Li Yongbo is the leader of the Chinese badminton team. His career success is obvious to all, but the things behind his success have been little known, especially his relationship with Xie Ying. A legendary story.
The acquaintance is like a beautiful legend
The acquaintance between Li Yongbo and Xie Ying was quite dramatic, so much so that they found it quite interesting when they recalled it. It was May 1983. At that time, the Liaoning badminton team and Xie Ying's rhythmic gymnastics team were training in the same gym. Perhaps because they were worried about affecting the training of the boys in the badminton team, there were clear regulations at that time that they were not allowed to go to the rhythmic gymnastics side, and a wooden wall was used to separate the two teams. Li Yongbo had just returned from the national team. He didn't know that there was a "38th parallel" between the two teams, so that day he opened the door and looked inside. He thought at that time that this girl was very good-looking and a nice person, and he wanted to get to know her. They knew each other, so he walked over and asked Xie Ying, "How old are you?" Xie Ying immediately told him, "I'm 15, and I'm a monkey." Li Yongbo said, "I'm 6 years older than you, and I'm a tiger-" The two of them started talking. So we know each other.
Xie Ying is said to be the kind of person who is "quite conservative and doesn't easily talk to boys". How come she started chatting with Li Yongbo as soon as she met him? It turned out that when Li Yongbo first arrived the day before, he passed by Xie Ying's door. She happened to turn around and saw the man in the white winter coat. She thought that the man in the white winter coat was quite attractive. Unexpectedly, today he opened the door and came in, holding a glass of water to drink. "Why is this person so brave?" Xie Ying felt very good, so she and Li Yongbo started chatting with each other. Xie Ying felt strange and thought it was love at first sight.
A few days later, the light in Xie Ying’s dormitory broke and she asked an older boy to fix it. Li Yongbo thought of it and followed him. He was standing on the ladder changing light bulbs, while he was chatting with Xie Ying below. Knowing that she loved listening to music, he ran back to the dormitory without saying a word and came back with a stack of music cassettes. He also said, "I have some more over there. If you want to listen to them, I'll give them all to you -" In the process of borrowing and returning, The two became close. Speaking of Li Yongbo's secret to "capturing" Xie Ying's heart, Li Yongbo said frankly, "I didn't think it was that complicated at the time. Since Xie Ying does occupy a very important position in my heart, I often thought about how to meet her, find opportunities to talk to her, and in what way." Attract her. After all, Xie Ying was outstanding in Shenyang at that time, and I liked her very much. I bought frozen persimmons and ice cream for her in the winter. It seemed like a small favor today. In addition to focusing on training, I was always thinking of ways to leave the training ground. Being close to her, my dormitory is the place she must pass by, so I often wait in front of the window to say hello to her. She lives on the fourth floor. When I get up early, I throw pebbles into their room to remind her that it’s time for morning exercise. Sometimes I go for a run with her. Circle. I think it was quite fun at that time. I was more proactive at that time. I think these things are quite romantic and interesting in life. I think men should take the initiative to express themselves.
Eight years apart
Two months later, Li Yongbo returned to the national team. Xie Ying, who stayed in Shenyang, and Li Yongbo, who was far away in Beijing, seemed to have no words that were too close to each other. The feelings of care, longing, and admiration were also left unspoken. Letters became their first priority after training every day. At that time, the postal speed was slow, and it took three or four days for a letter to arrive, and sometimes the previous one did not arrive before the next one. I sent them out again, one a day at the most. So Xie Ying kept several large boxes of letters, and she couldn't stop talking when she picked up the phone. Sometimes, the switchboard kept calling, and the call lasted for 59 minutes at most. At this time, all their allowances were spent on the phone.
Without the whispers between the flowers and the moonlight, and the lack of affection between the two, how can we miss each other as much as meeting each other? However, Li Yongbo is the first. The first time I asked Xie Ying out, I didn’t succeed. “After we got to know each other for a long time, I felt quite confident that we were already on good terms, so after a game in Shenyang, I invited a bunch of friends from all over the country to play at Chess and Cards Mountain. I also made an appointment with her the day before, and she said she would ask her family before talking. But she didn't come after waiting for a long time the next day. I was in a very low mood that day. ”
Actually, Xie Ying also felt that something was missing when she didn’t see her for a day, and she felt like she was muttering after not speaking for a whole day. Inadvertently, the two of them got very harmonious, caring about each other, and couldn’t live without each other. "The first time he asked me out, he didn't go because my father didn't agree.
He didn't come to pick me up to go back to the team as he did before, and he didn't ask for the dumplings I secretly brought him from home. I'm angry too. If I don't want to eat, I won't eat! "The two of them ignored each other for a day. The next day, Li Yongbo took the initiative to speak again. He felt that he was not careful enough and had to work hard. Later, Li Yongbo returned to Dalian to visit relatives and invited Xie Ying to go with him. At first, Xie Ying's mother did not agree, but After meeting Li Yongbo, she felt that the boy was very good, so she readily agreed.
Xie Ying said that what attracted her most to Li Yongbo was his authenticity, sense of responsibility, and his inner emotions. In the total of eight years, they spent less than one year together until they got married in 1991.
Career and family are indispensable
There is a unique wall in the living room of Li's house. 63 medals of various sizes are neatly hung on it. These are the glorious records of Li Yongbo's entire 10-year playing career. Many medals have long been forgotten by Li Yongbo. Xie Ying feels that this is something worthy of being remembered by the whole family. Let her son remember it, so she made this memorial wall with her own hands.
Speaking of Xie Ying, Li Yongbo said with deep feeling: "We have shared the joys and sorrows for so many years, and I know she doesn't. easy. I spend at least half of my time outside every year, and she does a lot of things at home. From the time my son was born until he is now 9 years old, she takes care of his study and life, and she is doing well in her own career. I think there are many factors that contribute to family harmony and love between husband and wife, which cannot be replaced by liking. She has made great sacrifices for you and created a larger space for you to work. On the other hand, you will like her more. So no matter where I go, I often think of her; I think I should understand her working environment and her mood. ”
“I talked a lot in the past because I was afraid that she wouldn’t understand. Now that there have been changes, I am willing to express it by doing things, such as spending more time with my wife and children, rather than saying it. Let her experience it from your actions, I think it feels better this way, after all we have reached a certain age. I have been very lucky, I feel good about myself, my career is recognized, my family is harmonious, and my children are healthy. Modern people have many pursuits. My pursuit is that the career must be successful and the family must be happy. Both are indispensable. Even if one day my team members win all the gold medals, my family is unhappy and I think I am unsuccessful. ”
In Xie Ying’s view, Li Yongbo is a person with self-esteem and pursuits. His career needs assistance, which makes him feel happy both in career and at home, without any distractions. There is no need to worry. Xie Ying sincerely feels that she is lucky and blessed. “If I were asked to choose my family and lover again, I would choose someone like Li Yongbo. As a man, he has responsibilities towards his children, his family, and his friends. He can consider others. This is something I am proud of. One Valentine's Day, when he was leading a team out, he specially asked his good friends to send me 99 roses and chocolates for him... There were many similar things. I feel like he can give me everything I want. He will consider your needs and tell you from the bottom of his heart. ”
As the head coach of the national badminton team, Li Yongbo has too much work to do. There is no doubt that he takes little care of his family and cannot share more. Although Xie Ying has difficulties in life, sometimes There were also grievances. But she felt that as a celebrity's wife, she had to learn to be strong and handle many things by herself, not to mention that Li Yongbo made up for it with his love, making them feel happy and relaxed, so Xie Ying. Repeatedly preached: "I have no regrets about marrying Li Yongbo! ”