“True letting go is not about deleting and blocking, not not contacting, but not caring.”

“Seeing those dishes I like to eat, hearing the songs I like to listen to, When I smell the familiar smell on my body, I still think of my ex, but my heart is no longer disturbed.”

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What is letting go?

? That is, you can finally mention his name to others at will, and you will no longer feel anything special when you see anything related to him. You will also chat with him, it is just his Care and blessings no longer mean anything to you.

? After the breakup, I have been stuck in this relationship and can't get out of it. After all, the person who was once intimate with you disappears from your world. Suddenly there was a big vacancy in my heart, and it was inevitable that I had to do something to fill it. I began to enjoy checking her Moments, paying attention to her updates, background pictures, avatars, and even her WeChat steps. I want to know her current life, where she goes every day, whether she still cares about me, and whether she has met any new boys.

? Every one of her updates affects my emotions, and I can't help myself from interpreting and guessing. I knew I would be unhappy after watching it, but I was like an addicted patient, unable to extricate myself despite the extreme pain. Sartre said, "When contact is impossible, the desire to peep takes over." It's true. I am no longer satisfied with just looking at her circle of friends. The update frequency of her circle of friends is too low. So I went to QQ Music to see what songs she listened to every day, because she used my QQ account, what new albums she had bought, and what songs she had collected.

During the period when I just broke up, I had a lot of emotional fluctuations. I often felt sad and irritable for no reason. I tossed and turned at night and couldn't sleep. This feeling was really helpless and desperate. Once I want to let myself go for the first time, but I can't control myself again and again. Unable to sleep, I started drinking to numb myself. Only when I was drunk did I stop thinking about her. I quit my job and was confused for a long time.

? I have a premonition that my life will be over if this continues. So I have to force myself to read books, hang out with friends, exercise, and divert my attention. I want to fill up all my free time so that I won't have time to think about her. I want her to disappear from my life. I believe that time is a good medicine that heals everything. I can break free from the quagmire and run towards a better tomorrow.

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? In our lives, we should all meet such a person. Falling in love with him, holding hands, hugging, kissing, etc. She firmly believes that he is the person she wants to be with for the rest of her life. But later we still separated, not because we lost each other in our hearts, but because we could never go back.

He was important in your life in the past. Now, even if I'm alone, I don't want to get back together with him.

? Just like what is sung in "Remembrance": The person I once loved deeply has disappeared from this world as early as the day of farewell.

? I saw such a story before:

? A girl and a boy went from freshman year to graduate school, but in the end they broke up. When the girl was preparing to find a job, she went to take the provincial examination in the city where the boy lived. The boy took the initiative to treat the girl to a hot pot meal. The girl saw that the boy was still so thin, still wearing the coat she bought for him, and he also liked to smoke explosive cigarettes. The boys remember all the food bowls and vegetables that girls like. The two chatted like old friends they hadn't seen for a long time, and they didn't feel awkward at all.

? Not long after, the girl suddenly received a call from her mother saying that her father was hospitalized. After the boys learned the news, they came to visit the girls. During the meal, after peeling the shrimp, the boy subconsciously hands it to the girl and then takes it back immediately. The girl's mother can clearly see it. After the boy left, the girl's mother asked: "Is there no possibility for you? He is a pretty good boy." "Yes, he is so good." The girl thought. "When we were together, every time we went out, no matter how heavy the shopping was, he would carry it, and he would also carry my bag and hold me with the other hand. When we were walking on the road, a gust of wind suddenly blew with sand and dust, and he would always He immediately covered my mouth and nose with both hands and ate dirt by himself. He always had snacks hidden in his pockets. Every time I saw him, his first move was always to dig into his pockets..."< /p>

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? Despite this, they still broke up because of their different plans for the future. What boys want is peace and quiet in this world, but girls like to be noisy and want to travel around after graduation. Although they are separated, if the other party is in trouble, they are willing to be the first to help each other, regardless of love or hate.

? We are all growing up, and we are becoming more and more clear about what kind of relationship we want, and how we plan to work hard in the future. You may still like him, but you may not have completely forgotten him. , but you know that you will no longer be together. Since you will no longer walk hand in hand, then turning around and learning to let go is the best ending.

? The story has both satisfaction and regret, but who can tell clearly about feelings? There is nothing wrong with either of them. If possible, I only hope that those who are serious in love can find their beloved for the rest of their lives.