Zhongyuan Focus Team? Keep sharing for 1332 days? 2022-03-04

In the eighth foundation-building class, Teacher Liu mainly explained the needs, motivations, and Ability and personality.

1. Need

We often say: if there is a relationship, it doesn’t matter; if it doesn’t matter, there is a relationship. In life, many problems are relationship problems, and relationship problems are often caused by unmet needs.

For example, he needs to be recognized, but you don’t recognize him; he needs you to understand him, but you don’t understand him; he wants you to take it seriously, but you don’t take it seriously. , these are all his needs, but you didn't give them to him, so his emotions came out, and the conflicts between you also came out.

Therefore, it is particularly important to understand each other's needs and meet each other's needs.

1. Definition of need: Need is an imbalanced state within an organism. Need is also a lack, which is often an inner lack rather than an external material lack. For example, some corrupt officials are already very rich but very greedy. In fact, it is their inner lack that is not satisfied, especially when they were children, their inner need for money was not satisfied.

2. Characteristics of needs

First, they are restricted by social conditions. For example, when I was a child, affected by economic conditions or environment, I wanted to buy some things or learn painting, music, etc., but I had no money or no place to learn.

The second is the driving force and source that promotes the activities of organisms. Only when you have needs can you have motivation to live. If a person does not have any needs, his life has no meaning and value. For example, in today's society, people are lying flat and hollow. Therefore, after a person retires, he must have something to do, and he cannot do nothing. If he does not feel needed, he will lack a sense of value.

Third, the need is development. Needs often develop gradually. For example, after a person meets his material needs, he will pursue spiritual needs.

Maslow’s 5-level need theory: physiological needs, safety needs, belonging and love needs, esteem needs, self-actualization needs, generally from low to high, with lower needs satisfied first , and then meet advanced needs. ?

2. Motivation

1. Definition of motivation

Motivation is an inner force that motivates individuals to move toward a certain goal and maintains this activity. psychological processes or internal dynamics.

2. Factors affecting motivation

First, need. There is motivation only when there is need, and need is the basis of motivation.

The second is internal driving force. It is an internal driving force generated based on needs, but needs do not necessarily mean internal driving forces. Drives are also influenced by triggers, that is, by the environment. If the external environmental conditions cannot be achieved, or if you think it is impossible, you will suppress your internal drive, which will lead to learned helplessness in the long run. Such as experiments with monkeys and fleas.

The third is incentives. It is the external environment, the environment affects a person's motivation, for example, Meng's mother moved three times. Therefore, we must work with positive energy groups and move forward together.

The fourth is emotion. Emotions affect a person's motivation to do things. When you are in a bad mood, you don't want to do anything. Many miscommunications are caused by expressing emotions and conveying dissatisfaction to the other party, which will lead to accusations and attacks on the other party. The other party will also pass these emotions to us. Such communication may cause greater contradictions and conflicts. Therefore, adjust your emotions and express your needs without emotion.

3. Motivation and activity efficiency: There is an inverted U-shaped relationship. Too strong or too weak motivation is not good, and medium intensity is best. If the motivation is too strong, problems will easily occur. The more you worry about which part has problems, the more problems will occur. Therefore, worry is a curse. If you worry too much about some actions that will directly affect the system, problems will easily occur. If you worry too much, you will be in chaos.

3. Ability

1. Definition of ability

Ability is the psychological condition necessary to complete an activity smoothly and effectively.

2. Category

(1) Divided by structure: general ability (intelligence) and special ability? General ability is intelligence, which measures logical thinking ability. The average person’s IQ is between 90 and 90 between 109. There is no inevitable connection between intelligence and achievement. Intelligence is like a ceiling. It has certain limitations, but it cannot play a decisive role. If you continue to focus on learning and improvement, you will become a great expert and a person with special abilities.

(2) Divided in order: fluid capacity reaches its peak at the age of 20 and declines at the age of 30. And crystallographic abilities develop throughout life. Liquid abilities such as thinking ability, concentration ability, and memory. At the age of 11, short-term memory ability reaches its peak, which is 11.04. Therefore, if a young man does not work hard, the old man will be miserable. Crystallized abilities are life wisdom and experience.

(3) Divided by field: cognitive ability, operational ability and social ability. These abilities can be acquired through deliberate training.

3. Individual differences in development: level differences (high and low levels), type differences, morning and evening differences (young people are smart early, blooming late) Everyone may have differences in types, but don’t set limits for yourself . Sometimes it’s not because you can’t, but because you think you can’t. It’s never too late to learn, as long as you’re on the road to learning.

4. Factors affecting ability development:

First, heredity. Heredity determines range and limits.

The second is the environment. The environment determines the extent of genetic absolutes and the specific degree of realization within the limits. Hard work the day after tomorrow will lead to late success, just like the story of Zeng Guofan who studied hard at night.

4. Personality

1. Definition of personality

Personality is the sum of various psychological characteristics, which is common to personality. Personality includes temperament and character. (Personality characteristics refer to personality)

2. Personality characteristics: First, uniqueness. Everyone is unique. The second is integrity. To look at a person, you must look at him as a whole, otherwise he will be like a blind man touching an elephant. The third is stability. The situation is easy to change, but the character is hard to change. It refers to the stability of personality, so it is difficult to change a person's personality. The fourth is functionality. The fifth is unity.

3. Temperament type

(1) Definition of temperament: The psychological characteristics of the dynamic nature of psychological activities in terms of intensity, speed, stability and flexibility. Temperament is the innate temperament, and personality is the acquired attitude and coping mode. Therefore, rather than saying that character determines destiny, it is better to say that attitude determines destiny.

(2) Types of temperament: First, choleric temperament: strong but unbalanced, such as Sun Wukong, Zhang Fei, and Li Kui.

The second is the Sanguine: strong, balanced and flexible, like Zhu Bajie.

The third is phlegm: strong, balanced but inflexible, as stable as a sand monk.

The fourth is depressive temperament: weak, such as Tang Seng and Lin Daiyu.

(3) Characteristics of temperament: stable, plastic, neither good nor bad, does not affect achievement, affects work efficiency, affects health, environmental adaptation, etc. ?

People's temperament types are often comprehensive, but they are more prominent in one aspect. Choose a job that suits you based on your temperament type.

4. Personality: It is a stable attitude and behavior towards things, and is the core of personality differences.

5. The relationship between character and temperament:

(1) Difference: Temperament is innate, character is acquired; temperament is not good or bad, but character is good or bad. Temperament reflects more of the biological attributes of personality, while character reflects more of the social attributes of personality.

(2) Connection: People with different temperament types can form the same character traits; temperament can affect the speed of the formation of certain character traits; character can mask and transform temperament to a certain extent.