According to the topic, there must be two reasons. One is because I have been frustrated many times before and did unsatisfactory things. He is the backbone of the family and has no one to shoulder the burden, so he can only suffer by himself, so he feels lonely, sullen, tired and afraid. The second is to make a windfall, operate in violation of regulations, take risks to make money, feel flustered, fearful, and insecure. Doing such things secretly feels very tired, doing things differently, and insisting on going your own way makes you feel very lonely.
If you are in the first situation and feel tired, take a break, relax your mind, review your past failures, face reality, accept the real situation, look at the situation from another angle, and broaden your horizons , keep pace with the times, explore and explore ways of sustainable development that are suitable for you, get out of loneliness and confusion, inject faith and courage, and be neither humble nor arrogant. Establish strong confidence, do what you can, do what you can, do not act rashly, be pragmatic, be broad-minded, cheerful and wise, seek progress in a down-to-earth manner, step out of society, rejuvenate your mind, so you are not alone, have no fear, relax your mind, and look at reality optimistically, Not only is my heart not tired, but I also have to face it positively. If it is caused by one of the two situations: loneliness, depression, fear and uneasiness, tiredness and exhaustion, don’t make shady money, conscience can detect it, have a clear conscience, follow the rules, be honest, aboveboard, and have a clear conscience, and solve all problems. Interpretation, in fact, the heart has no fear, the heart is relaxed and the heart is not tired.
If a person is lonely, he should go out of society, become harmonious with society, broaden his horizons, and look optimistically, so he should be open-minded and open-minded, seek out hobbies and interests, and live an active life without being lonely. There is no sense of security in fear. As long as you don’t do anything wrong, have a clear conscience, and treat failure as a lesson. No one is a saint. No one can make mistakes. Put aside the shadows and look forward to the sunshine. God is fair. If you are motivated, success is waiting for you. I hope to make a comeback, but my heart is naturally afraid of being eliminated. I have confidence, my heart is relaxed and my body is relaxed. I am not tired but have energy to run forward and watch the work enthusiastically.
What should I do if I feel lonely, fearful and restless, unable to calm down, and feel tired?
I don’t know the age of the questioner, whether he is male or female, what kind of problems he is facing, loneliness, fear, unable to calm down, restless mind, at a loss, loss of focus, and feeling tired. These are all knots in the heart and cannot be used. Let go, as the saying goes, if you don't do bad things, don't be afraid of ghosts knocking at the door in the middle of the night, and you won't die if you are not sick in your heart. When you encounter a problem, you must face it correctly. Choosing to escape will increase the psychological shadow area and make you unable to eat or sleep uneasily. Only by bravely overcoming it can the sky be clear and you can fly. When the knot in your heart is opened, your heart becomes lighter! Without desire, one is strong. Let go of personal gains and losses. Don't care about and tolerate what happens, think calmly and make correct judgments. Keep a low profile, do things seriously, learn more and speak less, strengthen yourself, and everything will be solved easily!
The best way to get rid of confusion and fear is to let the birds fly. With a good attitude, everything will go as it should. You can talk to your relatives and friends, talk to your close friends, or you can return to the embrace of nature, climb mountains and swim, and spend your time appreciating the great rivers and mountains of the motherland. Don’t try to talk to yourself about it. In this way, you will release your inner demons and feel at ease. Watch videos and listen to music to lull you to sleep, and you will calm down! Others can't help you, just defeat yourself and reflect, everything will be fine! Thanks!
Before answering, I borrowed the words of teacher Zhou Guoping to encourage you. I want to tell you that loneliness is the normal state of human beings, because everyone comes to the world by himself, and will eventually leave alone. Loneliness It is an inherent attribute of life.
In the book "The Road Less Traveled - The Journey of Mental Maturity", there are profound discussions on the fear, uneasiness, anxiety and melancholy in the human heart. If a person always has these emotions, That means your life should not be fulfilling, and being "too leisurely" often leads to many emotional problems. At the same time, you should not be very diligent, because "laziness" is the root of most emotional problems.
Most psychological problems and emotional problems can be traced back to laziness. In the book "The Road Less Traveled - The Journey to Mental Maturity", "Laziness" is defined as the original sin of mankind. , because no one is lazy, some people cannot help being lazy, they are forced out.
If you want to solve the problem, you must fight against the original sin of human "laziness". On the one hand, make your body busy, and on the other hand, make your mind active.
Usually people who feel tired are not bad people. They follow the rules and stay at home when nothing happens. If nothing big happens, they feel that there is no need to go out. They are afraid of trouble. In this era of developed food delivery and convenient communication, they can walk as little as possible, as if their body is just a container that can be filled with things.
However, humans themselves are social animals and have the attribute of living in groups. Staying at home for a long time, refusing social interaction and various activities, people will stay away from human attributes, slowly become withdrawn and outdated, and finally deny themselves.
Homesteading is a disease that needs to be cured. The treatment method is to change your life:
The same troubles are just a speck of dust in the big world, but in the small world, they are like a huge stone. The best way to make your worries smaller is to expand your world. This is what people say when they say seeing the world and opening their horizons.
If your body feels tired and exhausted, then take a good rest, have a good sleep, wake up energetically the next day, cheer up, and manage your day well.
If your heart feels tired, then go for a vigorous exercise, sweat hard, write a long diary, leave your mood to the notes, then make a decision as soon as possible, and then let go of your worries.
There is a Buddhist saying that when you encounter something: face it, accept it, deal with it, and let it go.
Don’t reject the reality of life. No matter how you live now, this is your own reality. Facing and accepting it is the prerequisite for letting go.
If you are not satisfied with the current reality, then as I said above, make some meaningful changes. Life is not other people’s. You have to help yourself within your ability. Deal with your own problems as soon as possible. If your ability is not enough, then you need to find a good mentor for help.
But the will to solve the problem comes from you, and the power comes from your will.
Go deal with your problems, defeat them one by one, solve one less one, don’t wait and delay, otherwise, the burden will only become heavier and heavier. In the end, you will choose to be crushed, or just let go. Woolen cloth? The former is definitely not what you want, but is the latter what you want? If not, then grow yourself.
To achieve self-change, reasoning alone is definitely not enough. But changing a person must start with consciousness, then generate strength from the heart, and finally turn into action. Changes in consciousness can rely on reading.
These books are recommended to you:
"Meeting the Unknown Self"
"The Power of Now I"
"Few People The Road to Walk - The Journey of Mental Maturity"
If you can understand these books and absorb the contents, I believe you can grow differently. If you can also develop a habit of exercising every day If you get used to it and improve your physical health, you will be invincible if you combine two swords.
Meeting is fate, I give you my blessing and good luck!
About the author: Su Qiuci, a personal self-media, rejects redundancy and enjoys simplicity. She is willing to use words to create good relationships and help you grow.
This is a sign of stress and insecurity. Many people behave like this now. Because of work, housing, and relationships. If this happens, it's best to relax in your own way. Eliminate fatigue. Release stress. mitigate these situations.
The situation mentioned in the article does exist in real life. As the saying goes, a calm mind naturally leads to peace.
When a person cannot calm down, it means that there are too many things in his heart, there are too many things waiting for him to organize and deal with, and at the same time he does not have much time, energy or money to deal with or face them. Yes, so these backlogs cannot be resolved in the bottom of my heart. How can such a heart calm down?
In today's society, pressure is everywhere, either due to work, life, environment, leaders, colleagues, friends, relatives, etc. Just think about it, and pressure will follow: Why do others live more freely than me? Why do others live better lives than me?
In fact, these pressures are all self-inflicted. Think about it, who am I living for? Live for yourself, of course. I am who I am, so why should I live in comparison with others? Why bother yourself?
Learn to let go and live a free and easy life, or sing loudly, or return to nature, or practice in seclusion, and your mind will be calm and peaceful!
Dear stranger, we are all lonely. We have no friends and no one to talk to. We often feel lonely late at night. The only sound we can hear is our own breathing. Even so, we must learn to take care of ourselves. Overcome this loneliness by yourself. The world is a big place and everyone has their own things to do. No one will care about our feelings. Loneliness is innate. When you are lonely, hug yourself and close your eyes to take a rest. Just stay with yourself and get used to it. Don’t rely on anyone! You are your best companion, come on
"Easy choices lead to a difficult life; difficult choices lead to a simple life."
The reason you are tired is because you confuse "imagination" with "Facts" and focusing too much on feelings that you forget to seek solutions. You can use the Stoic method of "foreseeing" to make a "fear list" for yourself. This means to anticipate the worst case scenario before it happens and take measures to deal with it. This is a very useful and simple method. The TED talk "You should recognize your fears, not your goals" explains this method in detail, you can listen to it.
"Thinking ahead" is divided into three steps:
The fear list is divided into three columns: content, measures, and repairs.
For example, when you are afraid of something,
you will find that your worries and fears are due to the fear that unknown things will happen and cause irreparable serious losses. Once you make a list of your fears and write down exact responses and remedies, most of your worries and fears will be gone. Because you have the confidence to deal with emergencies and know that even if something goes wrong, you have the ability to solve it.
People tend to maintain the status quo and find it difficult to make changes. People tend to worry about what may happen in the future, but they often ignore the cost of maintaining the status quo by not taking action now.
For those things that you want to do but dare not do because of worry or fear, you can imagine:
Everything has a price, and for the challenges of life, Retreating is the easiest option, but if the problem is not solved, the problem will reoccur. The longer you delay, the greater the price you have to pay. Since you are scared and tired, you might as well use the fear list to face the problem head-on. This will give you more courage and confidence to face the future life.
If you are always lonely in your heart, it is because you have not confided in your friends or family; and fear and uneasiness are caused by worry, excessive worry, lasting too long, and fear of something happening; the mind cannot calm down Feeling tired is the result of thinking too much and depriving your brain of rest and good sleep. Therefore, the way to solve the problem is to discuss with close people and find out a solution to the problem, and then implement it immediately, so that you can get out of the predicament as soon as possible, otherwise you are likely to be depressed.
Thinking too much can really make you tired! Whether you are thinking about the past or the future, you will feel confused! real! The past has passed, whether it is good or bad, it has no practical significance! The same goes for things in the future. The future is also something we cannot predict and cannot control! But the current things are what we should pay the most attention to and grasp well!
Really! Just be the best version of yourself every day, and live every day as if it were the last day of your life! I believe you will definitely see a more positive and sunny version of yourself!
Being mentally lonely all the time means that you have a weird personality, are not easy-going, have too little social knowledge, can't talk to each other, are suspicious of people, and have a narrow mind.
If this continues, it will be even more disadvantageous for you, unable to keep up with the rhythm of society, and falling out of society.
The solution is to actively change your living situation. Get out of loneliness.
As for your fears, you should talk about them so they can be answered. Because of what fear. It makes you feel uneasy mentally. If this continues, it will make you physically and mentally exhausted.
Therefore, you have to tell it truthfully so that I can answer it for you.