This is not a fantasy. Many children's academic performance in grade one is average, and grade three is suddenly like "hanging up". Examples of middle-class students squeezing into the top three abound!
Why don't children "begin to understand"? If you want children to understand, you must first understand why children just don't understand. There are two reasons: the brain neural network is not open and the cognitive framework is not established.
First, the brain neural network is not open.
Research by brain scientists shows that a person's IQ is directly related to the number of neuronal connections (networks) in the cerebral cortex.
The number of neuronal connections is related to the stimulation of external environment. The more stimulation, the more neuronal connections, and the smarter the child is to the brain. Some children may lack external stimuli when they grow up, so their brains feel inflexible.
Second, the cognitive framework of the brain has not been established.
The reason why children's brains don't begin to understand is because there is no framework to continuously improve their cognition during their growth. The brain's reserve of knowledge is fragmented, one-sided and not specific enough.
For example, a topic that children still don't understand after reading many times shows that children lack the ability to see the essence through phenomena. To improve this ability, we need to build a cognitive framework through the accumulation of key points.
So how can we make children understand? Self-driven awakening is the key, and both external stimulus and cognitive framework are based on awakening self-drive. Only when children actively explore learning methods, understand knowledge and receive more stimuli can the cognitive framework be established quickly.
Self-motivation is an ability that many parents ignore. When I was young, parents used to choose clothes, shoes, schools and even hobbies for their children. Over time, life seems to be like parents, and children's initiative is getting worse and worse. Parents still think it's good for their children, but it's actually not helping.
To stimulate children's self-motivation, parents should understand Marosey's demand theory. In this theory, it is mentioned that human beings have five needs: physiological needs, security needs, belonging and love needs, respect needs and self-realization needs.
So are children. Many parents give their children the needs of physiology, safety and belonging, but ignore the importance of respect and self-realization. Madame Curie once said, "Only by walking on your own can the road get wider and wider." .
What parents have to do is give their rights to their children! Parents don't want to do everything. The children had a day's class to learn about it. They have a general impression of what they don't know and what they don't fully understand. Parents can only give advice!
Parents can help their children disassemble their goals, so that they can achieve them more easily. This is to give advice to children, not to help them make decisions.
In addition to giving children rights, parents should not be stingy with encouragement. Encouragement from trusted people is another major factor for children to become sensible. There is a psychological effect in the field of education called "Rosenthal effect".
It is said that there are two psychologists, one is Rosenthal and the other is Jacobson. They went to a school where children's grades were very low, so they gave a group of children an IQ test. After the test, Rosenthal made a list of the smartest children (everyone was selected). Soon after, the miracle was discovered, and every student's grades made remarkable progress. Everyone was bursting with confidence and eager for knowledge!
This experiment shows that parents' encouragement is also very important for children to understand their brains, and children will continue to work hard after hearing their parents' comments.
So parents, from today on, don't help, do those thankless things, and always remember that life is your child's own, and all you can give is advice.