? I am a retired employee and the grandmother of a one and a half year old baby. Before retiring, I worked in finance and had been dealing with numbers for decades. Life was very simple, and my days could simply be described as "copy". Our era was different from now. My ideas were relatively conservative, and I focused on my work without any extra thoughts until I retired.
After retirement, I was shocked to realize that the first half of my life was too monotonous. So I want to change myself, make my life more complete and rich, turn boring into interesting, and expand the breadth of life.
When I think like this, my whole body is filled with oxygen, and my life becomes free. I decided to make various attempts to live according to my own wishes and start my life over again.
? So I started to sign up for various study classes, and also joined 007. If I don’t write, I will be out. I write one article every week, and two articles every week to comment on my comrades who go up and downstairs. It is really challenging to comment on articles written by comrades on the upper and lower floors, because I don’t know what kind of subject they are writing about and what kind of views they express. If it is an industry that is unfamiliar to me, I have to temporarily brush up on the basic knowledge. , so that you can complete this review carefully. Then I joined the daily lecture group. I was very busy every day, but very happy.
? My husband watched me busy all day long and laughed at my age, so he followed suit. But my daughter was deeply affected by me and took the initiative to apply to join 007. As a result, the mother and daughter in life became 007's comrades. Next, she took the initiative to apply to join the daily lecture group, and all of a sudden, we became classmates again. The atmosphere at home changed, and the learning atmosphere suddenly became stronger. We both have the same spiritual way of living, and our thoughts tend to be in the same frequency. The two of us began practicing writing and speaking at night after the kids were in bed. At this moment, under the orange light, we became allies. We have more common languages, and when we communicate and share the same views, the spark of collision of thoughts makes our eyes light up, as if we have found a confidant in each other, and the family is full of vitality.
? I like chatting with children very much. When I meet some children who are active in thinking, the thinking lines unfold in front of my eyes like a mind map. There is a main trunk, there are branches, and it is lush. I was so happy to communicate with him, and I enjoyed it. When I saw his current situation, I seemed to see my grandson, and I was filled with joy.
? So I turned my focus to child growth.
While giving children knowledge, we must also cultivate their concentration, imagination, creativity and communication skills. In the process of learning with your children, you must also add the element of "art". Because life without any art is like a wilderness. If you want to live a rich and colorful life, you must have literacy in literature and music. You must listen to music, read poetry, look at paintings, and tell stories. Especially when telling stories, you should use exaggerated expressions, vivid language, and changing gestures to imitate the figures in the story. As a result, the children will be immersed in the scene, fascinated, dancing and absorbing all the knowledge and principles.
Regarding the secret of raising children, I very much agree with Nanada Zhen’s point of view: just train them with an attitude of recognition, appreciation, and love, and give rules based on love.
? The ultimate goal of educating children is to enable them to enter society independently, have their own independent thinking, and have their own methods of solving problems.
? In this regard, I think Teacher Fan Deng has done a better job. I was listening to Fan Deng read the book "You Are Your Child's Best Toy". Fan Deng cited this example when explaining how parents help their children: His child Fan Yi needed to kick a wooden board with his feet when taking the Taekwondo exam. He kicked three times in a row without breaking the ball. According to the rules, if he kicked three times continuously, it would be disqualified. The coach glared at him and asked others to kick the board. Fan Deng was a little panicked when he saw him standing there. At this time, a lot of parents were there outside the door, talking and saying: "It's over, it's over, this kid Too bad, I can’t pass the test.”
Everyone was worried about him. After the exam, the examiner started to comment: "How did so-and-so perform today? How did so-and-so perform today?" Then when Fan Yi was mentioned, before he could finish the next sentence, Fan Yi suddenly raised his hand. Hand: "Please examiner give me another chance." At this time, all the parents in the audience were dumbfounded and looked over: "Ah, this child can still be like this!" The examiner was also a little panicked. He didn't expect the child to say such things. Then Fan Yi continued: "I "Just one chance." The examiner hesitated because he didn't know whether to let go. Many parents outside were whispering, "Give him a chance, give him a chance." Everyone was affected by this! The little child was moved. The examiner was silent for a while and said, "Well, I'll give you a chance!" After Fan Yi got this opportunity, he kicked the board off with one kick and got the blue and green belt.
After it was over, Fan Deng was very happy, and other parents were also very happy, saying: "Young man, you are great!" At this time, Fan Deng immediately began to confirm his emotions and asked the child: "What did you feel just now?" Because you have to let him understand his feelings. The child said: "The tears I was holding back just now are almost bursting out." Fan Deng asked again, "What should you do if the examiner doesn't give you this opportunity?" This question is very important. You need to let your child know that there may be setbacks. The child said: "If you don't give me a chance, I will Just practice hard and I'll take the exam next time." At this time, parents should use emotional guidance to help him learn something. Fan Deng chose to teach him how to "persistence", so Fan Deng squatted down and looked directly at him, "Dad was really happy with your performance just now." The child asked "Why?" Fan Deng said: "The behavior you just showed is called persistence. There are many things that we have to give up, so we give up easily. If we persist harder, we may succeed. Your performance today is great, Dad Very happy." So he quickly learned to persevere and learned knowledge happily. After listening to Teacher Fan Deng’s sharing, I was very moved. If parents can provide on-the-spot education anytime and anywhere, what a huge improvement it will bring to their children!
? German philosopher Jaspers pointed out in "What is Education": The essence of education means that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens Another soul. So education is not about what you want to teach your children, but what you are becoming as a teacher?
? Therefore, we must continue to learn, continue to grow, and become role models for our children. We also need to design a new life model and apply this model to life, study, and family, so that your life can be orderly and exciting!
? Haha, after retirement, my life has undergone earth-shaking changes. I have new ideas and brought new actions. I feel like our family has entered spring, starting to sprout, grow, and show a vitality. We start with the end in mind, implement and practice step by step, and complete small goals in stages. Just as teacher Li Xiaolai said, let our brain’s operating system upgrade, upgrade, and upgrade again, and apply some principles through repeated application and repetition. Think about it, adjust it repeatedly, and turn it into a tool that you can use skillfully, so as to move towards a satisfying life.