The opportunity of marriage is a basic principle, and marriage is more important, that is, while meeting people's wedding requirements, we must adhere to the basic principles of Buddhist theory and run through the Buddhist spirit. I suggest that in addition to some basic links, the core part can consider formulating a relatively flexible etiquette with the theme of Mahayana Bodhisattva. Giving should be carefully grasped. My idea is that giving is mainly given by a couple to temples or social charities, but there should be an upper limit to prevent vulgar tendencies such as comparison. Gifts from parents and friends should not be charitable in this link. The remuneration paid by the newcomers to the temple or the monks attending the wedding should not appear in the form of charity, but can be returned according to the inherent form of Buddhism. Love words mainly praise, appreciate and encourage each other, including both husband and wife, parents and a couple, as well as guests (preferably elders and guests of the younger generation of husband and wife) and husband and wife. On the other hand, the monks expressed their enlightenment and blessings to the newcomers' basic code of conduct in studying Buddhism, working and living in the future. Colleagues are colleagues and friends (preferably peers). They are with the newcomers and express their desire to share joys and sorrows. The names of these four items can be changed. The mage only takes part in the four-shot meeting, and it is advisable not to appear at other times, so as to demonstrate strictly and nobly.
Weddings of people of different ages can be handled flexibly by taking care of age differences. The key is that different people, for very devout Buddhist believers, should be solemn; For cheerful and lively believers, we should pay attention to the lively atmosphere.
You can consider editing a Buddhist apocalypse specifically for weddings, which covers the basic spirit of Buddhism truth and vulgarity, and the cultivation of wisdom and wisdom. It is not only easy to understand, but also rigorous and solemn. It does not seek absolute unity, but it should prevent arbitrariness. It can be poetry or prose. Recite by the mage, and then by the newcomer. And printed into beautiful leaflets or gifts, as a gift for the new guests, for all the guests.
Professor Zhang Wenliang, Director of the Department of Religious Studies, School of Philosophy, Renmin University of China, is a special commentator on Buddhism online: Japanese Buddhist Wedding.
However, the argument that weddings and funerals in Japan have nothing to do with religion is not true. In fact, in Japan, religions, especially Buddhism, Shinto and Christianity, have penetrated into Japanese life, profoundly affecting all aspects of Japanese life. A few years ago, the Japanese government conducted a survey on the religious beliefs of its citizens. The results show that although the total population of Japanese is only1.200 million, the number of religious believers has reached more than 200 million. Why is this happening? There are two reasons: first, religion in the eyes of the Japanese is not only an ancestor, a doctrine or a cult, but also a habit, a custom and a culture. Visiting the shrine on New Year's Day and sweeping graves on Kogasawara Day are both a religious ceremony and a custom. If you participate in these activities for religious beliefs, almost all Japanese nationals are believers. Second, Japan's religious beliefs are not exclusive. Buddhists can be Shintoists or even Christians. This is also inseparable from the special ecology of Japanese religion. Due to complicated social and historical reasons, although Japanese religions are closely related to Japanese people's lives, all religions have formed a division of labor system, that is, in the stage of children's birth and growth, parents often take their children to the shrine to pray for God's blessing; When they are old enough to get married, they will go to the church for a wedding, so that God can witness their vows. After his death, he held a funeral in the temple, hoping to go to heaven and sleep with his ancestors in the cemetery in the temple. Because Japanese people are free to choose different religions at different stages of life, it is not surprising that a person has more than two faiths at the same time.
Although Buddhism has a division of labor with Shintoism and Christianity in Japanese life, the situation is not absolute. As far as weddings are concerned, young people certainly choose the Christian way, but Buddhist weddings and Shinto weddings also have a big market. Those families who are closely related to Buddhism, such as monks themselves (Japanese monks can get married), or both men and women are from monasteries, mostly hold weddings in monasteries.
Most Buddhist weddings are held in monasteries, and some invite monks to their homes in front of the Buddhist altar. Some companies specializing in wedding business have also set up Buddhist altars in citizen halls and restaurants to hold Buddhist weddings for newlyweds. According to the Buddhist concept, two married people were predestined friends in previous lives, and through the witness of Buddha, they should be together not only in this life but also in the afterlife.
The wedding held in Rilianzong Temple via Wang Si Temple featured Buddhist music and elegant music. In this hall decorated with white and red flowers, the elegant voice lingers and the flowers are overflowing. Not only the bride and groom, but also the relatives and friends attending the wedding are like a spiritual baptism.
In addition to traditional Buddhism, most emerging religions that developed rapidly after the war also held Buddhist weddings. For example, members of Sōka Gakkai usually get married in the guild hall in Sōka Gakkai, especially when both men and women are members. This kind of wedding often involves reciting the Lotus Sutra, which is a magical practice in the south, and the god it worships is also the Great Sage of the Sun Lotus. This kind of wedding often becomes a means for family members to confirm and strengthen their beliefs.
Master Xing Yuan, Chairman of the Australian Dharma Buddhist Association and Special Commentator of this station: Talking about simple, grand, solemn and exquisite Buddhist weddings.
2/kloc-today, with the continuous development and progress of the times, more and more Buddhists at home hope to hold a Buddhist wedding with their partners in the temple, and get the blessings of teachers, parents, colleagues, Taoist friends and brothers. Of course, it is also through the form of Buddhist wedding that the love between men and women can be United forever, fulfill the promise of love and form a happy Buddhist.
As far as I know, some couples who want to hold Buddhist weddings are mostly Buddhist at home. The combination of this life is a good relationship in the past. Therefore, it is easy for them to understand and support each other, and they have the desire to study Buddhism at home together. From the perspective of Buddhism, it should be advocated that it is also a good thing for all living beings to have fun with Buddhism, which is of certain positive significance to social stability.
However, because there is no clear basis for Buddhist weddings in Buddhist classics, there is no unified regulation on Buddhist wedding ceremonies at present. However, according to the procedure of secular law, couples who need to hold Buddhist weddings must first follow the marriage laws of various countries. Both men and women in Buddhist weddings must be registered and formally married according to national laws. Then, they went to the Buddhist temple to beg for Sanbaojia, and the abbot of the temple would bless them.
Usually, the mage who wishes him should clearly know the actual situation of the couple, and according to their specific needs, according to the origin of Buddhism and the spirit of Buddhism and Bodhisattva, build a pure land on earth to attract them to learn Buddhism in a convenient Buddhist form.
The Sangha is the representative of the Three Treasures, which bless the new couple. The master who presides over the ceremony should pay special attention to Buddhist dharma, which is both a reason and an opportunity to arrange a simple, grand and solemn Buddhist wedding ceremony for the couple according to their specific conditions.
In western countries, Buddhist temples in northern China generally divide Buddhist weddings into two types:
1. For newcomers who have not converted to the Three Treasures, the master presiding over the Dharma Association should first teach them to convert to the Three Treasures of Buddhism, Dharma and Monks, and observe the five commandments of not killing, stealing, fornicating, lying and taking drugs (not drinking).
2. For Buddhists who convert to the Three Treasures and accept the Five Commandments at home, Buddhist weddings are usually held in accordance with normal Buddhist ceremonies. For example, newcomers worship Buddha, burn incense, support the three treasures, and ask monks to preach the Dharma. At Buddhist weddings, both men and women swear to abide by the five precepts and respect each other for life. With the blessing of parents, teachers, relatives and friends, they became legal couples, helping each other with love and taking care of each other with self-cultivation.
The ceremony of Buddhist wedding must be simple, grand, solemn and refined, which embodies the humanistic spirit of Buddhism that is people-oriented and purifies people's hearts, as well as the Buddhist cause that Buddhist men and women practice hand in hand.
In general, the basic procedures of Buddhist wedding ceremonies in Buddhist temples spread from west to north are generally as follows:
First of all, the bride and groom worship Buddha, burn incense and offer lanterns, flowers and fruits in front of the Buddha statue to support the three treasures of Buddhism.
Second, the master of ceremonies announced that the abbot would be invited to sit on the throne and preside over the blessing ceremony.
Third, host the mage to bless the newcomers and show them the Buddha's teaching method.
Fourth, parents, teachers and friends of both husband and wife give blessings.
Fifth, the couple thanked the monks, teachers and friends.
Sixth, after the ceremony, the couple took photos with the host monk, parents, teachers and friends.
The above is the agenda of Buddhist wedding ceremonies in Buddhist temples spread from western countries to the north, for your reference only.
The Buddhist Association of the Australian Law Society issued its wish.