luxury environment. There are many "little emperors" and "little princesses" now. When they go to college, they can't wash clothes, clean, or even let their parents accompany them. Under the doting of parents, children escape from reality, and everything is arranged by parents, which leads to the decline of anti-frustration ability and weak self-survival ability.
In the book, Montessori also mentioned that not only adults have love for children, but children also have love for adults, but this love is often interrupted unconsciously by adults. For example, when children wake up in the morning, they will go to their parents' room to wake them up. This is out of love for his parents, which means "a new day has come, get up and enjoy it." But adults will say "don't bother me in my room early" to hurt children. When the child's behavior is restrained, it will develop in the direction of adult stop and adult will. In this development process, children's original love and personality gradually disappear. Teachers should fully understand students and be good at communicating with them. For example, students help the teacher clean the blackboard and take the initiative to help the teacher pick up chalk. These are all out of love for the teacher. This expression of love sometimes fails to get the teacher's response, which will hit the students. Even teachers don't understand the expression of students' "love" and blame students wrongly. Students sometimes express their love for their teachers in different ways. Teachers should be good at listening to students' voices and paying attention to them.
The Secret of Childhood is not only of profound educational significance to our normal students, but also a parenting classic for parents. I think everyone should read this book and explore the mystery of the children in it.