The thing I regret most since becoming a mother is that my daughter only drank breast milk for 15 months. I still remember the pain of weaning off breast milk, which is no less painful than childbirth. If the mother's breast milk is good, it is recommended to let the baby eat it until natural weaning. It will not only enhance the relationship between mother and daughter, but also be good for the baby's health. Breast milk is the healthiest food for the baby, without any pollution or bacteria. Those who say girls should eat less milk. It is nonsense to say that breast milk loses its nutrients after seven or eight months, or that breast milk loses its nutrients when a woman is on her menstrual period, and it is also painful for the mother to directly wean her child from breast milk, and it is particularly painful to breastfeed.

I also experienced mastitis many times during breastfeeding. The mammary glands were blocked, the milk was blocked, and the nipples were chapped. But when I weaned the baby, I also had brain cramps. I always regretted it afterwards. I felt sorry for the baby because of my The milk has always been very good. When the baby was born, the baby next door, who was born 3 months earlier than ours, had no milk to drink. He always relied on the milk I expressed, and I had to pour hundreds of milliliters of milk every day, leaving my mother on the balcony. The aloe vera was so fat that it became fat again [covering face]. Every time I feed my baby, I feel a sense of accomplishment because I save a lot of money on milk powder. And there is also a feeling of enjoyment, because this is my alone time with my daughter [shy]. Therefore, it is recommended that mothers continue to breastfeed their children until they are weaned naturally. Enjoy your unique time with your children.

Life was still very difficult at that time. From pregnancy to breastfeeding, I did not take any special nutritional supplements. I just ate normal meals. I only ate one chicken for one month. However, as a young person, my milk was particularly abundant. She is also very nurturing. Before my son was 4 months old, he had to get rid of the excess milk every day. However, my son was extremely fat and strong, so he was well-behaved and cute. He could communicate with me even before he was a month old. Every time she would stop to look at me and smile in the middle of feeding, or talk to me like "uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh."

Because of fatigue, I lost weight quickly after taking maternity leave and going to work. When my son was ten months old, my breast milk was no longer enough. By then, my son could eat rice porridge, and he could eat it in one go. After losing a bowl of rice porridge, I naturally reduced the feeding. In the last two months, I only fed her once at night and fed her normally during the day. Then when he was one year old, I decided to wean my son without any hesitation, and we took the weaned milk with us. The last time we decided not to feed him for dinner at night, we fed him a full rice porridge, and woke up in the middle of the night to eat. I only feed her a few calcium-soaked milk biscuits, and this habit of eating a few biscuits in the middle of the night continued for several months. My son was successfully weaned without crying or fussing or leaving me for one day!

What is very amazing is that from that day on, I really had no more breast milk! Later, someone asked me about my experience in weaning my child, and almost no one believed that I weaned my son in this way! But this is the fact. Therefore, my experience is that when weaning, don’t stop suddenly. You should first slowly reduce the amount of breastfeeding and increase the amount of normal meals, especially during the day, gradually reduce the amount of food and stop eating. In this way, the weaning will be natural and there will be no pain for adults and children.

Never wean unless objective circumstances dictate.

Let me tell you about my situation. I have not been working since I got married and am waiting at home for the birth.

When my son was more than one year old, I felt a deep economic crisis, so I thought about weaning my child and going out to find a job.

Now that I had decided, I made up my mind and left the child with my mother-in-law. I left quietly early in the morning before she woke up.

The family fully supports it. They said that children were weaned in this way in the past, and it would be fine if mother and child were separated for a few days without seeing each other.

Because I was a first-time mother and had no experience, I just believed it.

Unexpectedly, what happened next became the decision I regret most in my life.

After I left, I heard from my family that my son couldn’t find me when he woke up. He cried heartbreakingly. When he was tired from crying, he would lie on the bed motionless and wouldn’t eat anything. He also didn’t want his favorite toy, and finally started to cry again after a while.

In the next few days, although I cried less, I was cautious in everything I did. I didn’t feel safe. I didn’t dare to grab toys when I was with other children, and I didn’t want to play with others. .

Especially at night, I felt restless and unwilling to sleep. During the first few days after I left, I often woke up crying.

As for me, I stupidly believed in the experience of the old people, because they said that this was how children were weaned in the past.

About a month later, my son's condition got better and I returned home. The moment I saw my son, I regretted my decision.

My chubby face had lost weight. When I held her in my arms, I felt that I had obviously lost a lot of weight. I could almost walk, but now I am not as strong as before because of weaning.

When he saw me, he hesitated for a while. After confirming that it was his mother, he let me hold him. At one year old, he could not speak, but he kept nibbling on my face, laughing and dancing excitedly while nibbling. .

He has been pestering me all day long. Although I still remember my mother, I clearly feel that he is a little more strange to me, mixed with temptation, distrust, timidity, and ingratiation. He gave up his previous capriciousness and doing whatever he wanted.

But when night comes, I have to look for grandma. I coax her to sleep with me, but when I wake up crying in the middle of the night, I still look for grandma.

In one month, my son went from a lively, cheerful and a bit domineering carefree baby to a frightened bird.

I can’t imagine the helplessness and despair a one-year-old child has experienced in this month.

In a world dominated by adults, his only trusted mother abandoned him, leaving him alone to face the sudden change in food and psychological loneliness.

Thinking of this, I feel terribly uncomfortable and cannot forgive myself. If I had been with him when he was weaned, if I had left him again after he was weaned, but there is no if, when he needs me the most When the time came, I abandoned him.

I resigned resolutely. This time, I don’t care how much my colleagues and leaders at my new job despise me, or what my family thinks of me, whether they say I have wasted all my efforts or whether I am willful. .

Yes, I am back before liberation, although the salary at that time was not bad.

But I don’t regret it.

My son is now 5 years old. He is as lively and cheerful as he was before he was one year old, loves to laugh, and is as domineering and trusting as he was in front of his mother.

On the premise of accompanying him, I also have a good job.

The 5-year-old is not as clingy to me as he used to be. He likes to do everything independently. I am proud of him.

I don’t know what will happen in the future, but I will never regret being with you before I was 5 years old, no matter what I lost during this period.

Only that month became the regret of my life.

So the questioner, you must not listen to what others say. In addition to the nutrition of breast milk, weaning too early will have a certain psychological shadow on the child. If you have to wean it off, you must also adopt a gentle method that the child can accept. way.

If it’s difficult to judge, the child can’t accept it, and you want to feed it, then don’t listen to what others say, go your own way and let others say it. This can also be regarded as the practice of motherhood.

Hello, Mom, I am a breastfeeding mother.

Currently, my baby is one year and five months old. He has three meals a day and can take breast milk whenever he wants.

My mother and mother-in-law have all asked me when I will wean my child, and my mother-in-law will even say something like "shy" when the child is breastfeeding. Of course, I ignore it. My child wants, I have it, why don’t I give it to him?

Fortunately, my husband is very open-minded. I told him that if I take care of my child until he is three years old, I will not be poor even if I make two years less money, and I will not become wealthy even if I make two more years of money. money man.

My child’s childhood will never come back, so I choose to accompany him.

I have a lot of time with my child, so when it comes to weaning, let it be. Maybe one day he will stop eating!

Hello, Mom, I heard your idea of ??starting weaning. In fact, it is quite similar to my time. I think most of the time, you rely more on your daughter. I think weaning, you I am no longer needed all the time. I recall that I suffered so much pain just to let my child take a sip of milk. Now that it is over, I feel empty in my heart. In addition, if the baby cries after weaning, you will start to feel unbearable again.

Let’s talk about me. There is also a saying here that “girls should be weaned early, and boys can be fed for a few more months without any problems.” But I didn’t do this. My daughter took it until she was one and a half years old. At that time, weaning was easy. I told her that she could no longer eat, and she understood. She neither cried nor fussed, and went very smoothly. I still took care of her myself during the weaning.

Mom, don’t really care too much about what others say. You can stop when you want. You can feed it as long as you want, and there’s no need to worry!

There are still many people around me who breastfeed until they are about two years old, so there is basically no argument that "the baby should not be breastfed at such an old age"!

My baby is currently 23 months old, and the weaning plan has been officially implemented since the beginning of the month. However, my baby's parenting habits are not very good. She sleeps on the breast, loves the breast during the day, and breastfeeds once or twice at night. Starting from 11 months old, I planned to give up night feeding for my baby, but failed several times because I always took care of the baby by myself. No one would sleep with her at night. She cried heartbrokenly when she couldn't have night feeding. The result was: It can never be stopped. It’s finally been postponed until now.

When he was one and a half years old, I added 200-240 ml of pure milk to my baby every day on the basis of breast milk, and a bag of yogurt every three to five days. Later, I bought the picture book "Goodbye, Mom's Milk". I didn't go very well at first. Either when I saw my mother's milk, I would fall into my arms and want to eat it, or when I saw other foods in the book, I would be so greedy that I wanted to eat them. . After flipping through the book several times, I didn’t read it again for a long time. Until the end of last month, I took it out and showed it to him a few times. He turned it over by himself, and I would talk to him next to him. Sometimes when he is breastfeeding, I will tease him. I say you are a big baby, are you ashamed, haha!

When we really start to implement the weaning plan, we plan to wean the baby to sleep first, then stop breastfeeding during the day, and then wean off night feeding after she gets used to it.

On the first day, I get up in the morning, have breakfast, and play at home. When the baby wants to feed, he gets dressed and goes out to play. After lunch, I played at home and watched cartoons until I was very sleepy. I sat on the bed and hugged him, listening to soothing music and patting him rhythmically. It was probably because he felt uncomfortable without breast milk, so he would start crying in my arms every few minutes, so I used a short video of him on my phone to attract his attention. After repeating it several times, he finally fell asleep in my arms and put him on the bed to cover him with a quilt. A sleep cycle is over, and the baby wakes up crying, making all kinds of fuss, and can't be coaxed, so he can only get dressed and go out to play. I also stayed up until I was very sleepy at night. I repeated the same method as before taking a nap, and it took almost an hour to get me to sleep. Of course, the night feeding continues.

The second day was the same as the first day. The nap time was short and she cried when she woke up. It also took an hour to go to bed at night. I would divert my attention when I wanted to feed during the day.

On the third day, the nap time was a little longer, one and a half hours, and she didn’t cry when she woke up. It still took an hour to put her to sleep at night, and she seemed to have forgotten about breastfeeding during the day.

On the fourth day, my condition was obviously much better. I no longer needed to watch short videos before going to bed. During naps and nights, I just hugged and patted my body and fell asleep.

On the fifth day, when I woke up in the middle of a nap, I picked her up and patted her so that I could fall asleep without breastfeeding, and the time I spent coaxing her to sleep before going to bed was also shortened.

On the sixth day, I was able to accept patting her on the bed to coax her to sleep. When I went to bed at night, I stayed with her and turned off the lights, and I fell asleep on my own in about ten minutes.

On the seventh day, I started weaning off night feeding. I looked for milk at two o'clock in the morning. I picked her up and walked around, patted her and read nursery rhymes. After I stopped fussing, I sat on the bed and held her until I fell asleep before putting her down. I looked for milk at five o'clock in the morning. Eat, repeat before but not coaxed, feed a small packet of yogurt (my baby's favorite), continue to pat and fall asleep after drinking, at 8:30 in the morning, I asked for milk before waking up, I was too sleepy and lazy , fed breast milk for the last time.

On the eighth day, the day went smoothly. I looked for milk at 1:30 in the morning and put me to sleep. At 4:30 in the morning, I looked for milk, fed yogurt, and hugged me to sleep. I put it down after falling asleep. I had to eat before waking up at 8:00. Milk, not fed, crying, picked up and coaxed in various ways, brought toys, and went to the balcony to watch the bus (a new pleasure recently).

Starting from the ninth day, for three consecutive days, I woke up around 1 o'clock, walked, hugged, and patted him to coax him to sleep. I woke up around 4 o'clock, fed him yogurt, and then went to sleep after drinking. Around eight o'clock, I wake up and play around, then get dressed, watch cartoons, and wait for breakfast.

On the twelfth day, I woke up once in the night and fell asleep.

From then on, I stopped eating and drinking in the middle of the night.

It has been more than two months since weaning. As long as I have a regular schedule during the day, I can stay up all night until dawn most of the time. Occasionally I wake up at night and fall asleep after being hugged.

My current feeling is that I am happy that my baby has given up breastfeeding and is moving forward to falling asleep on his own, but I am also reluctant that my baby will no longer be able to drink my mother’s milk (actually I am reluctant to let go). The image of the baby in my arms, sucking milk and smiling at me, always flashes through my mind. Reason tells me that learning to let go is the only way to love, but it is so sweet and sad to see a little person growing bigger and bigger!

Your question suddenly brought my memory back to 6 years ago. The scene of weaning my son is vivid in my mind!

My son was born on New Year’s Day. Because the umbilical cord was wrapped twice around his neck, my family was worried and chose a caesarean section. Because I didn’t know how to breastfeed properly after delivery, my baby was fed milk powder twice half a day after birth, each time filling up with 90 ml of milk powder. After eating too much and falling asleep, the baby vomited and was sent to the ICU by the doctor.

My son was not around, so I had a lot of milk the day after giving birth. In order to breastfeed my son, I got up and put on my clothes every three hours to express milk. In the cold winter months, the caesarean section hurt everywhere. I endured the severe pain and squeezed. That day lasted for 7 days. Seven days later, the doctor could not find the cause of the vomiting and discharged my baby.

Because of being hospitalized, my baby got used to the pacifier and was unwilling to suck on the nipple. As a first-time mother, I was in pain everywhere after a caesarean section. I couldn’t hold the baby correctly and breastfeed. For various reasons, the baby cried when he drank milk. When my mother-in-law heard her grandson cry, she kept scolding me for not being like a mother and not even knowing how to breastfeed the child. As I listened to the baby cry and my mother-in-law blamed me, my grievances continued to deepen. After much deliberation, I started expressing milk into a bottle to feed the baby.

Every time I pet the baby and he feels hungry, I hold him in my arms and coax him to eat. Unfortunately, the baby cries every time. My mother-in-law scolds me every time. I've been tortured to death. One night, there was indeed too much milk in my breasts and the engorgement was severe. In order to make me feel less uncomfortable, my father lay on my chest and sucked the milk. At this time, something magical happened. The baby suddenly started crying and bared his teeth and claws at his father. I quickly picked up the baby and coaxed it. The baby actually looked for the nipple in my arms and sucked it up.

The moment when the baby sucks milk in my arms, you don’t know how soft and happy my heart is at that moment. My husband is telling me now that he taught his son how to suck breast milk. Since then, I have held the baby in my arms, sucked milk, fed him while lying down, and fed him while sitting up. All positions allowed the baby to eat satisfactorily.

This baby is one year and three months old. The breast milk must have become thinner and no longer as golden and milky as it was at the beginning. My mother-in-law began to urge me to stop breastfeeding, because she disliked the fact that my milk was not nutritious enough, and the baby was as hungry and unsatisfied as rice soup. My husband also said that if the baby does not stop breastfeeding, he will always wake up at night to drink milk, which affects his sleep and affects his growth. I felt very sad after hearing this.

I get up early every day to breastfeed and then rush to work. I don’t worry about the hard work of rushing home to breastfeed at noon. I don’t mind it. It’s those who are not breastfeeding who say this and that. They don't understand that I am actually very happy when I am breastfeeding. I feel that I am the most loved person for my baby. Later, I couldn't stand their talk. I had the desire to wean myself. On the first night of weaning, the baby refused to sleep in the middle of the night, and woke up crying after a while. And I was arranged to sleep in the next room. Listening to the baby's heart-rending cry, my tears kept flowing down. Mother and son are connected, we are calling each other at that moment.

On the second night, our mother and son continued to cry like this. On the third night, my son was probably "desperate" and he probably understood that sooner or later he had to grow up independently. The baby stopped crying, and I finally gave up. At that time What I think about is not that the baby can't live without me, but that I can't live without the baby.

If you don’t have enough time, you won’t be able to post breastfeeding pictures. Thanks to my friend for asking this question, which allowed me to write so many words in 20 minutes.

Hello mom, please let me talk about my experience of weaning my child for the first time.

First of all, I want to say that I have experienced many of your feelings and I understand them. I weaned my child when he was one and a half years old. In fact, if my son meets the standard in weight and height, I really want to breastfeed him until he is two years old.

My son has been thin since he was a child, and was once suspected to be a problem with his own milk. Well, six months later, he started feeding complementary foods, but he is allergic and gets lumps after eating many things. , or it is diarrhea or constipation.

I also bought milk powder, thinking that if my milk was not good, I would add more milk powder. However, to be honest, my family tried seven or eight milk powder brands so that my son could eat milk powder, but he refused to drink any of them.

So I stuck to breast milk. My child is really dependent on me, and when he goes to sleep, he has to be next to me to sleep soundly. Because she is a stay-at-home mother, she takes care of her baby alone. When the baby goes to bed, she has to quickly clean up the housework. But he often wakes up shortly after leaving the bed. Although I no longer have freedom, I still feel that I am needed by my children, and I am very happy!

He had to be weaned when he was one and a half years old. When I went for a physical examination, the doctor said that every child is different. According to my child, if he is not completely weaned, he will not like to drink milk powder. According to the doctor, the nutritional content of my milk is obviously not as comprehensive as that of milk powder.

For the sake of my child’s health, I am willing to wean him from breastfeeding and replace him with milk powder. My mother-in-law stayed there for a few days to help me wean him. What I didn't expect was that the process of weaning my son went smoothly. After telling him that I was hurt, he really stopped touching me. When he wanted to drink milk, he looked at me and frowned and said, "Mom is hurt!"

So, dear mother, if for some reason you cannot continue to breastfeed your child, don’t be afraid of losing your son’s dependence on you, and don’t be sad about not being needed anymore. You have to know that your child You will grow up slowly and leave us to explore the world alone, but the love and trust between you will always be there!

The above is my answer, I hope it will be helpful to you!

I really can’t bear it.

When my son stopped breastfeeding, he also had a mental struggle. When he was 8 months old, I told him to stop breastfeeding so that he could eat more complementary foods. Every time the child’s father said he wanted to stop breastfeeding, Quit, my heart is always saying, just wait! Looking at his pitiful look, you have 10,000 reasons not to give him the ring!

You have been putting it off until one year old, and you really have to make up your mind to quit. Your child won’t eat for a long time during the day and always wants to crawl into your arms. Just put some toothpaste on it to make him feel that he can’t eat. Medicine. He was also worried. He wanted to eat but didn't dare to eat, so he just groaned. Because I stopped breastfeeding for him without leaving him, he wanted to eat when he saw me. He is actually a relatively well-behaved child, and he just gets over with coaxing during the day.

Nighttime is the most difficult time. It’s hard for both of us. I haven’t had any milk for a day, and the engorged one hurts when I touch it. It’s extremely hard. The child is addicted and cries so much that it makes you feel bad just watching! well! When there is nothing to do, the father gets up and holds the child for a while, waits for him to calm down, and then goes back to sleep! The first two nights were the most difficult, but he stopped crying after that. Slowly, he stopped crying in about a week!

Because I am raising the child alone, the father leaves early and comes home late every day. I quit breastfeeding without leaving him for even half a step. The suffering, addiction, crying, pitifulness, heartache, and thousands of emotions disturbed me. At this stage, the inner emotional drama must be brewed enough. When you quit breastfeeding, you will not Lost to this emotional scene, hahaha!

Finally, I wish you success in quitting breastfeeding!

Am I the only one who thinks weaning is so great? Both of my children were weaned at 4 months. First of all, there was not enough milk. In fact, mixed feeding is also possible and they can still eat 3-4 meals a day. However, my husband said that if you find it difficult, just stop breastfeeding. Anyway, the children are not. After getting used to the milk powder, I ate a lot of soup and water every day, which made me feel uncomfortable. Moreover, the weather in Sanya was hot, so breast milk engorgement was uncomfortable. The whole family agreed with me about weaning, so I successfully weaned off my baby. After a few days of my mother-in-law cooking the food to restore my baby's milk, I completely ran out of milk. Then I found that I couldn’t be happier. After weaning, my baby started feeding regularly. My husband got up to feed me at night. I slept well, got back in shape, and looked better. I felt energetic during the day when I took care of the baby. I ate something from time to time. Snacks make myself happy. After the baby goes to bed at night, my husband and I can go out for a drink. Anyway, it’s all kinds of fun. When my second child was 4 and a half months old, my husband asked me if I planned to wean. I have been adding milk powder for half a month. I started weaning decisively, and then started taking my eldest son around to play with me. My younger brother was basically left to my mother-in-law and husband. The most amazing thing is that my child weaned very easily. He never asked for milk. He was hungry. Just soak it in milk powder