Mr. Ye Guangqin talked about life in a relaxed tone. In these ordinary and trivial days, we saw the fullness and colorful life of Mr. Ye Guangqin.
what should life be like? In fact, it should be said: what life is like for us!
Teacher Ye Guangqin unfolded a lively picture of life for us with simple and simple words. In this life, everyone is an indispensable part.
what do we feel through this book? What have we learned?
one: life is a one-way street with no return trip, and we are brave people who try hard to go on this route! No matter what happens, it is the hard work to go on bravely.
every choice in life is actually a positive attack on life. Life is like a kaleidoscope, which always surprises us inadvertently.
When Ye Guangqin learned that she was pregnant, she didn't give up because she was an elderly primipara. She was not afraid of the unknown difficulties and dangers, and finally bravely waited for the arrival of the child.
In the process of waiting, Mr. Ye Guangqin experienced too much pain and hardship!
First of all, the happiness and pain of being a mother for the first time!
The joy of being a mother for the first time is always replaced by helplessness and pain without warning! As an elderly primipara, Teacher Ye Guangqin deeply felt its pain. Every mother-to-be is looking forward to the arrival of a baby, while enduring the hardships brought by pregnancy.
Lu Xun, a writer, said, "Mother is great!"
How many mothers pay not only hard work for their children, but also the thrill of passing death at any time.
In the book, Mr. Ye Guangqin returns to his birthplace by train alone for the sake of the smooth birth of his child.
another person worked hard to get a temporary account, and finally decided his own decision by the way. All this is a mother's contribution, and these contributions are unilateral acts that don't need to be repaid.
This reminds me of the reports I have seen.
In 216, Fu Xiongying in Hukou, Jiujiang, found out that she was pregnant soon after she got married. In order to leave a healthy child, she stopped the treatment of left scapular sarcoma.
When she was pregnant for seven or eight months, she felt unwell. She insisted on continuing her pregnancy and finally left a healthy daughter. Because she missed the treatment time, the cancer cells metastasized to the lungs and spread all over the body. In the days when she was waiting to die, her husband left her and didn't show up.
just before her death, she signed an organ donation agreement.
Finally, she left a letter and a paragraph for her child: "I'm sorry, my child. I am absent from your growth, and it is useless to say that I am sorry. I want to say that I love you, and I hope that you will be safe when you come. Since you have come to this world, enjoy it! Although it is helpless without a mother, you still have grandparents and dad, who can grow up with you. I hope you can live a happy life and grow up happily! "
A mother gives up the chance to live, just for her daughter in her belly to feel life.
This story is sad, but Fu Xiongying is optimistic and leaves her hope to her daughter.
The suffering of life didn't make this woman's scarred heart lose its light, but she still gave the light of life to her daughter!
Secondly, the parents' desire to "dream their children into success" collides fiercely with their children's wishes!
Parents always want to give all the good things to their children, but children are rejected and rejected when they face the "baby" in the eyes of these parents.
Teacher Ye Guangqin and his lover are both successful intellectuals, and they are representatives of China's strong traditional thoughts.
In the education of her daughter, she was repeatedly overturned. Gu Dayu's petty tactics and resistance to her inner ideal made the couple and Gu Dayu's grandfather suffer a lot.
This is not a family pain. In China, this situation is a pain point for most families.
since ancient times, China people's thought of "wishing their children success" has always been closely tied to their children's growth. There is no denying that what parents give their children is mostly the essence of dross. But there is a very realistic question: What do children need?
children can learn from others in their growth, but they should not be copied to live!
astrid Lin Gelun, a Swedish writer of children's literature, said: "It is true that children need discipline and guidance, but if they are under discipline and guidance all the time and everywhere, it is impossible to learn self-control and self-guidance."
Every child is a unique individual, and they all have distinct personal characteristics.
As a parent, it is always a dilemma: Do you want to educate and discipline like so-and-so? Or let children learn to explore by themselves in a relaxed atmosphere?
This question is actually very difficult. We will always be influenced by the surrounding environment, and we will hesitate because we are not sure how this will affect us.
Many times it's not that parents don't know what to do, but that they don't really know their children, so they don't know what their children really want.
I also have this kind of anxiety and entanglement, because there are too many hard-working parents around me, who are as busy as bees and have broken their hearts for their children's learning.
all these make me feel that if I don't work hard, my children will be eliminated. But if we work too hard, does the child still need to think and work hard?
two: life is often sailing against the current, with a strong and brave heart, learn to see the scenery along the way in the wind and waves!
people's life is a state of being high and low, and there is no obstacle that they can't get through but an inner heart that they can't get out of!
Teacher Ye Guangqin used her delicate and full words to explain the ups and downs of life.
These pictures displayed in front of readers make you want to laugh when you are happy, and make you feel strong and optimistic when you are in pain!
when you gain, you will feel happy from your heart, and when you lose, you will find that what you cling to can be put down indifferently!
The first time I saw the singer Huang Qishan, I attended the singing festival "I am a singer".
when this 46-year-old middle-aged woman opened her voice, I was impressed by her rich and beautiful singing.
I'm curious about this woman, whose singing voice is completely different from her appearance, which makes people curious about her. I was impressed by reading her profile. What will two marriages bring to a woman?
in 1991, Huang Qishan and Tu Huiyuan met and got married. In 1996, Huang Qishan and Tu Huiyuan divorced because of differences in musical concepts.
in p>213, Huang Qishan married her music director Zhang Ying (Zhang Wenzhong). In 216, Huang Qishan divorced Zhang Ying.
When "Classic Chanting" started, I was lucky enough to hear her sing again.
I like her song Dingfengbo Don't listen to the sound of beating leaves through the forest best. Every lyric seems to see the transformation of a woman.
After singing the song, she said, "Life is high, low, expensive and low. You should thank your past glory and your past sufferings. It is this patchwork of life that makes you more beautiful today."
Life will always go through many twists and turns. During this journey, we will meet spring, wander in summer, reap the richness of autumn and experience the cold of winter.
This life, which changes all the year round, will not stay in one season all the time. But if we can't learn to forget the pain in happiness and the happiness in pain, then life will stay endlessly in that season that destroys you!
Miyazaki Hayao, a Japanese cartoonist, once said:
"Growing up is a transaction, and we all exchange the courage to grow up with simple innocence and impersonal whiteness."
When the TV series "Do you know if it should be green, fat, red and thin" was broadcasted, I spent two days brushing the drama and watching the life of the heroine Sheng Minglan at the end of the drama, which suddenly made me understand a truth: life can be countered, but you need to recognize your situation, accept the cost brought by growth, and take every step bravely!
When mother Lin Xiaoniang died, she said to her, "Just remember one sentence, everything is the biggest alive!"
Sheng Minglan understood that it was not easy to live at the cost of her mother's death, and began to be a low-key person and do things. However, in the process of growing up, she will still do what she wants to do and protect herself, and will make friends who share the same interests.
Growth is a process in which pain is mixed with pleasure. In this unavoidable and hopeless process, be a person who can "have fun in suffering" and "find a rainbow in the cracks"!
three: all the suffering and beauty of life will eventually be submerged in the long river of time. What we can do is to cherish it when we have it and keep an indifferent heart when we lose it!
After Mr. Ye Guangqin was Ye Henala's, when Mr. Ye returned to Beijing to give birth, he walked west along the Hutong of the Opera House every day, brushed the south wall of Yonghe Palace, walked back to the big archway of imperial academy in Chengxian Street, and finally went home from Berlin Temple.
For others, this stroll time is a leisurely view of the scenery, but for Teacher Ye, it is a memory of our ancestors.
all the glorious years have disappeared in the long river of history.
Although Mr. Ye Guangqin can't continue to live in the splendor of imperial power like his ancestors, he also has a unique style in live high.
Life is a one-way street, and it is a movie that cannot be replayed. We can cherish the memory of our past achievements, and we can bask in our past glory from time to time, but we can't immerse ourselves in the past.
do you often ask: who am I? Why am I not someone?
do you envy others' lives and want to copy others' life experiences?
I want to say don't do this. The uniqueness of life lies in: it is the most authentic image belonging to individuals!
I like the stories shared by Teacher Ye Guangqin in this book, especially about Gu Dayu's growing experience and educational experience.
Through this book, I can't help but reflect on some phenomena today.
phenomenon 1: the upsurge of studying abroad!
when I was in high school, I faced the problem of studying abroad for the first time. I don't know if it was a craze at that time, and there were many parents running around to apply for visas for their children and so on.
My mother's aunt's son is one year older than me, and my uncle went to study abroad after his college entrance examination. Now Peng Ge stays in Germany, and his major is also his favorite automobile manufacturing industry.
Brother Peng is a good one. After all, he can cope with life and study alone at his age.
However, when studying abroad becomes popular, international students are getting younger and younger.
I can't become an American, and I have long forgotten what it's like to be from China.
This is the line of the TV series "Beijingers in new york" in the 199s, which tells how many people yearn for foreign countries.
At that time, the anxiety and loss in foreign countries, today's international students also feel such anxiety.
A Survey Report on the Employability of Returnees in 219, which was jointly published by Kai Tak Education and Carefree Future and Job Search Network for Fresh Graduates, shows:
Since 28, the average growth rate of China's return from studying abroad in recent ten years has been 24%. In 218, the total number of overseas students in China reached 662,1, while the number of returned students reached 519,.
And these returned overseas students have encountered employment embarrassment. First of all, the time of employment recruitment in China is different from that of graduation from foreign universities.
Secondly, the rate of college entrance examination in China has increased, which makes the employment rate of graduates saturated. Enterprises have higher requirements for graduates' actual combat ability. Relatively speaking, the advantages of returnees are not as good as a few years ago.
Therefore, it is not advisable for parents to let their children study abroad blindly. Moreover, because of the uneven quality of international students and the relaxed admission system of foreign universities in order to attract domestic students, the gold content of graduation certificates has shrunk dramatically.
Qing Zheng Guanying said in "Dangerous Words in a Prosperous Age": "Different categories are divided; Teach students in accordance with their aptitude. "
Educating children should be based on their specific conditions, rather than following the fashion to see the superficial phenomenon, so that many children will eventually fall into the embarrassing situation of "not getting up and down".
Phenomenon 2: Make-up lessons are hot!
Nowadays, no matter at the school gate or outside the make-up class waiting for the children to finish class, the topic that parents talk about is: What's your child's score in this exam? Did you get points? It seems that this piece can't work, but a better teacher is needed ...
Nowadays, parents are more tired than their children, and the parents' competition with each other makes their children very tired.
I'm really tired, regardless of whether it's primary school or students facing the senior high school entrance examination. There are too few students who haven't enrolled in cram schools.
At present, there are only two kinds of people who don't report to classes: students who are basically "mixed" in their studies, and others whose families are financially strapped and unable to afford high tuition fees.
Parents and teachers are keen on making up lessons, just like the "theater effect" of watching movies in the cinema. It was originally an easy learning process, but it paid a higher price because of blindly following the trend to make up lessons.
Erik Erikson, an American psychologist, once pointed out that school-age children are in two important stages of life:
In the first stage, children are gradually forming their own concepts, and the external environment will affect their self-esteem. Making up lessons will make your child lose self-confidence, and he will subconsciously think that he is inferior to others, thus making his child feel inferior.
The second stage is the establishment of their social roles, and children will think about their life strategies in their accumulated past experiences. However, parents sign up for various cram schools regardless of whether their children are willing or not, causing their children to be confused about their past efforts. Because a period of hard work has not achieved good results, it will cause their rebellious psychology, leading to withdrawn personality and bad temper.
it is not absolutely bad to make up lessons, but it depends on the situation. Children can't be passively crammed with knowledge, and children will get bored in such endless learning, thus rejecting learning.
Life is like walking. When you are tired, you have a rest. Give life a chance to choose itself, instead of being dragged forward by a rope.
As Ye Guangqin said in the book, it is this human fireworks that is common and rare in life! And we are all ordinary people who live by these fireworks.
if we calm down, we will feel the joy of stumbling when we are toddlers, the excitement of knowing right from wrong for the first time, and the aftertaste of the years when we are old. These fragmentary footprints of life are happiness!
Finally, I give it to you in the words of teacher Ye Guangqin: May every ordinary and ordinary day be filled with infinite fun, spend a lot of points and spend a lot of seconds!