I have a friend who is like this. His parents have only one son all their lives, and he is adopted. When he was looking for a date, he told his girlfriend that my parents are not biological. You can be bad to me after marriage in the future, but you can't be bad to my parents. My parents have the grace to raise me. Because of this sentence, the girl married him and became his wife.
My friend used to have a good job, but because his adoptive father was sick and paralyzed in bed and he had no other brothers and sisters, he quit his job and opened a small shop in his home, which made it much more convenient to serve his father. I never thought that in the second year, my foster mother was paralyzed in bed, and there were two patients in one bed. He was the only adopted son who could eat and drink Lazar.
I am a friend, and I get along very well with my neighbors. No matter who has big or small affairs, he always helps others before and after. If there are weddings and funerals in other people's homes, he even goes to other people's homes early to help. The small shop he opened provided a lot of convenience to his neighbors. For example, if a neighbor's family has weddings, funerals and happy events, he should drink alcohol, and he will take it at the wholesale price, which will bring convenience and benefits to the neighbors, and the neighbors are also very grateful to him. He said that a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor, and money is not the only thing in his eyes.
In this way, when his adoptive parents died, although he was a single-family family with almost no family members, many people came to his house to help. Neighbors say that he usually helps others so enthusiastically, and when it is his turn to have something, everyone should naturally go all out to help him.
people living in rural areas know that this kind of thing is mutual. Whether it is between relatives, families or neighbors, if you help others, others will help you. No matter whether you are a single family or not, you should come instead of being indecent. In fact, everything is the same.
My family is a single family, and there is no family.
when I was a father, I moved here from other places.
since the agricultural co-operation, when my family meets a wedding or a funeral, let the production team know, and everyone helps like a family.
after the reform and opening up, there is no production team, but there is a villagers' committee. When there is a red or white wedding, tell the village committee, and the village committee will inform all the villagers to help or congratulate them. This is the superiority of our country in rural socialism!
it seems that you have never lived in the countryside. Rural people are very United and simple. In one of their villages, they are like a family. You help me, I help you, and you don't talk about returns without receiving money. You have to carry everything together and eat meat together.
In rural areas, the pig will be killed in the middle of the twelfth lunar month, which is the best day of life in a year. I've been busy for a whole year, and I've saved food and inspection. Maybe I haven't eaten fresh meat for a year. In order to celebrate New Year's Eve, I will kill pigs.
Usually, everyone is busy with farm work, and they don't care about food. When they kill Nian pig, they invite people from the village, and almost every family will invite them to kill a Nian pig, and they may eat dozens of pounds of meat that day. Very lively, as if it were a banquet.
There is no routine for rural people to do things. In their hometown where they have lived for generations, customs and etiquette are all traditional. They know what to do and what not to do when they meet anything. Everyone seems to have a score in their hearts. Everything is the same, as long as it meets, it will put down what it is doing and help others handle the urgent matter well.
Because in rural areas, it can't be a day, at least three days, and some may be longer. They will put down what they are doing and help deal with white things. There was no need to invite them at all, but they came after hearing the news.
After years of life, they will acquiesce in a general manager, and then when something goes wrong, this general manager will also be present. He will be responsible for deploying all the people in the village and make proper arrangements. Regardless of the elderly and children, they will listen to the arrangement of the manager and make things in order.
The countryside has its simplicity, and the city has its rules. As long as people live for a long time, they will naturally have feelings. If there is anything around them, someone will always lend a hand to help.
q: in rural areas, what about single-family households?
In rural areas, many people in the clan do white things, which is magnificent and lively. A big funeral is not an outsider, and hundreds of people in the clan can hold up the facade. If the deceased old people are of high seniority, the whole street will be white and full of mourning. It is particularly decent for this family to do white things with many adults. In fact, the white things with many adults are mainly filial sons, which are handy. Filial sons are maintained in the Lingpeng and in all scenes, so the main filial son can make room for entertainment and ceremonies.
But as a small family with a single family in the village, there are not so many people. There are many people who help, that is, the Lingpeng or all the scenes are very deserted because of the lack of filial sons. There are one or two main filial sons inside and outside, who come to mourn, kowtow, offer mourning clothes, thank the table in the rice shed, say goodbye to Lingkexiao and so on. The main manager is all busy with the main filial son. As soon as the white matter was finished, the dutiful son was exhausted.
In rural areas, if a single-family household wants to do something lively, it is necessary to break the filial piety as much as possible. Breaking the filial piety means giving all relatives, both near and far, white trousers, white hats and white shoes, so that there are many filial sons, and the relatives of the younger generation can serve as filial sons to throw a tent, accompany them to cry and kowtow, so that the main filial son can free himself.
In order to make the white affair very lively, we should invite more troupes or concerts or experienced people to do Dojo, run across the bridge, dance lions on stilts, and invite the foreign bronze drum and ocean ship, and this white affair will be done very decently. First of all, you have to be rich and willing to spend money.
If you worship more brothers in the League when you are young, you should worship his 36 friends or 18 friends. At this time, all the Bai Shi League brothers are daughters-in-law of the League, and they are all dutiful sons, no less than many parents.
in rural areas, if you want to do a white job with a single family, you can do it according to the above, and it must be ok. As long as you have money, you are willing to spend money.
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In rural areas, there are many families, prosperous families and a large population. Most villages have the same surname, and their ancestors have lived and developed. However, some rural families are not prosperous, or their families are declining, and the population of households is getting smaller and smaller. Of course, some of them are emigrants, and rural people are commonly called "outsiders". Of course, the family has a large population, so it is natural to help arrange weddings and funerals, which makes it seem that many people are busy; However, families with a small population, or single-family families, are relatively deserted when they are doing white things. Then, what should we do with single-family houses in rural areas? As a folk observer in the field of "agriculture, rural areas and farmers", the rural Guanzhong introduced rural customs in combination with local rural facts:
In rural areas, families with large families have similar blood ties, so of course, they should help them when they are in trouble; However, when people with few families encounter white things, they all take the initiative to invite their neighbors with many families to help them. Rural people live in a village, but they don't look up and see them. It is a habit for everyone to help each other. Besides, if you encounter something white, it means that you will be separated forever. As long as you have a harmonious relationship, you will help with the cooking. Even families with average relationships or entanglements with each other have untied their hearts and helped because of white things. This tradition has been circulating in the countryside and is endless.
we pay attention to reciprocity everywhere, especially in the countryside. People with small families or single-family families will actively help their neighbors no matter what happens to them, even if they don't come to ask for help, thus forming a good rural atmosphere of "being good neighbors" and "being partners with neighbors". In the words of rural people, helping others' homes is tantamount to helping yourself. In this way, other people will come uninvited when they encounter white things or other difficulties, so that those with small families will not have to worry. Therefore, people with small families need more help and build more roads for themselves.
With the development of social economy, rural people are getting richer and richer. Most rural young adults go out to work or engage in other non-agricultural industries, and the rural population is getting smaller and smaller. No matter whether there are many family accounts or single-family families, the elderly are basically left at home. When it comes to weddings, funerals and weddings, no matter who has a large family or a small number of people, no matter what they use or ask for, they have to spend money to ask for help. In this way, from the past, pure villagers volunteered to help, they have developed into paying people to take care of it. Therefore, no matter who is a big family or a single-family family in rural areas, it is the same to spend money on all kinds of things, not to mention the large number of people.
In a word, as long as we go to rural areas to do things for nothing, the pure mutual help like in the past has become less and less, and it has been transformed into material transactions or paid employment, because rural people's economic concept has been deeply rooted. Therefore, in the rural areas now, there is no worry about the size of the family, or that there is no one to help the single-family family. With the development of society and the change of rural people's concept, some original traditions in rural areas have been deeply imprinted in the hearts of rural people.
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in rural areas, single-family households do white things? In rural areas, there is always such a custom. There are often more guests in white affairs than in red weddings, because you don't have to invite those old relatives in your family to do red affairs. What are old relatives? For example, your grandmother's family or relatives of those predecessors can do it without invitation, but white affairs are different. The first thing to do white affairs is to invite relatives of the older generation, so that you don't forget your roots, so there are more guests. If there are no relatives in front of the house.
there are single-family households in rural areas, but they are rare. As for business, it depends on your personality.
in rural areas, small families are very easy-going, and the villagers get along well. In the past, if there was a fight, the single-family family was doomed to suffer, and no matter how good the relationship was, it was the habit handed down in the countryside, and the points of three punches were far and near. Another is that it is very obvious when it comes to red and white events. In rural areas, there are many people, which has great advantages. But then again, if you are strong enough, rich and powerful, you can run wild in rural areas even if you live alone. There is an outsider in the neighboring village, whose own surname is Cheng. In order to rely on Chen Wangmen, he changed his surname to Chen. However, he was lucky enough to be a village official, and the little people succeeded. According to the old people, there was no one in the village who did not hate him during the Cultural Revolution. Later, after dismounting, the consequences can be imagined. No one in the village looked up to him, and it was common to be beaten and scolded. The children also accompanied him and suffered a lot. Another family, whose hometown is Henan, came to Hebei in more than 9 years and worked hard in the village to make money. In the village, no matter who has something, he took the initiative to help, and everyone in the village did not praise him. The whole family moved to the village. Now, the land expropriation subsidy in the village is equally divided by his whole family, and everyone from top to bottom has got it. Otherwise, can a foreigner stand firm in the village?
So, you can't be too crazy, you can't fight for money if you have money, and some people can't fight for others, whether it's a large family or a single family, as long as you are honest with others, you can get along well and say everything.
In rural areas, when a single family does white work, the owner has to go to someone else's house to invite him personally. In our village, no matter whether it's a white matter or a happy event, he has to come to the door to find help, because his family has no relatives, and he has to ask for help in his own village. That's how a single family does white work.