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Wen Fei Chen Mo

Although I don't know that Qingwen in her parents' hometown is not the protagonist in A Dream of Red Mansions or the owner of the Grand View Garden, she is a "humble person", but the author writes such a character very vividly and wonderfully.

Nearly 300 years have passed, and it is still embarrassing to read every time.

Especially Qingwen's explosive temperament has ignited the hearts of many boys and girls who are not free. Knowing that she is conceited, she is still willing to understand her miserable life.

However, this is the character in the novel after all. Even if a dream of red mansions is an autobiography, for a beautiful little person like Qingwen, she can be written to death in the end, regardless of the problem of survival.

But the reality is that Qingwen's personality is still living in the secular world, struggling for life and work. Obviously, there are good opportunities and strong backgrounds, but they stumble.

There are still some people, such as Qingwen, who have no chance, no backer, and are even less invincible.

However, no matter what, we must strive to live better. And to live a better life, the most important and indispensable hardware condition is to be able to get along in the workplace.

Then the question is, how can a person like Qingwen, who tries her best to maintain her personality, is hot-tempered, lazy and incompetent, go all out in the workplace?

First of all, be clear about your goals and keep your responsibilities.

Qingwen is not aimless, just a little anxious to put the ducks on the shelves. It was Grandfather Jia who thought highly of her and gave her to her favorite grandson Baoyu, thinking of becoming a maid or aunt in the future.

As a result, Qingwen was killed instead, which made her feel that she was the mistress of Yee Justin from now on. She did something offside and always wanted to be a lady.

In other words, even if Qingwen is very clear about her life goals, she doesn't leave a name and tries her best to do her job well. This is the biggest mistake in the workplace: not doing your job well.

Whatever the reason, the Lady Dowager arranged Qingwen in Yee Hong Yuan, but in any case, Qingwen's first identity was a servant girl, and she had to work.

But we seldom see what Qingwen has done, and finally we need Qingwen to take care of Baoyu's diet and daily life. \ n The user is ill.

Either you are outspoken, holding the autumn grain given by the old lady and her husband, and even dare to say anything that offends Mrs. Wang.

Although direct * * * Baoyu is a generous person and treats his subordinates well, one thing must not be forgotten. Baoyu, loved by thousands of people, is still the head of the quasi-family, and has no real power over Yuan and even the whole Jia family.

In other words, Baoyu's boss and Wangfu are the real power holders, who hold the power of life and death of employees of Yee Hong Hospital and Jiafu.

It is because of understanding this hidden rule that Xiren can find an opportunity to gain the trust of Mrs. Wang, and successfully surpass Qingwen's position and gradually stabilize her position in Yuan's Jianghu.

Therefore, if you want to be the pride in the workplace, you must do:

Second, get on well with the leaders who are in charge of promotion.

For Qingwen, a person who insists on his own personality, he absolutely disdains all kinds of tricks to please leaders at all levels. However, building a good relationship doesn't mean losing your personality.

You can learn a thing or two from Tanchun and Xing Xiuyan. If you have impressive talent, you can be a girl like Tanchun, so that you can do your job well and organize a unique activity like Haitang Poetry Club to add color to your life and maintain relationships with others.

Or, like Xing Xiuyan, he is content with his duty, does his own thing well, does not make public or flatter, and can not only tolerate vulgar things, but also maintain his refined nature.

Therefore, we must understand that a good relationship does not mean losing personality, and we do not have to kiss up to leaders like pugs.

This is actually the worst policy, because a leader takes the leadership position because he must have his ability. How could he not know what kind of employees are worth reusing and what kind of employees just laugh it off?

There is no doubt that employees worthy of reuse must play an indispensable role in the company. For example, Yuanyang, Pinger, Zijuan and Xiren. Another example is Xifeng.

Don't underestimate Xifeng. She is definitely the indispensable executive general manager of Jiafu, a listed company. If it weren't for Xifeng, Jia Fu would have been defeated. Therefore, one of the basic qualities of a smooth workplace is:

Third, cultivate special talents and become irreplaceable important employees.

Qingwen also has a special talent, that is, her needlework is unmatched by thousands of people. However, this is not irreplaceable. What the Jia family needs most is to buy money for the girl.

If Baoyu really needs the best handmaid for needlework, just pick one around. Therefore, although Qingwen is gifted, she has become a failure in the workplace.

In other words, it is not enough to have special talents, but they must be irreplaceable. More importantly, your special talent is as important as air.

Just like xiren, xiren is not as good as Qingwen except for her mother and brothers and sisters, and she is not Baoyu's type.

However, Xiren has become an indispensable middle-level manager of Yee Hong Institute by virtue of his due diligence.

So, what is the special talent of Xiren?

To tell the truth, xiren has no enviable talent and can't speak, just like a person trapped in the dust.

So, she used a stupid method:

1, loyal to Baoyu;

2. Make a good product and become a brand.

And xiren's job is nothing more than thinking about Baoyu and taking care of Baoyu's eating, drinking and sleeping.

Just like taking care of a baby, it is a trivial job, and most people will not have the patience to persist for several years and make these little things perfect. Therefore, Qingwen needs another necessary quality in the workplace:

Fourth, perseverance, endurance and endurance beyond others.

This is the hardest. After all, Qingwen people are bursting with charcoal. To put it mildly, they are straightforward, careless and naive, and have no room for sand in their eyes.

However, the world will never be black and white, and it will always be a kaleidoscope of flowers.

You can't say that your flower is a flower, and someone else's flower is not a flower. You like to be an elegant peony. You say peony is the most beautiful, but being someone else's favorite thorn rose is also the most beautiful.

You can't allow others to think that the most beautiful exists in this world just because you are the most beautiful. Even if others are just Lu who is not appreciated by the roadside, it has its beauty.

Therefore, if you want to eat well and mix well in the workplace, you must restrain your straightforward, naive and sand-intolerant personality and practice the endurance and endurance of Ninja Turtles.

In addition, Qingwen people should pay attention to one thing, because they are too good-looking, which is of course not their fault, but their humble status and lack of sufficient self-protection ability can easily cause others' jealousy and become the target of attack.

This requires Qingwen to learn to converge and not be too ostentatious. After all, society is not a private space, and you can do whatever you want. Therefore, Qingwen also needs to learn the lessons of managing life.

Fifth, act willfully at home, put away at will outside, and don't give others a chance to attack.

The reason why Qingwen was "impeached" by Wang Shanbao's family was too publicity, and the reason for publicity must be caused by personality characteristics such as conceit and willfulness.

Conceit is not a big mistake, but only if you have the ability to end it. Obviously, Qingwen is incapable of erecting an iron wall for this conceit.

Therefore, people in the workplace should have self-knowledge, not only to understand their goals and identity, but also to know their abilities.

Moreover, everyone has the characteristics of waywardness, and everyone likes waywardness. However, willfulness is only suitable for private space.

Just like xiren, she is usually a clumsy and simple person, but she is somewhat charming when she gets along with Baoyu in private. He also took the opportunity to go to Baoyu's "dragon bed", deepened his good impression in the eyes of the leaders, and stabilized his position as a "concubine" with the help of Mrs. Wang, the leader at the next higher level.

To paraphrase a modern popular saying, be a little woman at home and be a big woman outside. Hold this kind of discretion, put it away freely, and don't give others a chance to attack you.

At the very least, there is no great contribution and no big mistake that can't stand scrutiny. It is good to let everyone remember your hard work.

Like Xiangling, although her life is also very bitter, from the perspective of Aunt Xue and Xue Baochai's efforts to protect her, it is precisely because Xiangling is a bit dull, with no great contribution or big mistake that everyone respects her.

Another example is the moon or autumn pattern. They are not very smart girls, nor are they indispensable employees. However, they have hard work. With this, they can't find anything wrong when they check the Grand View Garden.

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Fei Chen Mo is a writer, psychotherapist and family planning. 20 13 published 18-year-old girl's love rules. At present, in her spare time, she studies and writes a series of articles such as A Dream of Red Mansions and The Journey to the West. Official account of WeChat: Lianzixin Dust Free (ID: Hong Chen, Yu Lian). Reading at ten o'clock is authorized to publish this article. Please contact the author for reprinting.

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Lin Zi, ten o'clock reading signing anchor, host, reporter, original author, national second-level psychological counselor. Pay attention to parenting, parenting and women's growth, meet me and meet myself ten years later. WeChat official account: Zilin's cabin (ID: JC8276).

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