first, the most important thing to maintain feelings is love, especially to maintain a woman's feelings for a man. The most important thing for a woman to be with a man is to love this man. Some of them may not, but not loving that man with him will definitely not last long, just for temporary material conditions. Second, to maintain feelings depends on children. Because of having a family and children, this family is bound to be together, so the feelings will be more solid after crystallization. When a husband and wife have children, they will solve some contradictions reasonably. Through communication, they can basically reach harmony and achieve emotional stability. Third, the mutual interests are between ordinary friends and relatives. Because of the same interests, such feelings will be strong. If there are not many interests, the feelings may go away one day. Just like friends, if you have mutual interests, your feelings will naturally be much better. If you don't have the same interests, your contacts will be much less and you will only know each other. Fourth, the feelings between each other should be maintained by walking more. If good friends are not together for a long time and have less contact, the natural feelings will fade. If there is more contact, the feelings will be good even if they are not together, so only by walking more and helping each other, such feelings will get better and better. People's lives are getting better and better, but their feelings for each other are getting weaker and weaker, that is, they walk less with each other. Without the interests of * * * as a bridge, they are slowly far away. Therefore, if you want to make a good relationship with others, you must walk with the interests of * * * and move more. Only in this way can your feelings get better and better. I hope everyone's emotional life is rich and colorful, and I wish everyone a happy life. I also believe that everyone's future will be more and more beautiful, and the feelings between people are sincere and permanent. That's all. Let's work together to build this beautiful home. What do feelings depend on? 2 1. Understanding and recognition Mutual understanding and recognition are the basis for two people to be together. Only when two people understand each other, understand each other, and agree with each other's words, deeds and positions can they be together. If you don't even have this basic sex, then two people can't come together, live together or have a * * * thing. Knowing a person well is the process of knowing a person. When understanding a person, there are two possibilities: understanding and not understanding each other. If the other person is with himself, then he can understand what he has done. If you and the other person are not the same person, then it will be difficult to understand each other. A person and a person are not the same. There are often many decisive factors. It is possible that you and the other person are similar in origin and place, so it is easier for you to understand when the other person does something again, because most of the behaviors formed by people with the same experience are * * * common. It is precisely because of this that we will find that people from poor families agree with this frugal behavior of people around them; The part-time workers and the part-time workers are generally on the same front, while the boss and the boss are mostly in collusion. Sometimes you are in the same circle as the other person, so it is easier for you to understand each other when the other person does something again. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together, and what kind of people will generally get together with what kind. For example, if you are engaged in music, most of your friends are playing art; The aunts who love square dance can always get together because of the circle. If you know a person and agree with his behavior, then two people together will not have so much sense of disobedience, which is the basis of two people together and the foundation of two people's long-term relationship. In life, we often find that teachers are mostly teachers or educators; Most of the stars mixed in the entertainment circle are also mixed in the entertainment circle; Literary and art workers are mostly engaged in literary and art work. These all come from the same circle. Everyone has a * * * nature. Many times, there are few barriers in communication, and each other will agree with many ideas and positions of the other side. Speaking of which, someone must have questions? In this case, then why do so many people break up? Don't they have sex? There are two main reasons for this situation. One reason is that it is easier for people to identify with each other because they are in a circle. But many times, what we see is the real external attribute tag, and after we really get along with each other and have a * * * thing, sometimes we will find that it is not the same as what we imagined, so at this time, we are likely to go their separate ways. For example, Fang Zi is a teacher and David is also a teacher, so I thought that everyone is a teacher and should have a topic. As a result, after getting along, I found that David's many problems were unacceptable to him, so most of them would go their separate ways at this time. Another reason is that people will change, or the economic situation will change, or the status will change, or because there is a cross between two people. Many couples in life can get along well at first, but later, because something happened, one of them, or both of them, changed their minds. At this point, it is difficult to maintain their feelings. In the same way, brothers and sisters, relatives and colleagues who are involved in their own affairs also have this situation. Through the above, I believe that everyone can basically understand that understanding and identity exist, then the relationship between two people exists. If this understanding and identity is missing or destroyed, then it is difficult to continue to maintain feelings for a long time. 2. Consistent behavior If understanding and recognition are the cornerstones of two people's long-term relationship, then two people's necessary consistent behavior is the activity to maintain the relationship for a long time. It's a little abstract, so be specific. The couple's emotional affinity is the basis for two people to be together. However, if they are together, there is little room for two people to * * * and do their own things blindly, and there is little intersection. Then such feelings are hard to last. Only under the guise that both sides can understand and agree with each other's foundation enough, and the feelings between two people will be active and have more intersections, then the two people will get along more and more harmoniously, and of course, the feelings will be easier to maintain for a long time. For example, because of the same occupation, or because they feel the same ideas, two people came together. This would have been a good foundation. But in the next time, if two people do things separately, you don't care about me and I don't care about you. I seldom do things together at ordinary times, or I have my own individualistic style and manner when I am single, or I ignore each other and concentrate on my own affairs blindly. After a long time, such feelings will soon be gone. There are many examples of breaking up for this reason in life. After marriage, being in this state of unintentional cold violence for a long time is undoubtedly a painful destruction for the one who cares. Imagine why two people want to be together, just to comfort each other and help each other. When two people do something consistent together, it is actually a process of further communication and understanding between two people. In this process, each other can further understand each other's nature, each other's behavior, style and so on. In this way, if time is long, there will be a tacit understanding, and it will be more comfortable to do things. In life, we will find that the older the couple are, the more tacit their cooperation is. Sometimes they only need a look or a micro-expression to communicate, and the other party will get the message. Why is this? Get along with each other for a lifetime, and run in for a lifetime. Often, the more intimate this feeling is, the stronger it is and the longer it will last. In fact, if you understand it, you will find that two people are living together, and maintaining their feelings is like cooking a dish. How to make this dish full of flavor, fully combined together, without appearing so scattered, or even having their own flavors after cooking? That is, keep stirring, make each other fit as much as possible, fully convey your taste to him, and fully absorb his taste to you, then when it comes out of the pot, it will be an extinct product. Live * * * things actually also is such. Many couples were fine at first, but then they broke up when they walked, either because there were too few things to blend in, they didn't pay attention to each other, and they even felt that they were a family when they got married, so they were no longer as affectionate and sticky as before. Or after a long time, I'm bored and don't pay attention to maintaining our relationship. In this way, I lived and found that the feelings between us faded, and there were not so many * * * topics at that time, and there was no mutual affection at that time. When feelings are too pale, then love will be at a loss and will only face disillusionment. When we can't figure out why our feelings have gone to the pale step, or even turned against each other, we hope to remember the past and not be ungrateful. Love a person is very simple, enough to understand and identify with him (her), and at the same time be willing to be with each other, have consistent behavior, and achieve harmony. What does the relationship depend on? 1. The relationship between husband and wife depends on two hearts. Li Huihui, female, 3 years old, is married. She said: I have been married for seven years. Personally, I think that husband and wife rely on two hearts to maintain their feelings, and they should run each other with "heart", just like running their own business with heart. Because, earnest can only do one thing right, so it is perfunctory; And the heart will only do one thing well, so do your best, and so will the feelings between husband and wife. Feelings need the love and care from the heart of the husband and wife. In fact, the husband and wife don't need gorgeous words, let alone grandstanding actions. They just need to feel each other's kindness, truthfulness, responsibility and firmness in every word and deed. On the contrary, the so-called sweet words and vows of eternal love are enough to explain the uncertainty of their feelings. Never believe those unrealistic "empty talks". People who manage a relationship with their heart will naturally pay attention to every detail in their lives, always think of each other, and can give each other endless warmth, so that each other always has a sense of comfort, security and happiness. If the relationship between husband and wife is deep, it will naturally turn into a kind of happiness. Happiness is actually very simple, not in how much you have, but in how much you can put down. Happiness is a feeling in the depths of the soul and a state of mind; To love someone with your heart is a kind of happiness, and the loved ones will also feel happiness, and the feelings between them will continue to heat up and last longer. As long as you treat each other with your heart, many simple scenery in your marriage will become more charming. Waiting for you to appreciate and feel with your heart, warm sunshine will fill your heart ... In short, as long as you manage and feel with your heart, even simple scenery in your marriage life will always accompany you, and your feelings will naturally be maintained. Second, the husband and wife rely on loyalty to maintain their feelings. Sun Haoran, male, 35 years old, is married. He said: I have been married for eleven years. Personally, I think that husband and wife rely on loyalty and singleness to maintain their feelings. As long as they are loyal to each other, their feelings can last for a long time. In marriage, women want men to be loyal and single-minded, and men also want their other half to be loyal and single-minded enough, which is the most basic requirement for husband and wife's feelings. In this impetuous society, especially in those colorful environments, there are too many temptations, and more and more people just can't stand the temptation, saying that they are loyal to their feelings, but they are fickle about their feelings in action, and they are not loyal to each other at all. In feelings, the most intolerable thing is betrayal. The relationship between husband and wife is loyal and single-minded, which is the cornerstone of maintaining feelings. Because maintaining absolute loyalty to feelings is not only a responsibility, but also the basic principle of being a man; Being absolutely single-minded about feelings is a person's single-mindedness about feelings, regardless of body or spirit, and will never change. In a marriage, everyone hopes that each other can be absolutely loyal and single-minded, and that husband and wife will not cheat or hide, and this kind of honesty and mutual trust should be based on willingness, not the so-called "forced coercion." People who are loyal to their feelings will naturally dedicate all their love to their lover without reservation. Even some men are not afraid of other people's gossip, saying that he is "ear-raking" or "hen-pecked". As long as his wife lives happily and feels happy, her face will wear a smile like a spring breeze every day. Such a man is true love, and there is no doubt that he is absolutely loyal and single-minded to his feelings, and the feelings between them will naturally last. Third, husband and wife rely on respect to maintain their feelings. Xu Xiaoqin, female, 4 years old, is married. She said: I have been married for seventeen years. Personally, I think that the relationship between husband and wife depends on respect. Although marriage is the sum of love, family and husband-wife relationship, as a family way, it needs a spirit of caring for each other and never giving up, and it needs an equal treatment. However, in real marriage, we can't do whatever we want, even it's not satisfactory at all, which makes people disheartened. Especially in economically developed cities and regions, the divorce rate keeps soaring and remains high, which is incredible, but it's a fact after all. In real marriage, many couples actually have a certain emotional foundation before marriage, but after marriage, they simply can't stand the daily necessities, vinegar and tea in marriage, as well as the tossing and testing of trivial matters in marriage, and their feelings will gradually fade, and all their shortcomings will be exposed to each other, and the couple will gradually become strangers, and naturally they will not respect each other. Once there is a lack of respect between husband and wife, it will follow: they will start to go their own way and only care about themselves; We don't take our family as a family, but we just stop at a hotel and start sleeping in separate rooms. I began to haggle over trifles, quarreled frequently, and the marriage was almost full of gunpowder. Over time, a good marriage was destroyed, even scarred and exhausted. In marriage, I think the feelings between husband and wife are not only maintained by understanding, trust, tolerance and care, but also by respect. If even the most basic respect between husband and wife is gone, what feelings can be talked about? How can feelings be maintained? The relationship between husband and wife is maintained by respect, which will make the other party feel the deep love you have taken pains to show, so as to repay you with double love. Marriage is like a pair of shoes, only you know whether it is suitable or not; And feelings seem to be a secret. Whoever can solve the mystery can dominate feelings and have happiness.