To understand this problem, we first need to know the origin of marriage.
I matriarchal society-origin
Why did marriage originate from matriarchal society?
This is a social organization with hereditary blood relationship according to matriarchal calculation.
Mainly the emergence of primitive agriculture and animal husbandry, men mainly engaged in fishing and hunting activities, and women engaged in gathering activities. Fishing and hunting are very difficult, and animals can't be hunted every day. However, as long as the environment does not change greatly, women's collections can basically keep enough food every day, so the food sources obtained by fishing and hunting activities are more stable than those obtained by historical archaeologists. In primitive society, 80% of food was collected by women and shared with food sources.
In other words, it has achieved a leading and dominant position in production and economic life, which is the so-called "matriarchal society".
The form of marriage in matriarchal society is "walking marriage".
Walking marriage is an important part of matriarchal society.
Walking is a relationship between morning and evening, and it can also be understood as a one-night stand. Walking marriage is characterized by no marriage relationship between men and women. Only at night will the man stay in the woman's house, and he will be busy with his life and labor during the day. At night, the man will knock on the woman's door with a unique password. Emotion is the key factor to maintain the relationship between divorced men and women. In case of emotional weakness or personality disagreement, they can cut off the relationship at any time, so the freedom of feelings is the highest. In the matter of divorce, women have the upper hand. Once the woman no longer opens the door for men, this divorce relationship will come to an end.
"Walking marriage" is a way of reproduction and the main way of emotional connection between men and women. This way is essentially a freestyle form of temporary combination-at any time-at any time.
Second, the patriarchal society.
This is a social organization with blood relationship inherited by the paternal line.
The emergence of social organizations that prefer boys to girls is mainly due to natural disasters and sudden changes in the environment. It has been reflected in the history of primitive society. In a few years, due to environmental changes and land drought, winter snowstorms caused difficulties in food supply. Our ancestors were so hungry that they had to dig seeds under trees to keep alive.
The discovery of seeds also represents the emergence of agriculture and aquaculture. With the development of social productive forces, the emergence of men's prominent position in the production sector, men began to occupy a dominant position, and men began to dominate women to ensure the purity of their bloodline.
The most prominent mode of male-dominated society is "polygamy".
Social organizations that used to exist in the collective life of matriarchal tribes have gradually evolved into patriarchal society with families as the unit.
The patriarchal society gradually gave birth to "private ownership", which is an important standard of human evolution and the root of all kinds of wars and struggles.
Even if the essence of marriage is to inherit property and carry on the family line, who will pass it on to men? Must be your own flesh and blood.
How can I be sure that this child is mine?
Then the best way is to strictly control women's chastity-to ensure that women are the only sexual objects of their offspring-simple and rude but simple and effective.
This ensures that property can be passed on to future generations.
Marriage is a social contract, and both parties are husband and wife, but the essence of this contract is not husband and wife, but a contract between men and other men to divide women's "ownership".
This marriage relationship is unequal. A woman has never been treated as an individual. She can be regarded as the private property of her husband's family.
The marriage system in this period is essentially a property right system.
From this, it can be concluded that marriage is the product of social development and is not necessarily related to "love".
Third, feudal society.
This kind of marriage has evolved to the extreme, especially since the Han Dynasty, where Confucian culture has dominated, and "chastity view" and "three obedience and four virtues" are the values that have always bound women.
Under the feudal social system, women have no productivity and can only rely on men to survive. At this time, women have almost no dignity as human beings.
Thousands of years of feudal society, many ideas are deeply rooted, even in modern times, countless people are still poisoned and influenced by feudal ideas. Even today, in many remote mountain villages, women belong to a subordinate and have no dignity and status. The essence of this kind of marriage is a transaction.
Fourthly, monogamy in modern society.
There are two main reasons for the emergence of modern monogamy. From the 1960s to the 1980s.
First, the productivity has been greatly improved, and women can live without being attached to men.
Second, the ratio of male to female is unbalanced, because there is a strong preference for boys, especially in rural areas, the concept of pursuing boys has always existed, and modern scientific and technological conditions are developed, which makes it easy to have boys, resulting in an imbalance in the ratio of male to female.
Therefore, the evolution of marriage system is inseparable from family and survival. Once the existing living environment changes, the way of marriage will also change.