What is self-discipline? Self-discipline means restraining oneself and demanding oneself without supervision.

Self-discipline is a life attitude, a good behavior, a kind of persistence, and a habit. In reality, only those with self-discipline can better control their lives.

Self-discipline seems easy, but it is not easy to do. In fact, the more self-discipline a person has, the more powerful he will be. Everyone knows that smoking is harmful to health, but some people try many times and still can't quit. Zhang Boling, the then president of Nankai University, once saw a student's fingers being burnt yellow, so he pointed at him and said, "Look, your fingers are so yellow. Smoking is harmful to the health of young people. You should quit it!" But! The student retorted: "Don't you smoke too? What can you say about me?" Zhang Boling took out all the Luzon cigarettes he had saved, destroyed them in public, and said he would never smoke again. Zhang Boling kept his promise and never smoked again. .

So some people say that a person's biggest enemy is often not others, but himself; the most difficult person to defeat is not others, but himself. If you want to become a better version of yourself, you must be self-disciplined.

Self-discipline requires having clear goals, being able to resist temptation, and being able to persist for a long time. It is relatively easy to set a clear goal, but the question is whether you can resist temptation when you encounter it, and more importantly, whether you can persist. This tests a person's self-management ability.

People who can truly be self-disciplined in life are not necessarily those with the most willpower, but those who still do not lose their way when faced with conflicts between behavior and will.

Bernard Shaw once said: Self-control is the instinct of the strong. Those who are successful have clear goals and the self-discipline to achieve them.

Zhou Yezhong, Vice President of Wuhan University, has been running long distances since the first day of high school. He has been running for 40 years, rain or shine. Today, ten kilometers a day has become the norm. Once he went to CCTV to do a program and had already run 10 kilometers in the morning. Sa Beining looked at the pedometer on his wrist and saw 14,107 steps.

How was Principal Zhou able to do it? In his own words: "Know yourself and defeat yourself!" He said that he insists on getting up at 5:10 every morning. Although there will be two little people fighting in his heart, "Get up or not?" But in the end they will be convinced. Own. "I think this is about defeating yourself. When you can see through and clearly your shortcomings, laziness, and unidealities, and find ways to overcome them, then you will truly grow up and be able to do well. Your life is on your way."

But some people have difficulty in living their lives because of their bad habits, weak self-management ability, laziness, and inability to correctly understand themselves and defeat themselves.

For example, you have promised to lose weight, but you still can’t control your habit of eating snacks; you have promised to drink less in the future, but you still can’t control your addiction to alcohol; you have promised to take the exam for a certain professional qualification, but you are ready to squeeze in. He had time to read, train, and prepare for the exam, but in the morning, others had already studied for several hours, and he was still sleeping in, and he felt at ease when he woke up; in the evening, others had already done some things that should be done at the moment, and he was still playing games and talking on the phone... …

Most people who go unsatisfactory in life do not know how to self-discipline. I don't realize the true meaning of "If a young man doesn't work hard, the old man will be sad". He always holds an indifferent attitude, muddles through, has no requirements for himself, and lacks self-management ability.

Self-discipline requires a lot of effort, hard work, and hardship. Under normal circumstances, people are afraid of hardship and tiredness, and always want to do easy things. In fact, if there is no effort, there will be no gain; if you are not willing to take any hardship at first, if you don’t want to take it, you will suffer it again in the future. The ancients said: Only by enduring hardship can one become a master. "What is "people superior"? My understanding is a relatively ideal life, the life you want.

I especially appreciate Yu Minhong's words, which probably means that when you turn hardship into a If you make this habit, you will be close to success.

This is nothing more than saying that you must have goals, strive, and persevere. In the final analysis, you must be self-disciplined.

Why are some people able to exercise self-discipline while others find it difficult to exercise self-discipline? What is the real motivation for self-discipline?

The author believes that: Whether a person can be self-disciplined is determined by his values ??and cognition, and is generally driven by desire. Desire for what? Desire is a desire, satisfaction, and essential need from the psychological to the physical to get something or to achieve a certain goal. Desires can be divided into good and bad, which requires value judgment. Values ??are people’s cognition, understanding, judgment or choice of things. Different people have different values, because a person's values ??are affected by many factors such as the social and historical conditions, social status, and education level in which he or she lives.

Generally speaking, people who are self-disciplined have seen that self-discipline can bring benefits to themselves. Of course, some may look at short-term or even immediate benefits; others may look at long-term goals and choose deeper pursuits that are inner needs.

The reason why self-discipline can make you grow and bring unexpected benefits to people is because it is constructive and positive, and it can make you a better self. There is a saying that goes well, the more self-disciplined a person is, the better he is, and the more self-disciplined a person is, the freer he is.

Everyone needs to be free, but freedom is not the vulgarity of doing whatever you want, but the elegance of doing what you want without going beyond the rules. Only when a person truly achieves self-discipline can he have greater freedom.

"The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" mentioned that "people who are not self-disciplined are slaves to lust, desire and emotion." Freedom without restraint is not true freedom. This is just a wild horse running wild, facing an abyss of destruction.

In "The Fables of Krylov", there is a story about a horse and a jockey. The jockey had trained a good horse and thought it unnecessary to put a rein on such a horse. One day, when he was riding out, he took off the horse's reins. The horse galloped across the field. When it realized that there was no restraint, it became more and more bold. It ran all the way and threw the jockey off the horse. It rushed forward, unable to see anything, unable to identify any direction, and finally rushed down the deep valley and was shattered to pieces.

I remember that in 2018, a 96-year-old grandfather named Shen Hua became popular on the Internet. He has been exercising for 26 years and has a strong body. He does not look like an old man who is nearly a hundred years old at all. Everyone calls him "Hua Zi" ", "Uncle Hua". Mr. Shen's daily schedule is very regular: he never goes to bed after ten o'clock at night, gets up at four o'clock in the morning to exercise, and reports to the gym on time every afternoon.

If Mr. Shen cannot exercise strict self-discipline when it comes to fitness, can he still be so "free"?

Let’s take a look at Harvard University’s famous follow-up survey on the impact of goals and self-discipline on life. The subjects were a group of young people with similar intelligence, education, environment and other conditions.

The survey results found that: 27% of people have no goals, 60% of people have vague goals, 10% of people have clear but relatively short-term goals, and 3% of people have clear and long-term goals.

The results of the 25-year follow-up study show that their living conditions and distribution are very interesting. Those who account for 3% have clear and long-term goals: they have almost never changed their life goals in the past 25 years; They all worked tirelessly in the same direction; 25 years later, almost all of them have become top successful people in all walks of life.

Those people who have vague goals in their 60s and people who have no goals in their 27s almost all live in the middle and lower levels of society. They have no outstanding achievements, and some are complaining about their work.

It can be seen that those who are extremely self-disciplined live better lives. What is the best state of life? Self-discipline is the best state of life.

Kant said: Self-discipline makes us different, and self-discipline makes us live a higher level. It is self-discipline that enables us to achieve a freer life.

Self-discipline can start from small things and things around you.

Li Ka-shing, who is over 90 years old, has maintained two habits since his early years of starting a business: first, he must read before going to bed; second, he must watch English TV after dinner. Not only must he watch, I have to keep saying it loudly because "I'm afraid of falling behind." This kind of diligence and self-discipline is amazing.

Kangxi worked diligently throughout his life, creating great achievements in self-cultivation, family management, country governance, and world peace. He was even more strict and self-disciplined. Emperor Kangxi wrote in "Tingxun Motto": Diet and prudent living are actually good remedies for diseases. It means that a moderate diet and a strict daily life are really a good way to eliminate diseases.

Kangxi also said that one should "live a regular life" and not be "sleepy" or "gluttonous", let alone "indulge in banquets". However, "when living in a regular manner, eating moderately and keeping the cold and heat in a moderate state will benefit the body and longevity." In fact, the deeper meaning Kangxi wanted to express was to warn his descendants about the importance of self-discipline.

As a feudal emperor, he was the supreme emperor who was unruly and could still exercise strict self-discipline. Citizens who have entered the great new era have even more reasons to fully understand the significance and value of self-discipline in life. Because only self-disciplined people can better control their lives and work.

I remember that in 2007, on a rare and leisurely weekend afternoon, I made an appointment with a friend to have tea in a cafe.

I went to the teahouse first and chose a seat. After a while, my friend came and sat down with a smile on his face and a few words of greeting. I felt like my friend was looking at me and smiling, and I said what’s wrong, don’t we recognize him? He said, "You're too busy! Look, you haven't shaved yet!" I smiled nonchalantly and said, "How can you be so laid-back and chic like you? I usually shave two to three times a week. It's too troublesome to shave every day." "My friend said, "The nature of your work is different. You often have various receptions, meetings, coordination work with relevant departments, etc. Your position is also an image. You have to shave..." The friend said it sincerely. After all, it was meaningless. My best friend. I looked at my friend again. I was radiant and full of energy. My friend’s words attracted my attention. Besides, shaving can not only maintain a clean and tidy appearance, but also help my health. I started shaving, and now it has become a habit. If I don’t shave, I feel uncomfortable. A clean and tidy face also makes people feel refreshed.

Another example is washing your face with cold water. , as well as fitness, reading, writing, etc. The key to anything is whether you want to do it, whether you can do it, whether you have a goal, resist temptation, always persist, and whether you can have self-discipline. Some people say that I don’t have time. , just like me before. In fact, as Mr. Lu Xun said, time is like a drop of water in a sponge, you can always squeeze it out. The key is whether you realize its role and whether you have determination and perseverance. .

In a CCTV "Let's talk!" " program, someone asked: Where is the biggest gap between people? Principal Zhou Yezhong said that the smallest gap between people comes from IQ, and the biggest gap comes from persistence. I understand that his "persistence" actually has " Self-discipline means "self-discipline".

Only with self-discipline can you have quality of life. How good a person is depends on how self-disciplined he is, whether it is work or life. Self-discipline is not self-discipline because of self-discipline. This should be It becomes a habit and attitude towards life. True self-discipline is when you regard self-discipline as a habit. It has been integrated into your blood and life. You will become that highly conscious person without any reminder.