"Undefined Women" first explains the impact of the collective subconscious on women from a psychological perspective, and then discusses five aspects: psychological confusion, self-awareness, love and relationships, work and dreams, and physical and mental healing. Latitude starts and accompanies us to break those unreasonable rules and restrictions to become a more powerful and courageous version of ourselves. The gender restriction of "female" in traditional social rules is the first hardship for women after they come into the world. As a girl, you are defined by your elders as a carrier of "weakness". You don't need to inherit the family's responsibilities or work hard for a career. You just need to be a good girl, learn to do housework, read a little and get married. When you grow up, if you don't follow the script, you will be shunned. Even if you study well and have a successful career, as long as you don't get married before the age of thirty, you will be overwhelmed by the pointing eyes and the comments behind your back. Because society has already drawn rules and regulations for women early on and does not allow you to be rebellious. The confrontation between self and tradition makes it difficult for many women to take a brave step and are forced to become speechless. Sadly, many women live their lives in the eyes of others and live to meet other people's expectations. I have never seen my true inner needs, and I dare not express this inner desire, so I live in trepidation and walk on thin ice. Toxic fairy tale scripts In addition to the visible ideological dregs that have restricted and harshly criticized women for thousands of years, there are also some soft toxic scripts that are eroding women's brains. Such as fairy tales. When we were young, we grew up listening to stories such as "Cinderella", "The Mermaid" and "Little Red Riding Hood". We thought that the suffering princess did not need any effort. As long as she accepted the situation and waited hard, the prince on the white horse would fall from the sky. Save yourself and live happily ever after. But will reality really be as beautiful as a fairy tale? No! Fairy tales give girls fantasy, allowing them to be content with the status quo, give up their struggle, and place all their ideals of self-realization on men. Unknowingly, it becomes an accessory. In real life, a princess may not necessarily be happy when she marries a prince. After the initial sweetness, they lacked the right to speak and sense of security in this marriage, and the two of them would only go further and further apart. Women are often the biggest victims. Painful forbearance may not necessarily win the mercy of men. After being forced to leave, they will feel empty and lose confidence. Poisonous fairy tales convey values ??that distort the mind. The road to self-healing The difficulties women face in this life need to be seen and heard. Therefore, if you want to heal yourself better, Ma Xiaoyun suggests that you can do this. Expression is divided into two types: language and writing. Be brave and express your inner voice. Externally, we need to speak out loudly, shout out, and no longer be silent about the injustice of parents favoring sons over daughters, dissatisfaction with social prejudices, and gender discrimination in the workplace. Internally, use words to express our inner depression, discomfort, joy and happiness. Every emotion we have is worthy of respect. Relaxation training Ma Xiaoyun recommended a psychological care method suitable for most people-relaxation training. Choose a quiet space without distractions, find a quiet mat, sit on it and relax your whole body, and then start breathing abdominally for about ten minutes each time. Focus on the present moment between breaths and breaths, and carefully feel every part of your body. This relaxation training is also known as mindfulness. Adhering to mindfulness practice can effectively relieve stress and improve work efficiency. In addition, painting, music, and dance are also great ways to relieve stress. Any hobby that brings you inner peace will do. Seeking professional help and good interpersonal relationships will bring us spiritual support. When we are in pain, finding close friends to chat is one of our usual ways of healing. But if these still can't help you relieve your troubles, then you need to seek help from a professional psychological counselor. Psychological counseling is not available only if you are "sick". This sense of shame is a wrong perception. Just treat it as a little psychological cold. A professional psychological counselor will help you sort out your inner confusion from an objective perspective, find the root cause, and provide you with spiritual support. But psychological counselors are not omnipotent, because you still need to face everything yourself.