which two points should be noted? First, make sure in advance. For example, if you are a junior visiting a superior, a junior visiting an elder, and a student visiting a teacher, if you told him a week in advance, the other party may forget it, so if you are smart, you should call him again before you leave, or the night before. For example, if you come to visit Professor Jin, I have an appointment one week in advance. Please call me, Professor Jin. We want to visit your home at four o'clock tomorrow afternoon as agreed. Is it convenient? Or has there been any change? You should make sure, which means reminding me. Don't forget, Lao Jin, this is a very important point, so there won't be a fan of the air. Therefore, you need to pay attention to the Chinese New Year holiday, and you should confirm it in advance under the prior appointment.
what else should you pay attention to? You should pay attention to moderation when you visit unless you have an appointment first. I don't know if you've noticed, we usually visit other people's homes, whether it's on holidays or at ordinary times, and the concept of how long we will stay there is not very strong. In general, courtesy visits, such as comrades in the retired cadres' office of the unit or comrades in the office, visit old-timers or guests with working relationships, are as short as possible on holidays, because if you visit others, you will go there, and a house is so big that the living room will be there. It is generally advisable to stay in a guest's house for ten minutes, not too long. After greeting, the meaning will be fine. At most, you can eat two melon seeds and have a cup of tea. Don't let go there. How can others come in if you don't leave there? This is a big problem. What about family and friends visiting? When visiting relatives and friends, it is generally appropriate to be short rather than long, about half an hour is appropriate. It is not an extremely special situation and it is not appropriate to stay for more than an hour. Under normal circumstances, don't stay for dinner unless you are a close relative, an old friend, and are repeatedly detained by the other party, because the other party's burden will be heavy, so we call this enough is enough. Not only must there be an appointment first, but also enough is enough.
Thirdly, as visitors, we should pay attention to self-neatness, whether China people or foreigners, celebrate the Spring Festival, New Year's Day, National Day, Labor Day, Youth Day or Women's Day, and we should always maintain our image, so we should make necessary modifications to ourselves.
Generally speaking, there are three points to be noted in this decoration. First, to decorate your own clothes, you'd better choose a specific national costume for a specific national festival, at least clean and tidy, and don't be too sloppy.
second, what should you pay attention to? This is a relatively low-level requirement, but we still have to talk about it, that is, we should pay attention to grooming the instrument in addition to neat clothes. For example, men had better get a haircut and shave. Generally speaking, lesbians should also do a hairstyle if possible. Why? Because there is a characteristic in judging people, from the beginning, if a person's hairstyle gives others a bad feeling, it will affect their image. It is very important for the appearance, hair modification and beard removal. Moreover, when we talk about appearance, we must emphasize that it is necessary to have no odor, wash your hair, bathe and wash your hands. Under normal circumstances, it is best not to eat pungent food to others' homes, such as onions, roast duck is delicious, but generally. Eat less garlic, which has a thick taste, and generally don't eat leeks. As we all know, northerners like to eat jiaozi stuffed with leeks, but that guy with leeks has a thick taste. He will eat steamed stuffed buns with leeks tonight and burp with leeks tomorrow afternoon, which is sustainable.
Third, it is important to pay attention to the hygiene of shoes and socks. Nowadays, the decoration of urban people's homes is relatively luxurious. Some ethnic groups have some habits. When they enter the door, they have to take off their shoes, such as carpets and yurts. Some of us don't pay much attention to this. To put it bluntly, the phoenix head and broom feet, you should see that the outside is handsome and dignified. Taking off shoes can kill rats. Maybe there are still three holes in socks, one of which shows big toes. Therefore, when an experienced person visits someone's house, besides dressing neatly and grooming, the hygiene of shoes and socks is very important. This is the detail. As we have said before, education is reflected in the details.
what else should you pay attention to? When you visit, you should pay attention to proper activities. What do you mean? If you visit someone's home, whether it's a visit to a company, an individual or a company, you must pay attention to the activities within the designated scope of the other party. Where is the designated scope of going to someone's home? The designated area is the living room.
Some of our comrades have a small-scale peasant consciousness. What consciousness? I dare to go anywhere if I can't see you. I remember once I made a fool of myself. I went to bed late on New Year's Eve, probably at four or five in the morning, and it was the Spring Festival. As a result, a man came at eight o'clock and got up two or three hours after I went to bed. My family said that someone knocked at the door and rang the doorbell. Can't you get up? I said of course I got up. Is it appropriate for guests not to get up when they come? I got up because I was in a hurry and didn't have time to fold the quilt. I was still narrow-minded. Anyway, he didn't go in my bedroom, and the living room was quite big. Unexpectedly, the man didn't see me outside. After sitting for a few minutes, he felt uncomfortable. Would you like to visit your house? Oh, I said I didn't have to see it. Let's have a look. First, I visited the bathroom, which is not bad. My bathroom is quite clean. Then I visited the storage room, which is not bad. There is nothing he can take away. Then tell me, can I visit your bedroom? I said it's best not to look, but to look, so I went in. In fact, such comrades sometimes make people very embarrassed and troublesome. When visiting other people's homes, it is very important to have a proper degree of activity, that is, the scope of activities should be limited and don't mess around, even family members and friends should pay attention.
another thing, when we talk about being a guest, we pay more attention to the choice of gifts.
You sometimes have to bring some gifts when visiting relatives and friends, so what gifts you give is very particular. I have a little question for the children in front of the TV and the middle school students and college students present. If you go back to visit your grandparents or parents in other places, what would you choose as a small gift?
whether this gift is chosen well or not actually not only shows the importance of others, but also involves the warmth and intimacy of interpersonal relationships. I remember a student came to see me at my home the year before last. He gave me a gift during the Spring Festival, which impressed me vividly. It was a graduate student who came to my home. He told me as soon as he entered the door, saying that Professor Jin, I brought you a gift. Don't be unhappy. Teacher Jin never accepts gifts from students. If you want to graduate, you can give me anything, so you can earn money. Don't do this. Mr. Jin doesn't lack this, so don't do it, or everyone will be unhappy. You take it back. He said, Professor Jin, don't be angry. You will be happy if you take a look at this gift. To be honest, I am really happy when I see this gift from him, and I am really moved by him. Do you know what gift he gave me? The ancients said that the gift is not necessarily real money, but if it is in place, the effect may be better. What gift did he give me? He sent me a copy of the newspaper on the day I was born. I was born in 1959. To be honest, I love reading newspapers. I have read a variety of newspapers. Now I subscribe to more than a dozen newspapers. I read newspapers for an hour or two every day, but I never thought of reading the newspaper on the day I was born. I have never seen it. He probably went to the Beijing Library and copied some newspapers that were collected about my birthplace and work place. I remember. Wen Wei Po, Jiefang Daily, China Children's Daily, People's Daily, etc. A copy of this newspaper will probably cost less than 2 yuan, but the courtesy is light and the affection is heavy. After I got home, I went into the door and did nothing. I hid in the study and studied this newspaper carefully for two hours. Finally, I knew what the world was like when I came to the world. I was very excited and called my father and mother immediately. The next day, my sister called me and said what medicine you had given our old man and lady. My parents didn't sleep at night and couldn't sleep at night, talking about the past.
In fact, the value of this gift has arrived. It is not necessary to buy people off, but the gift is light and affectionate.
New Year's Day gifts focus on conveying love and emotion, showing love to relatives, friends and elders. I told many young children that young comrades said that it's not how expensive the gift is that you buy it for grandparents. The key is to buy it, but to bring it. Even if a child draws a picture and gives it to grandparents, he will be very happy.