The reason for success is very simple, four words: a person of temperament. What is a person of temperament? It’s also four words: gratitude, resentment, love and hatred. In the words of social psychology, perceptual thinking exceeds innovative thinking. Rational people

Perceptual thinking is controlled by the prefrontal lobe of the human brain, which is responsible for the initial reaction. For example, if we encounter a tiger or a lion, we must either fight, run away, or feign death. You don’t have time to analyze in detail whether it is a South China tiger or a Siberian tiger. What it stimulates is everyone's adrenaline, allowing us to react faster in the least amount of time. Innovative thinking ability is controlled by the prefrontal cortex of the human brain, which is responsible for analysis and processing of reality. Once it encounters a stress response event, it will immediately get stuck and all its energy will be located in the prefrontal lobe area. If we say that a person is temperamental, it usually means that the prefrontal cortex of your brain is insufficient.

How to cultivate a person with a moderate temperament? Once, I was chatting with many friends, and they all talked about their childhood experiences. One of them is a drunk now-drunk type. She drinks heavily, tries her best to get a boyfriend, and then has a fierce argument, and eventually all kinds of bloody plots come to an end. She doesn't know how much money she needs in her account, and she doesn't have any career development plans. She just follows what everyone else says. When she was a child, her father often came home drunk, and she had to listen to the depth of her father's voice to judge the intensity of her beating that night. If you grow up and develop this strong sensitivity to risk, your brain's prefrontal cortex will stagnate. In other words, your rationality will not be too strong. . The other one is always contradictory. Although he is only in his twenties, his mentality is like that of a retiree. He has been thinking about how to save money and how to plan his career. What if his pension insurance is not enough? what to do? Will there be problems with my own body?

He cannot enjoy life at all. Every time he travels, he worries about the plane crashing. He feels that if he spends too much money, there will be risks in the future. He didn't have any special experiences since he was a child, but he couldn't forget his mother's nervous face. Her mother went to the doctor every day and always felt that there was something wrong with her. It wasn't until high school that he suddenly realized that his mother loved to make things. Now she was jumping up and down and was healthier than anyone else, but he had been frightened for no reason all his childhood. On the surface, the first type is a sweetheart, she lives like a baby; the second type seems to rarely mature. But in fact, the two of them are the same person. Because their lives revolve around a kind of basic anxiety. If the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if a person observes it carefully, there will be no disciples

The most inevitable situation in a person's life is during the baby stage. The older a person grows, the more he can see the complexity of the world, and be able to From complexity to simplicity. A long-term relationship must come from a working life. In other words, you can wash the dishes when they are dirty without throwing them. The life of a vase or a spittoon is just the life of a Teletubbies. Such people cannot repair relationships and cannot repair themselves. They can only rely on continuing to be on stage to restore their own good feelings. In fact, in "Mermaid", I was also curious about why she was dressed in such revealing clothes and had such a charming expression, but as a straight man, I didn't have any reaction?

Because of her beauty, there is no relaxation, only a murderous spirit that kills fish and kills nets. Beauty that is too strong usually comes from unprocessed anxiety and lack of relaxation. If you are tired, too tired, and hungry, you will find that the world is extra difficult than before. People who are always surrounded by anxiety will always find many dangers in the world. It's not that the world is not kind to you, it's just that you treat yourself too much. It’s not that you are too harsh on yourself, it’s just that you don’t have a space to sleep peacefully. Women who are too beautiful and boys who are too capable are usually like footless birds, with no branches to perch when the moon sets and the stars sink. They grasp things quickly, and usually after all, they have to keep shining and be strong, otherwise, they will highlight their sensitivity that no one likes.

Dare to perform

After receiving the invitation to "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", Zhang Yuqi agreed without saying a word, "Yes, I must accept it." She did not want to miss another opportunity to show off her style on the stage. "I don't believe that I can't sing well and humiliate myself in front of audiences all over the country." Previously, the "Crossover Singer" program team had intended to invite her, but the seller's artist company was carrying the burden. She refused in private. When she later learned about this obstruction, Zhang Yuqi felt a little uncomfortable in her heart, "How dare you look down on my mother." This is not the case, now is the opportunity! She also insists on fighting for a C position to become famous and debut, so that people who look down on her singing can look at her.

After leaving her former artist company, she felt that her breathing became more casual. This time, she wants to change people's fixed impression of her as a "working woman" and save the negative reputation of her previous divorce and Gao Yixiang's "high-risk career as an actor". "It's impossible to just watch sisters having temper tantrums and fighting each other on variety shows." Don't think that she is thinking about becoming famous and debuting in the C position. When she meets the seniors Yi Nengjing, Chung Liti, and Jingping, let's watch it again. Among her peers, Huang Shengyi, Zhang Meng, etc., none of them were vegetarians, so she would do the opposite.

Hey, as soon as the show aired, the user reviews really reversed. Everyone praised her to the sky for her carefree "foolish beauty" line. This step towards her is very satisfying. Take out the usual strong typhoon, take two steps, turn and twist, and give full play to the KTV singing level, not to mention that it is a bit long-term. At first, she only relied on dancing to impress Master Xing, and she was cast in "Yangtze River No. 7". This time, she felt she could do it.