Text/Da Liu’s Free Time

Let’s tell an interesting story first.

Amherst College in Massachusetts, USA, once conducted a very interesting experiment. Experimenters used many iron hoops to hoop a small pumpkin entirely, and then observed how much pressure the pumpkin could withstand as it grew older.

Initially they estimated the pumpkin could withstand about 500 pounds of pressure. In the first month of the experiment, the pumpkin withstood 500 pounds of pressure;

In the second month of the experiment, the pumpkin withstood 1,500 pounds of pressure; when it withstood 2,000 pounds of pressure, the study The personnel had to tie the hoop more tightly to prevent the pumpkin from stretching the hoop. Finally, the whole pumpkin withstood more than 5,000 pounds of pressure before the skin cracked.

After they opened the pumpkin, they found that it was no longer edible because in the process of trying to break through the iron ring, its flesh turned into tough and strong layers of fiber. In order to absorb sufficient nutrients and break through the iron ring that limits its growth, its roots even extended more than 80,000 feet. All the roots stretched in different directions. In the end, this pumpkin took over the soil and resources of the entire cultivation garden alone. .

Pumpkins can withstand such huge pressure, but what about us humans? People have no idea how much pressure they can handle. But one thing is certain, humans are advanced animals and must bear greater pressure than a little pumpkin.

Generally speaking, psychological pressure in modern life has three stress sources: society, life and competition. Too much stress can harm your health. Modern medicine has proven that psychological stress can weaken the human immune system, causing external pathogenic factors to cause disease in the body.

No matter who you are, you will face tremendous pressure one day - not necessarily from which direction. Life is not a simple thing, it always finds a way to hit you in the most unexpected way.

Stressful events and pressure come from the objective content of the outside world, and the stress response is determined by the individual himself, so the only thing we can change is the scope of cognition.

Why do beggars in foreign countries have no pressure, but elites living in domestic big cities are full of pressure? The root cause is comparison. Everyone is competing to see who has a better life, who lives in a villa, and who drives a better car. This is why many people become relaxed and comfortable after traveling abroad or staying away from the hustle and bustle of their own cities. The realm lies in the state of being in the hustle and bustle of the body, and the mind is free from impetuousness, just like the state of mind of an expert who knows how to live outside the world.

Don’t envy those people who are full of medals, confident, and seemingly unhindered by anything. Take off the medals and jackets, and what you can’t see are the scars and loneliness all over his body.

The difference is that he survived on his own and became more open-minded after the pressure was released.

Why do beggars in foreign countries have no pressure, but elites living in domestic big cities are full of pressure? The root cause is comparison.

Everyone is competing to see who has a better life, who lives in a villa, and who drives a better car. This is why many people become relaxed and comfortable after traveling abroad or staying away from the hustle and bustle of their own cities. .

Don’t envy those people who are full of medals, confident, and seemingly unhindered by anything. Take off the medals and jackets, and what you can’t see are the scars and loneliness all over his body.

The difference is that he survived on his own and became more open-minded after the pressure was released.

The pressure is not about how big it is, but about how you treat it and give it an outlet to release. How big your heart is, how far your dream is.

1. The first thing to do when dealing with stress is to face the pressure

Acknowledge the existence of stress, understand the source of stress, accept it and try to change or resolve it. Avoiding reality is sometimes a means, but it is not a long-term solution. The ostrich mentality of self-deception and deceiving others is not conducive to the relief of stress. Instead, it will make you feel more frustrated and lost.

Of course, it is also possible to divert your attention appropriately and spread your energy to other things or people. Don't get stuck under heavy pressure and don't look back until you hit the wall. Strategically despise it, but tactically pay attention to it.

2. Clarify your own expectations. It is far from advisable to be too ambitious.

Different pursuits have different intensity of desire to overcome difficulties. A poor person will be happy if he gets a bonus of 200 yuan, while a billionaire may jump off a building if he becomes a millionaire.

There is a folk story:

Hu Jiushao was a native of Jinxi in the Ming Dynasty. His family was very poor. While teaching and working hard at farming, he could only afford food, clothing and clothing.

Every evening at dusk, Hu Jiushao would burn incense at the door and bow nine times to the sky to thank God for giving him a day of happiness.

His wife laughed at him and said: "We have vegetable porridge for three meals a day, how can we be considered happy?

" Hu Jiushao said: "First of all, I am very lucky to be born in a peaceful and prosperous age. There are no wars. We are also fortunate that our whole family can have food and clothing, and we will not starve or suffer from cold. Thirdly, we are fortunate that there are no patients in the bed and no prisoners in the prison. What is this not a blessing? p>

This story talks about the principle of "contentment leads to long-term happiness". Sometimes, if you lower your expectations, you will find that the pressure disappears without a trace in an instant.

3. Make a list of priority projects based on the things that need to be solved, and complete them one by one

Stress and anxiety usually go hand in hand, for example, the leader suddenly arranges work, suddenly upgrades the content, disrupting the original plan , you may have to work overtime, or you may need to call people in different departments to confirm.

Can the task be completed on time? Are there any questions that have not been taken into account? You are so overwhelmed. At this time, you need to calm down and list all the things that need to be completed one by one.

Mark the priority and sort it according to time. Put the most urgent and urgent items. Go to the top, and so on for other projects.

Note: Urgent is equivalent to the preparation work before execution, and important is equivalent to the follow-up work.

It is recommended to follow these four priorities. Divide the project into parts with a clear goal. If it still cannot be completed after the division, you need to communicate and report with the leader, explain the reasons, and seek other solutions.

4. Don’t be afraid to get help from others

In our work and life, we are surrounded by various things every day. After dealing with these things, sometimes there is no one to talk to.

When we encounter difficulties at work and cannot solve them, we have to do it ourselves. If you work overtime alone until late at night, you will end up being criticized by your boss; in life, your house is leaking and you can’t fix it even after a long time. In fact, everyone in society is not an individual, but a social animal who faces communication with others. , communication.

To strengthen group communication, you can start from the following points:

5. Strengthen psychological adjustment

Pressure is invisible, and facing pressure , the most important thing we have to do is to adjust mentally. Laugh often, listen to music, read books and newspapers, stay calm when things happen, and make concessions when appropriate. As the saying goes: taking a step back will make the world brighter. Cold treatment is better, and you will have more room if you take a step back.

If not, go out for a trip and change your environment. Facing the beautiful scenery outdoors, your stress and worries will probably disappear. .

Stress is a double-edged sword. If used well, it will turn into motivation for struggle. If used poorly, it can lead to anxiety at best and depression and loss of confidence in life. Facing the increasing pressure in today's society, as long as we dare to face it, be ourselves, do not delay, doubt, or speculate, and continue to increase our AQ (frustration quotient), your mind will become more mature. stand up.