—01—

With the popularity of the TV series "The First Half of My Life", the emotional lines between the male and female protagonists have become more and more intriguing.

In the play, the heroine Luo Zijun, played by Ma Yili, was abandoned by her ex-husband. From a pampered rich lady, she was forced to become a saleswoman who looks at people's faces.

As Luo Zijun applies for a job and grows up step by step, her best friend, Tang Jing, played by Yuan Quan, and Tang Jing’s boss and boyfriend, He Han, played by Jin Dong, give her a lot of help. Big help.

But who knows, Luo Zijun and He Han fell in love over time.

What’s even more outrageous is that the veteran He Han seems to have only known what “true love” is after meeting Luo Zijun. For Luo Zijun, he cruelly rejected the proposal of Tang Jing, who had been in love for ten years.

But, does He Han really love Luo Zijun? In other words, He Han, does he love the "person" Luo Zijun?

We might as well ask first, has He Han ever loved Tang Jing?

—02—

Tang Jing joined He Han’s staff after graduating from graduate school. Thanks to He Han’s leadership and guidance, she gradually grew into a key player in Shanghai’s top consulting companies. Such achievements are even rarer among women.

The ten years of Tang Jing’s career were also the ten years of love-hate relationship with He Han. The relationship between the two people is on and off, which makes people confused - they are lovers, but they are not married, but they are friends, you know.

After ten years, Tang Jing, who was tired and unloved, decided to go to Hong Kong for a year of rotation to sort out her body and mind. So she entrusted her best friend Luo Zijun, who had just re-employed, to He Han.

Although the melon-eating crowd headed by Luo Zijun tried their best to create opportunities, He Han never showed any intention to stay, and just watched Tang Jing leave.

Why is this happening? Because both Tang Jing and He Han knew that if their relationship lasted for another ten years, the end would not be marriage.

He Han himself said, "One day, either I leave or she leaves, and there will be an end between me and her."

The matter of men and women is just that. Just like cooking, it is best to prepare the dishes, put them in the pot, and add seasonings in one go. If it accidentally gets cooked, if you cook it later, it won't have the same taste.

—03—

In terms of looks, academic qualifications, income, and business quotient, how can two people like He Han and Tang Jing live like this? Among middle-aged people, this pretentiousness is one of the best.

So, Chen Junsheng, who was honest and honest but accidentally cheated, asked:

I can’t understand your feelings. You said that Tang Jing loves you, and everyone in the world knows it, then Unless you don't love her, but if that's the case, why have you given her so many falsehoods over the years?

He Han, who is sanctimonious but has not married for ten years, said:

Speaking of which, she is my student and I am her teacher. When she first came here as an intern, And five or six other people, they didn't know anything about it.

But from that time on, I began to like her and taught her bit by bit. I never thought where I got such patience. She is smarter and more motivated than I thought.

But I don’t know whether I should be happy or worried, because I find that I can’t control her anymore.

This answer is so incredible. What does it mean to be unable to control it? If you like someone, you must be able to control them?

Therefore, Chen Junsheng, who is honest and honest but accidentally cheated on his wife, asked again:

Isn’t it right that the two of them have very similar careers and are in the same boat? (Otherwise, why would I kick the well-maintained Luo Zijun to find the working woman Ling Ling?!)

He Han, who is sanctimonious but has not married for ten years, said again:

You got married earlier than me. You should know better than me that getting married is a very specific matter. If Tang Jing and I get married, there will definitely be someone who will devote more time to the family. Who will it be? Me, or Tang Jing?

If we want a child, Tang Jing will definitely have to waste more time for it. After giving birth to a child, she will have to spend more time and energy to accompany him to grow up. How should we allocate it?

You will definitely say, of course it is Tang Jing.

But let me tell you, even if she thinks so herself, I can't bear it and I can't bear it.

Because you haven’t seen how hard she worked all the way, but I have seen it; you don’t know how hard she worked to be where she is now, making it look like nothing is wrong for you. Effortless, I know.

This answer is also very problematic. He obviously didn't give Tang Jing a chance to join the family, but now he said that he was reluctant to let Tang Jing join the family, but what did Tang Jing think? Does he have the right to decide Tang Jing's life?

—04—

He Han’s answers to Chen Junsheng’s two questions are consistent—

His love for Tang Jing is cultivation and cultivation. Management is control, and Tang Jing's life must be played out according to his ideas.

Tang Jing danced in his hand, which was pleasing to his eyes. Once it became difficult to control, he would avoid it.

So, Chen Junsheng, who was honest and honest but accidentally cheated on her, was confused:

I really didn’t expect that you thought so much.

So, He Han, who was sanctimonious but not married after ten years of dating, simply admitted:

She is more like one of my works.

You know, I have done countless good cases, but none of them can be called my most proud work. My most proud work is Tang Jing, you said I love her or not.

Do you say you love her or not? Love, that is indeed love. Just like the paper I wrote after painstakingly researching literature and collecting data, I absolutely love it. Whoever says it's not good is the one I'm worried about.

But do I want to marry it? Do I want to share my life with it? No.

Moreover, when one day I have better data and write a better article, I will cherish the latter more without hesitation.

In the same way, in He Han's eyes, Tang Jing is just a work and an object. He loves Tang Jing as much as we love our summer homework.

He himself said: "There are many smart, virtuous and good wives, but there is only one, Tang Jing, and I hope she can be better and more perfect!"

What is meant here is better and more perfect. Perfection is an attribute of a work, an object, not a person, a woman, or a girlfriend.

This is Tang Jing's sadness. She strives to grow into a big tree, but He Han only hopes that she is a potted plant.

—05—

So, does He Han love Luo Zijun? The answer is also obvious.

Luo Zijun is just the second Tang Jing, another work. Luo Zijun worked hard in the workplace, and He Han said to her more than once: You are becoming more and more like Tang Jing.

As for He Han, he just loves his works, loves the creative process, and enjoys the fun of being a life mentor for others.

If Luo Zijun and Tang Jing must compete, it would be as He Han himself said:

Like Tang Jing, who was assigned to He Han as soon as she graduated, There are still a few people who have made it to the sky step by step through their own efforts.

And for people like Luo Zijun, who has been a housewife for several years and then entered the workplace again, she is really the first one.

Therefore, even with such a poor foundation, He Han single-handedly cultivated him into a figure like Tang Jing. He Han gained a greater sense of accomplishment from Luo Zijun - making him mistake it for true love. .

He Han, Tang Jing and Luo Zijun are always unequal in personality. It's like a god who creates two people in his own image and then praises them: You are becoming more and more like me. Come on, you will be qualified to receive my favor.

In fact, people will always be people and gods will always be gods - this unbridgeable gap has always been dormant in He Han's heart.

—06—

As I write this, it seems that I have interpreted He Han as a dark and scary guy who treats women as puppets. Don't worry, that's not the case.

He Han did not intend to control the other party, but lacked the ability to "love each other equally". Everything in his life must be under control. Therefore, in an intimate relationship, it is difficult for him to appreciate the other person's independent personality.

"He's Philosophy" has a rich theoretical system. He Han requires that everything in the world should operate within this theory, including - people.

Once beyond this system, He Han's attitude is to escape - just like facing Tang Jing, who grew up too fast.

So, He Han is the most pathetic person in the whole drama.

From a career perspective, he is undoubtedly successful. In his prime, he has already reached the position of a partner of a consulting company, has a luxury house, a fancy car, a considerable income, and a wide network of contacts. In the workplace pyramid, He Han has reached the top.

Outside of work, He Han only has three major things in his life: eating fish, exercising, and giving life guidance to others.

If you eat fish, it must be the best fish, either freshly caught from the sea or freshly delivered by plane.

When exercising, you must wear sportswear that you think is sexy but is actually tacky - Luo Zijun can see it, and so can the audience.

He Han has a very high IQ and strong ability. He drew a big circle for himself and built it into a copper wall. He established the rules of the game and strictly followed them. Within the scope of this circle, he is very comfortable and at ease. This is his kingdom.

Many people look up to him because their circles are not as big as He Han's. However, some people's circles change and grow, but He Han's circles are very stubborn. Everything in the circle must operate under his control.

This is He Han's weakness.

—07—

If there is anything Luo Zijun is better than Tang Jing, it is that Luo Zijun can see He Han on a more equal footing and understand He Han's weaknesses better.

In the beginning, the two were set up as enemies. When Luo Zijun saw He Han, he always teased him for pretending to be stylish.

When Tang Jing left Hong Kong, Luo Zijun complained about He Han for not retaining Tang Jing, saying:

You pretend to be open-minded, but in fact you simply cannot afford it.

You are full of confidence in the things, people, and lifestyles that you can control. When it comes to things beyond your control, you adopt an ostrich policy.

As for you, you don’t even bother talking about marriage to a woman you can control, and you don’t dare to talk about marriage to a woman you can’t control.

This is the most accurate evaluation of He Han so far.

If He Han fell in love with Luo Zijun because Luo Zijun understood his weaknesses better, and he was gradually able to face his weaknesses in front of her and face and overcome them together, then this logic It's perfect.

It is a pity that He Han is still the Almighty King in the play and still dismisses Zijun's criticism of him.

Actually, after ten years of getting along day and night, and being as smart as Tang Jing, how could she not know what was wrong with He Han?

But in love, the one who loves more is always humble. It's not that Tang Jing doesn't understand, it's just that he can't tell.

So Tang Jing also knew very well that there was only one reason why He Han didn't marry her, and that was because he didn't love her enough. In other words, it's not love at all.

—08—

This is how I hope the story ends.

No matter whether it was work or life, He Han encountered some changes, which made him confused, lonely, and helpless, and he realized that he was not a god.

At this time, someone saved him, whether it was Tang Jing, Luo Zijun, or even Xue Zhenzhu, Da Baojian, anyone, saved him, and used his own personality to save him. Saved him, rather than using any of the skills and techniques he taught -

At this time, He Han understood that everyone was on an equal footing with him, even Luo Zijun before the divorce, even society Luo Ziqun and Bai Guang at the bottom, even the coquettish bitch Vivian, and He Han are no better than each other.

After this, let’s talk about love!