Redirect: Attention training that will benefit children for a lifetime

If it is found that the child is indeed hyperactive and cannot remain still for one minute in the hyperactivity test, carry out relevant training It is very necessary. I offer several common home training methods.

First, "Create a connected childhood."

For training children with concentration problems, Professor Hallowell proposed five steps of the "Advantage Cycle". The first step, and what he believes is the most important step, is to "create a A connected childhood.”

In his opinion, connected children will feel more involved in society. He could feel himself being embraced by arms of love and concern. The feeling cannot be described in words, it is deeper than faith and knowledge. Hallowell calls this emotional connection the "bonding vitamin."

With this vitamin, children's distracting behavior can be effectively regulated.

In our opinion, "creating a connected childhood" has special significance for hyperactive children. Faced with hyperactive children, parents always hope that they will stop moving and be quiet.

Is this possible?

Obviously wishful thinking.

The ancients have long understood this truth: water control does not rely on "blocking" but "draining". Children are inherently energetic, and coupled with hyperactive behavior caused by physical and psychological factors, it is obviously impossible to make them well-behaved, quiet and quiet all of a sudden.

Why don’t we take advantage of the situation and guide their vigorous energy in the right direction and path? The right direction and path is to "create a connected childhood."

Professor Hallowell specifically listed the direction and content of various connections:

and family connections. This is the connecting core of childhood. Connection does not mean the absence of conflict, and the opposite of connection is not conflict. To build a connected family, you must spend time together, communicate, interact, discuss, argue, and even fight, but you cannot ignore them.

Connect with friends and community. Friendship makes life meaningful. Children should be encouraged to make more friends and maintain friendships with their friends. Parents themselves should set an example and spend more time with friends.

Connect with the school. The focus is not on your grades, but on whether you feel comfortable, welcome, and energetic in school.

Connect with activities you love. Encourage your children to try everything. Childhood is the age of adventure. Find out what you like, love, and don't care about. The more activities you find you like, the more likely you are to have lifelong happiness.

Connect with the past. Cultivate connections between children and the past, such as letting children listen to stories told by grandparents, telling children stories about their own childhood and stories about family traditions, struggles, triumphs and hopes.

Connect with nature or a special place. As long as you take your children out to play, they will naturally connect with nature. Take them to special places like a tree house or a natural river that are part of childhood.

Connect with art. Music, nursery rhymes, dressing up, and painting, children are born artists. Once they are connected with art, they will gradually develop lifelong interests.

Connect with pets. Every child should have a pet because pets provide a special connection that is irreplaceable.

Connect with information and ideas. The biggest obstacle to learning is fear. It is necessary to cultivate children's ability to connect with information without fear.

Connect with groups, teams, and clubs. These organizations often have specific activities, specific locations, and specific organizational forms, which are very conducive to natural connections. Take them to special places like a tree house or a natural river that are part of childhood.

Connect with art. Music, nursery rhymes, dressing up, and painting, children are born artists. Once they are connected with art, they will gradually develop lifelong interests.

Connect with pets. Every child should have a pet because pets provide a special connection that is irreplaceable.

Connect with information and ideas. The biggest obstacle to learning is fear. It is necessary to cultivate children's ability to connect with information without fear.

Connect with groups, teams, and clubs. These organizations often have specific activities, specific locations and specific organizational forms, which are very conducive to children's sense of responsibility.

Connect with electronic products. A connected childhood should also include electronic products, such as mobile phones and the Internet. Many people are opposed to children using electronic products and will list many of its harms. This is true, but there is one fact: electronic products have defined modern people’s lives and modern people’s childhood. You simply cannot avoid or bypass them. It, it has become part of our lives.

For parents, it is important to treat it as part of their children's lives, not all of it.

Connect with yourself. If you create a childhood full of connections for your child and develop the various connections mentioned above, then the child will naturally have a good connection with himself, and he will appear in front of you in a healthier and more perfect form.

So many activities are enough to consume a child’s strong energy. After his energy is exhausted, can he not be quiet? More importantly, these connecting activities have extraordinary significance and effect on the improvement of children's personality, the growth of knowledge and abilities, the cultivation of positive emotions, and the shaping of good will and quality. Isn't this what we expect to achieve in one fell swoop?

Second, participate in sports activities.

Why participate in sports activities? First, children have excess energy, and sports can consume their excessive energy. Participating in sports is to find an outlet for your strong energy. Second, there are rules for sports activities, which can also train children's sense of rules.

For example, you cannot use your hands when playing football, otherwise it is a foul. In football matches, handball is punishable (except by the goalkeeper) and will affect the performance of the entire team. This sense of rules established during exercise will gradually transfer to children's daily life, which will directly help correct their hyperactive behavior.

Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sports. Some people like basketball, some people like football, and some people like table tennis. Parents should respect their children's preferences, but can suggest or guide their children to learn to swim. Why is swimming particularly recommended? Because swimming is very helpful in improving body coordination and self-control.

Third, play games.

"I'm Quiet" Game

Children's hyperactivity is often directly related to emotional instability. They rarely experience a sense of peace and stability and the enjoyment these feelings bring them. But this feeling can be obtained through game training.

The game "I'm Quiet" is actually just sitting still. In the information society, no one can live without various technological products. Many children sit in front of the TV for hours, which is harmful to the body and mind. Moreover, too many images can also interfere with children's attention.

Therefore, psychologists recommend that modern families take 5 minutes a day to sit quietly with their children and experience the happiness and joy that silence brings. Meditation can be carried out in the form of games, which is now very popular in European and American families.

For hyperactive children, it is very beneficial to play this kind of game for a long time.

Let me introduce the game process in detail:

The whole family sits together and is hosted by a parent.

The parent acting as moderator might say something like:

We are now practicing the "I'm Quiet" game.

Sit cross-legged, put your hands on your knees, and keep your whole body still.

Now, let’s say: “I am quiet.”

Say it softly three times:

I am quiet,

I'm quiet,

I'm quiet.

Silently say "I" as you inhale.

Silently say "Quiet" as you exhale.

Close your eyes and silently say "I" as you inhale.

Silently say "Quiet" as you exhale.

Inhale: "I", exhale: "Quiet".

One more time:

Inhale: "I", exhale: "Quiet".

One more time:

Inhale: "I", exhale: "Quiet".

Now, inhale deeply and exhale slowly. You will find that you feel very comfortable now.

Over the next few minutes, maintain this state for 2 to 3 minutes.

You are very quiet,

You will also be very quiet in life and study.

Open your eyes slowly.

You will get better and better.

After calming down, play the game "Let's become a mountain together". Use the image of "big mountains" to help children further experience the feeling of stability and tranquility.

The process is like this:

The whole family sits together and is hosted by a parent:

Now, let’s practice turning into a mountain.

Sit cross-legged,

Adjust your body, put your hands on your knees,

Sit upright, with your back straight,

Imagine yourself as a mountain.

The mountain makes no sound and does not move.

The bottom of the mountain is connected to the earth, and it reaches up to the blue sky.

Your legs are the bottom of the mountain, connected to the earth.

From your waist to your head are the mountain peaks.

Now, lift your arms up,

all the way into the sky.

Close your eyes and imagine what you can see from the top of a mountain.

Maybe you saw the sun, flying birds, airplanes, and rainbows (pause for 5 to 10 seconds).

Now, slowly lower your arms,

and place your hands on your knees.

Breathe in deeply,

and exhale slowly.

Become aware of how you are feeling.

Slowly open your eyes.

"Zha Zha Si" game

The props used in the Zha Zha Si game are the yoga balance mats we usually use when practicing yoga. It is also widely used in children's training. . This prop can be purchased online at a very cheap price and is very suitable for home training.

The purpose of the Zazasi game is to improve your child's self-control and concentration by training his sense of balance. The game time is about 8 to 10 minutes.

Game method:

A training: sit and stand.

Ask the child to stand on a zhazai with one foot, extend his hands flat, lift one foot, and stand on each foot for 2 minutes.

Training B: sit and twist.

Ask the child to sit on the Zhazha seat with his hands hanging down naturally. Parents should choose a fast-paced music with a strong sense of rhythm and let the children twist back and forth to the rhythm of the music. At the same time, they should remind the children not to leave the seat with their buttocks when twisting. Training time is 3 minutes.

Fourth, give them a free space.

Many people have children’s rooms in their homes, which are children’s world. In this world, children are the masters and can play freely.

If there is no children's room, you can set up a special corner in the living room as a space for children's activities. In this world, children can fully move around as long as it is not about safety.

Next, let’s take a look at a training case.

From waking up in the morning to going to bed at night, Yibing, who attends kindergarten class, is always "in a state of eternal motion." At home, he was jumping up and down, rummaging through boxes and cabinets; when he got to school, he couldn't calm down. Except for settling down when watching the cartoon "Peppa Pig", he is constantly moving at other times.

When I had dinner with their family, at the dinner table, Yibing would sometimes climb on the table, sometimes get under the table, and even secretly punch me. Without professional testing, you can tell with the naked eye: this is a child with ADHD.

Yibing’s parents took him to the hospital. After taking the medicine, his condition did improve. However, his parents were worried about the side effects of the medicine, so they found us, hoping to use non-drug methods. to help his children.

When the child first arrived, normal training could not be carried out at all - he kept moving and ignored the staff's guidance. So, we formulated a training plan that started with games, and they were games with a high amount of exercise, and we let him play until he fell to the floor tired and didn't want to move at all.

In the process of playing the game, he gained happiness and established a good relationship with our staff.

A week later, our staff suddenly said to him seriously: "Do you like it here?"

"Yes!" "That's good! If you want to come here often, you must abide by the The rules here are very simple. When you see me, say: Hello, teacher! When you leave, say: Goodbye, teacher!"

This is not a high requirement, and Yibing can completely accept it. But this is only the first step. Later, more requirements must be gradually made and a sense of rules established.

By the way, it makes no sense to raise the requirements for these children from the beginning, and will also lead to antagonism. And when the child agrees to and implements the first less demanding request, the acceptance of the second and third requests will be much higher.

Then, when Yibing gets tired from playing games, our staff will take him to do quiet training, which is also called the sitting game mentioned above. After doing it a few times, we found that the effect was very good, so we suggested that he go back and teach his parents how to do it.

Everyone likes to be a teacher. Having him as a teacher and game host gives him a great sense of accomplishment. Of course, all of this is done in advance by us in collusion with the parents. Later, the sit-down game became a traditional family game in their family. Yes, in addition to training concentration, this game can also harmonize the family atmosphere.

Once, the staff pretended to be casual and let Yibing see many children doing EEG biofeedback training in my studio.

He asked curiously: "What are they doing?"

The staff said: "It is a brain gym. They do exercises in the gym, which is very good for improving academic performance. Help."

Yibing stood there and watched intently.

The staff asked: "Do you want to try it?"

"Yes!"

So Yibing started EEG biofeedback training.

After training for a period of time, Yibing's parents said to him: "You have performed very well recently. We decided to give you a big reward - we will send you to the gym to learn swimming, and we will give you Find a personal trainer." Yibing was very excited after hearing this and jumped up with joy.

After less than a year of training, Yibing's hyperactivity has fundamentally improved, and his academic performance has also been significantly improved.

Regarding the training of hyperactive behavior, the basic principle is "to induce stillness through movement". There is no point in nagging him to be quiet, because this behavior is characterized by the child's inability to be quiet. Only through appropriate activities (activities that are valuable, meaningful, and help children develop self-control abilities) can the expected goals be achieved.