The first time I heard about the word emo was when a friend said that he was an emo. Being a non-conformist, I used my ingenuity and combined with the context to judge that these three letters might mean "mourning".

Later, I looked up the meaning of emo: I am emo, which means I am emotionally up, usually negative emotions, which can be understood as "I am decadent", "I am depressed", "I'm stupid", "I'm not mainstream"

This reminds me of the atmosphere floating in the "Cloud Village" that reflects all kinds of human beings, which is both sad and burning.

2021 is the Year of the Ox. As a small person in this era, the laws of history have also made a mark in my destiny. Even if nothing happened that could break through me, I still feel that there is a missing string in my life.

So, without exception, I fell into the situation of "I am emo", so much so that some friends told me to stand up.

Everyone in this world has diseases, especially heart diseases.

Frustration at work, broken love, divorce, indifference from friends, money disputes... These things, big or small, can overwhelm a person's soul at any time, but they are inevitable in everyone's life. .

The so-called emo actually means that a person's emotions are being pulled by external objects, and he continues to get involved. However, there are always people who can take it calmly, and there are always people who often live in the past and eventually become ill.

Who doesn’t want to live a life of ease and freedom, knowing what they want. Everyone is emo late at night, and everyone wants to get out of emo...

I have summarized a few reasons for late night emo, which are nothing more than single interests, rampant perfectionism, and too many expectations. , Unwilling to admit that you are sick:

1 Single interests and hobbies

Everyone will form their own boundaries as they grow up, which is a circle. If the boundary is too small, you will keep spinning in circles, and that "frustration" will wrap around every inch of your skin, because you have no way to escape.

“I have to be scolded for these things again.”

“Why do you always have to give me such a bad job?”

“I obviously work hard. , but can’t get recognition.”

The troubles at work are always everywhere, but some people don’t take them to heart, while others always start the “immersive experience” in their troubles.

As long as human beings are free, they will continue to think about various things, and most of them are not good things.

If you have hobbies of painting and singing after work; if you are willing to break your boundaries and come into contact with more new things, worries will not have time to intrude on you. Worries are very busy. Will find someone else.

So, be a curious person and develop your own hobbies. When you are worried about work, you can paint; after quarreling with your lover, you can sing; when quarreling with friends, you can choose to...

2 Perfectionism is rampant

"All or nothing."

I have several "perfectionist" friends around me. point, they will deny this thing out of disgust.

People with perfectionism are also afraid of failure deep down. Human beings are creatures that hate failure and mistakes. They want to avoid failure and even set the failure rate to 0.

Therefore, perfectionists often have strong insecurities, are strict with themselves, and are not confident enough. Moreover, it is difficult to be curious about other things because perfectionists view these things as imperfect.

I myself also have a certain degree of "spiritual mysophobia". A friend once reminded me: "Don't have mysophobia. Life is a mixture of black and white, and no one is a pure color."

Later, under the "friendly instigation" of my friends, I came into contact with more things that I once rejected and didn't care about, and it indeed opened up a world for myself.

"Natural selection, survival of the fittest."

However, it takes time to change from a perfectionist to a grayscale person who "shakes hands" with the world.

3 Having too many expectations

Disappointment is because it does not meet expectations. If there were no unrealistic expectations, there would be no emo, because the psychological line has been drawn to the lowest level.

A friend once said to me: Do you know why I am always willing to complain to you?

"Because this trash can can hold anything."

"Because you responded and were willing to share the good and bad with you. I would also tell XXX this before , but she always says that I am internally exhausted and too idle. I think she doesn’t understand me..."

"It’s okay, you are all my future writing material."

"What the hell..."

This friend's initial expectations for me and another person were different, so he was disappointed by that person. However, when her expectations from me are high, maybe one day, I will not be able to understand her pain and joy.

"Well, human beings' joys and sorrows are not the same, so don't expect too much"

4 Don't want to admit that you are sick

Sick , this seems to be an unspeakable thing, especially if you are mentally ill.

Most people may find that only a few "elite friends" who are left behind after screening know how slovenly they are on the inside, and even complaining to these people feels offensive.

Because this kind of private and emotional matter really does not meet the label of a mature adult, let alone having the courage to go to large and wide places to seek alms solutions everywhere.

You know, most people are sick, we are all the same. Being sick is not a big deal, but not knowing that you are sick is a big deal.

We all need to reconcile with ourselves and the world, write down our emotions, acknowledge their existence, and resolve them with confidence.

Finally, I would like to give you a few words:

"The way to reduce work stress is to find interests and hobbies other than work."

"Cherish A close friend who can complain to his heart's content."

"Stop your irritability and focus on what needs to be done at the moment.

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