The old man is virtuous and his family business is prosperous. The old man has no virtue and brings trouble to the whole family.

If an old man has moral character and thoughtfulness, then the family will not be too bad, but will gradually become prosperous. And if an old man has no moral character, the family will suffer.

The old man is not only the elder of the family, he is also the anchor of the family, leading the development of the family and making the family more beautiful and happy.

However, we should also realize that since there are elderly people in this world who are beneficial to the family, there must also be elderly people who harm the family. What should we do about the latter?

Many people believe that elderly people who are pretentious should be patient in time, listen to their words, and at least maintain their filial piety and insist on their filial piety.

In fact, being too tolerant and too filial is not a good thing, but a bad thing. Because of the consequences of forbearance, you will only be stepped on again and again, and even some unreasonable old people will be allowed to take advantage of them.

As a child, you can be filial, but you cannot be foolishly filial. As a descendant, you can be grateful, but you cannot be blind, thereby losing your own opinion and completely becoming someone else's puppet.

In the family, when faced with those elderly people who are extremely pretentious, our best approach is not to endure it again and again, but to choose to do so.

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When facing a pretentious old man, you should keep a certain distance from him.

We have to think about a question, why are some elderly people so pretentious, even going to extremes, regardless of the life and death of their children?

Because the children are too close to the elderly, the elderly have a mentality of "bullying the familiar". And this kind of psychology is actually a very normal human thought.

From a psychological point of view, if you get too close to a person, you will lose your curiosity and vigilance towards him. At this time, he will strangle you tightly, leaving you with no room to turn.

Take the relationship between father and son as an example. At this moment, the old man was relatively confused, but he did not do anything "pretentious".

However, this son became closer to his father and completely obeyed his father's words. At the next moment, the otherwise unpretentious old man will show off his old age in front of his son, and regard this behavior as a habit.

No matter when, we must understand this truth: getting too close to others is not a kind of deep affection, but a kind of disaster.

Even for our parents, we must keep a certain distance from them, preferably a distance of "a bowl of chicken soup". In this way, we can not only preserve the deep kinship, but also make the family less contentious and more harmonious.

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When facing a pretentious old man, you must not be "foolishly filial".

China is a society based on "filial piety", and this concept of "filial piety" is also very good. However, some people have put forward the view that children should completely obey their parents.

This view is not essentially a normal "filial piety", but rather a "foolish filial piety" without independent opinions.

No matter who he is, as long as he advises you to be "foolish and filial", then he is not a normal person, but a pedantic and confused person to the extreme. Just imagine, when everyone makes mistakes, if we follow our parents' advice without distinguishing right from wrong, then we are no longer rational people, but puppets without any opinion.

Just like Su Mingzhe in "Everything Is Fine", he considers himself the eldest brother in the family and is recognized as a filial son. However, his behavior tells us that this kind of filial son is a "foolish filial son".

His father was unreasonable and demanded to buy a house in a prime location. Su Mingzhe didn't have enough money, but he still listened to Su Daqiang's advice. In the end, not only did he have problems with his family, but his marriage was also in jeopardy. If you encounter a troubled old man at home, you can try the following methods: 1. Understand the mood and situation of the old man, and respect their feelings and opinions. 2. Try to communicate with the elderly in a calm manner and avoid emotional excitement and quarrels.

3. Care and care for the elderly so that they can feel the warmth and love of the family. 4. Provide some appropriate entertainment activities for the elderly, such as watching TV, listening to music, playing cards, etc. 5. Seek professional help, such as social workers, psychologists, etc., to solve the psychological problems of the elderly. 6. Keep your mentality balanced and avoid being affected by the elderly's emotions as much as possible. In short, when dealing with a troubled elderly person at home, you need to be patient and understanding, don't give up easily, and seek help and support appropriately.