I was like this when I was in junior high school. This is called phobia of crowds. Your situation should be phobia of special groups.

You will be particularly afraid of certain situations or occasions. For example, you are afraid of speaking or performing in public. Despite this, you do not feel fear in other social situations. Salesmen, actors, teachers, musicians, etc. often have special phobias. There is nothing unusual about their normal interactions with others, but when they need to perform on stage or speak in public, they will feel extreme fear and often become stammering or even stunned on the spot. People with crowdphobia are constantly worried about making a fool of themselves in front of others, and they experience extreme anxiety before attending any social gathering. They imagine how they would make a fool of themselves in front of others. When they are really with others, they will feel even more unnatural and even unable to say a word. After the party is over, they will replay the scene over and over in their minds, review how they handled every detail, and what they should have done correctly.

Both groups of people with phobias have similar physical symptoms: dry mouth, sweating, rapid heartbeat, and wanting to go to the toilet. Symptoms that people around you may see include: red face, stuttering, and slight trembling. Sometimes patients find themselves short of breath and have cold hands and feet. The worst outcome is that the patient goes into a state of panic.

So how to overcome it?

1. Establish a complete self-personality: No matter whether your shining points are discovered by others, you must treat yourself correctly and accept your strengths and even weaknesses. Have the courage to accept everything that comes after your shortcomings are exposed. There is nothing you can't bear.

People will not change anything because of individual changes. Scientists have confirmed that a person with no shortcomings is not easily accepted by outsiders. A successful person will only be accepted when he reveals some shortcomings. People feel that he is more real and approachable.

2. Subconsciousness is the key

People often suppress some things they are unwilling to accept into their subconscious minds, and some things they are not even aware of at all. In fact, they play a psychological role that cannot be underestimated. Correctly understand the functions of these subconscious minds. For patients with social phobia, if the subconscious things can be brought to consciousness correctly, the symptoms can be improved accordingly. For example, there is another type of patient who appears to be adaptable to the environment, but lacks the ability to establish intimate relationships with people and can only interact with people on a superficial level. This actually has something to do with his long-term interpersonal circle and growing environment. A healthy and caring approach will make them much better.

3. Don’t always be unable to get rid of past failures

Social phobia is actually formed over a long period of time. Some problems become more difficult to overcome as time goes on when they are not addressed. At this time, it is even more difficult to break out of the old pattern. For example, if a person's personality is inherently introverted and not good at expressing himself, then in order for the individual to overcome this psychological barrier.

Often his anxiety and nervousness lead to his failure again and again. At this time, a psychologist needs to make a clearer change in his life style, so that he can truly break out of this vicious circle.

I’m much better now, I hope it’s useful to you,