As the old saying goes, "Nine times out of ten, life is unhappy", so it is inevitable to encounter sadness. When you are disheartened, depressed and sad, listen to a sad old song, and only like to be alone, and don't want to come out. This kind of emotion has also happened in Xiaobian. When I am sad, I listen to sad songs and want to cry, but I still like to listen. This kind of emotion will last for a long time and I can't extricate myself from sadness. Strange, how can I like this feeling! Is sadness addictive? If you have such a question, please come with Xiaobian to see how the neurologist answered it!
Being sad for a long time is the normal operation of the brain-so that's it.
The data of scientific research also prove this point: people are in such emotions as sadness, shame, pain, tension, jealousy and hatred for a long time, while emotions such as happiness, release and pride are fleeting. The time gap between these two kinds of emotions can reach dozens or even hundreds:
In a recent research survey, it was found that the duration of such emotions as sadness, hatred, tension and depression can reach dozens or even hundreds of hours. Correspondingly, the emotional duration of relaxation and surprise is only a few hours or so. You may not have thought that, in fact, the duration of sadness in the brain is originally longer than other emotions. Therefore, being in sadness, pain, depression and stress for a long time is not an abnormal state of mind, but a normal working state of the human brain.
Sadness can exist, but not for too long-too much is not enough
If sadness is too strong and lasts for too long, it will lead to our active social isolation, that is, we will encourage ourselves and not communicate with others. This will of course lead to a series of harmful results, including self-conscious destruction, the elimination of self-esteem, etc., which is obviously unfavorable to personal work and life. Therefore, the time spent immersed in sadness should not be too long, and we still need to adjust ourselves and consciously change our emotional state. Although the research results show that happy emotions are fleeting, we should continue to pursue a happy life and live a happy life. So, how can we adjust ourselves to get out of sadness and live a positive, optimistic and happy life again?
Listening to sad music can actually adjust sad mood-fight poison with poison
Sometimes, in order to relieve sadness and pain, we unconsciously listen to sad music and read tragic words. In these situations, the degree of sadness that people experience is weaker than that that the author tries to convey. Correspondingly, people can experience Nostalgia (good old days), peace and security (peacefulness), Tenderness and gentleness, Sadness, Wonder and detachment. When listening to sad music, nostalgia, tranquility and warmth are stronger than sadness-our feelings are a mixture of a series of complex emotions, and in this complex feeling, the positive factors far exceed sadness itself. Among them, the strongest sense of nostalgia reflects that we recall the past and achieve the effect of emotional rumination and emotional self-regulation. This fact proves the modulating effect and positive significance of sad music and written works on sad mood:
sad and slow-paced works can stimulate the brain to secrete oxytocin and prolactin. This will promote socialbonding and caring respectively. When we are sad for a long time, sadness will turn into a sense of social isolation, that is, loneliness, which makes us feel that in this world, everyone is happy and only we are in sorrow, and our hearts will have the need to cry alone (Lasciach'iopianga), which will worsen our emotional state. The sense of social connection promoted by oxytocin, the role of stories told by lyrics, phrases and words, and the sense of Nostalgia caused by music (nostalgia, nostalgic memories, recalling past sorrows) will make us feel * * * with music, so that we feel that we are not the only one who is lonely, and our loneliness is not more, deeper or more special than others'; At the same time, one's own loneliness can transcend the isolation of time and space, and is related to the loneliness of the author and the millions of audiences in Qian Qian. With the help of the caring feeling stimulated by prolactin, we can involuntarily (in fact, subconsciously driven) recall ourselves in the past, having been loved, successful and happy, and we should not be so useless as at this moment. In this way, sad works have played the role of mood adjustment and reversed the deterioration of sad mood.
it may be useless to be comforted by others-you still have to rely on yourself.
As a natural behavior of others, it is difficult for a person in sorrow to feel * * *. Because the giver of comfort usually acts as a bystander rather than a peer. Compared with comfort, people in trouble need despair and pain more. Only in despair and pain can they learn from their mistakes, reflect and get relief. For example, you can divert your attention through the pressure of life and work. When you are too busy to take care of your own sadness, you will gradually forget the pain. Moreover, if you work hard, you will probably make small achievements. These unexpected surprises will also make you find that there are actually many things in life that are worth being happy and enjoyable. In addition, you can relax yourself completely, and travel and vacation are good ways to adjust.
(Author: Dr. DieEule, Ph.D., China Academy of Sciences, Max Planck Institute, original text, please indicate that it is from knowledge is power WeChat WeChat official account)