New year's day:
1. A married daughter can't go back to her parents' home: A daughter who gets married in the New Year will eat her poverty, so she can only go back to her parents' home on the second or third day of junior high school, but the implication is that the married daughter is already the daughter-in-law of someone else's family, and many in-laws will come to pay New Year greetings during the New Year, so the daughter-in-law can't go back to her parents' home on the first day.
2. Don't eat porridge, meat and medicine for breakfast: In the past, conventional people only ate porridge, so they must eat dry food on the morning of New Year's Day, which means that the family will be rich all year round, and the morning of New Year's Day is called the gathering of immortals from all walks of life, which means that all immortals come out to pay New Year's greetings. Therefore, in order to show respect, first of all, don't eat meat and be vegetarian. In addition, it is best not to eat general tonics and tonics on the first day of the New Year.
3. Don't call others' names to remind people to get up: Don't call others' names to remind people to get up on the first morning of the new year, which means that they need to urge each other to do things all year round.
4. Don't pay New Year greetings to people who are still sleeping: Don't pay New Year greetings to each other when they are still sleeping at the beginning of the year, wait until they get up, because this will make them lie in bed all year.
Avoid washing clothes on the first day and the second day: there is a water god in the water, and the birthday of the water god is on the second day. Don't wash clothes these two days.
From day one to day five:
1. Don't take a nap during the day: Taking a nap during the New Year means being lazy all year round. The implication is that many guests go home to pay New Year greetings during the Chinese New Year, so it is impolite for you to take a nap.
2. avoid dumping sewage, garbage and sweeping the floor: don't sweep the floor during the new year, because it is easy to take away the wealth at home.
3. Don't take things from other people's pockets: Don't let people take things from their own pockets during the Chinese New Year, which means that money will be taken away by others for the whole year.
4. Don't ask for debts: During the Chinese New Year, no matter who asks for debts or who asks for debts from others, it will be unlucky all year round, so it is forbidden to ask for debts from others.
Visiting relatives and friends on holidays is something we often encounter. Visiting relatives and friends is actually a very routine way to contact old friends and make new friends. But visiting relatives and friends must pay attention to two details. First, don't cause unnecessary burden and trouble to others because you visit others. I remember an embarrassing incident. Last New Year's Eve, I planned to go to the Great Hall to see a musical performance. I didn't get the ticket I finally got. I got tickets from my relatives and friends, and my wife and I were dressed up and ready to go out. I met some colleagues when I went out and came to see you. what can I say? Come and see me, and then accompany me. I will look at my watch later. Aren't you tired of being asked? I said don't interfere, and then sit for a while. I'm glad to meet you. My wife will look at her watch later and ask if it will affect you. What dare she say? It doesn't matter. People said they would talk for a while. It's really interesting to chat with Professor Jin. In the end, we saw nothing. In fact, it's no big deal, but it must be noted that any educated person should not get into trouble because of his own life and working for others. This is a modern civilized society, so it is very important to form a habit and make an appointment before visiting. If you visit people who are not very nice, it is very important.
What two points should we pay attention to? First, determine in advance. For example, if you are a junior visiting a superior, a junior visiting an elder, and a student visiting a teacher, if you tell him one week in advance, the other party may forget, so if you are smart, you should call him again before you leave, or the night before. For example, if you visit Professor Jin, I made an appointment a week in advance. Please call me, Professor Kim. As agreed, we'd like to visit your home at four o'clock tomorrow afternoon. Is it convenient? Is there any change? You should be sure, which means reminding me. Don't forget, Lao Jin, this is a very important point, so there will be no air fan. Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to the Chinese New Year holiday and confirm it in advance if you make an appointment in advance.
What else should I pay attention to? Pay attention to moderation when visiting unless you make an appointment first. I don't know if you have noticed that we usually go to other people's homes as guests, and the concept of how long we stay there is not very strong, whether on holidays or at ordinary times. Generally speaking, courtesy visits, such as comrades in the office of retired cadres in the unit or comrades in the office, visiting old-timers or guests with working relationships, should be as brief as possible on holidays, because if you visit others, you will also go, and the living room is so big. Generally, it is advisable to stay at the guest's home for ten minutes, not too long. After greeting, the meaning will be good. Eat at most two melon seeds and have a cup of tea. Don't let it go. How can others come in if you don't leave there? This is a big problem. What about family and friends visiting? When visiting relatives and friends, it is generally appropriate to be short rather than long, and it is appropriate to be about half an hour. This is not a very special case, and it is not appropriate to stay for more than an hour. Under normal circumstances, don't stay for dinner unless you are a close relative or an old friend, and you are repeatedly detained by the other party, because the other party's burden will be heavy, so we call this enough is enough. Not only must you make an appointment first, but enough is enough.
Third, as tourists, we should pay attention to self-cleanliness in New Year's Day etiquette. People in China and foreigners should celebrate Spring Festival, New Year's Day, modern festivals, Labor Day, Youth Day and Women's Day. We should always maintain our image, so we should make necessary modifications to ourselves.
Generally speaking, we should pay attention to three points in this renovation. First of all, we should decorate our clothes. It is best to choose certain national costumes for specific national festivals, at least clean and tidy, and not too sloppy.
Second, what should I pay attention to? This is a relatively low-level requirement, but I still want to say that besides being neat and tidy, we should also pay attention to gfd. For example, men had better get a haircut and shave. Generally speaking, lesbians should have a hairstyle if possible. Why? Because there is a characteristic in judging people, from the beginning, if a person's hairstyle gives others a bad feeling, it will affect his image. It is very important to look, modify their hair and delete their beards. And when we talk about appearance, we must emphasize that we must wash their hair, bathe and wash their hands, and there must be no odor. In general, it is best not to eat sexual food in other people's homes, such as onions, but roast duck is delicious. Eat less garlic, garlic is strong, and generally do not eat leeks. As we all know, northerners like to eat jiaozi stuffed with leeks, but that guy with leeks has a strong flavor. He will eat leek buns tonight and burp leek tomorrow afternoon, which is sustainable.
Third, we should pay attention to a very important detail, that is, we should pay attention to the hygiene of shoes and socks. Now city people are more extravagant at home. Some ethnic groups have some habits. As soon as you enter the door, you will be covered with carpets and yurts. They must take off their shoes when they enter the door. Some of us pay little attention to this. To put it bluntly, their heads and broomsticks are handsome and dignified. They dare not take off their shoes when they enter the door. Taking off your shoes can kill mice. Maybe there are three holes in the sock, one of which shows the big toe. Therefore, when an experienced person goes to other people's homes as a guest, besides dressing neatly and grooming neatly, the hygiene of shoes and socks is very important. This is the detail. As we said before, education is reflected in the details.
Besides, what else should we pay attention to? When you visit, you should pay attention to proper activities. What do you mean? When visiting other people's homes, whether it's going to a company, an individual or a company, we must pay attention to the activities within the designated scope of the other party. Where is the designated area for going to other people's homes? The designated area is the living room.
Some of our comrades have a sense of small farmers. What consciousness? I dare to go anywhere without seeing you. I remember once I made a fool of myself. Going to bed on New Year's Eve, about four or five in the morning, is the Spring Festival again. As a result, a man came at eight o'clock and got up after I slept for two or three hours. The family said that someone knocked at the door and rang the doorbell. Can't you get up? I said of course I got up. Is it appropriate for guests not to get up when they come? Because I was in a hurry, I got up before I could fold the quilt. I'm still narrow-minded. Anyway, he didn't come into my bedroom. The living room is quite big. Unexpectedly, the man outside didn't see me. After sitting for a few minutes, he felt uncomfortable. Do you want to visit your house? Oh, I said I don't have to look. Let's have a look. First of all, I visited the bathroom, which was not bad. My bathroom is clean. Then I visited the storage room, which was not bad. He can't take anything. Then tell me, can I visit your bedroom? I said I'd better not look, but I did, so I went in. In fact, such comrades can sometimes make people embarrassed and troublesome. When visiting other people's homes, it is very important to have an appropriate degree of activity, that is, the scope of activities should be limited, and don't mess around, even family and friends should pay attention.
Another thing, when we talk about being guests, we pay more attention to the choice of gifts.
Visiting relatives and friends sometimes brings some gifts, so what gifts to give is very particular. I have a little question to ask the children in front of the TV and the middle school students and college students present. If you went back to visit your grandparents or parents in other places, what would you choose?
The choice of this gift not only reflects the importance of others, but also involves the warmth and intimacy of interpersonal relationships. I remember a student came to see me at my house the year before last. He gave me a gift during the Spring Festival, which impressed me deeply. It is a graduate student who comes to my home. As soon as he came in, he said to me, Professor Jin, I brought you a present. Don't be unhappy. Teacher Jin never accepts gifts from students. If you want to graduate, you can give me anything so that you can earn money. Don't do this, Mr. Jin doesn't lack this, so don't do this, or everyone will be unhappy. You take it back, he said, Professor Jin, don't be angry. If you look at this gift, you will be very happy. To tell the truth, I was really happy when I saw this gift from him, and I was really moved by him. Do you know what gift he gave me? The ancients said that gifts are not necessarily real money, but if they are in place, the effect may be better. What gift did he give me? He gave me a newspaper the day I was born. I was born in 1959. To be honest, I like reading newspapers. I have read all kinds of newspapers. Now I subscribe to more than a dozen newspapers. I read newspapers for an hour or two every day, but I never thought about reading newspapers on the day I was born. I have never seen it. He probably went to the library and copied some newspapers about my birthplace and work place that could be collected. I remember some. Wen Wei Po, Jiefang Daily, China Children's Daily and daily newspaper. A copy of this newspaper is probably less than 20 yuan, but it is light and affectionate. When I got home, I went in and did nothing. I hid in a book and studied the newspaper carefully for two hours. I finally know what the world is like when I come to this world. I was so excited that I called my parents at once. The next day, my sister told me what medicine you gave our old lady. My parents stayed up all night and couldn't sleep all night, talking about the past.
In fact, the value of this gift has arrived. Ceremony is not necessarily to send people away, ceremony is light and affection is heavy.
New Year's Day gifts focus on conveying love and emotion and showing love to relatives, friends and elders. I told many young children and young comrades that it doesn't matter how expensive the gift you brought to your grandparents is. The key is that you take it with you, even if the child draws a picture and gives the exam report card to his grandparents, he will be very happy.