01

What does frequent going to bars mean? Does it mean you are not a good girl?

I have a friend whose engagement was broken off a few days before her wedding because her fiancé kept complaining about her going to the bar.

What makes my friend sad is not that the engagement was broken off, but that in his heart, she was always inferior to others even though he knew in his heart that she had never done anything bad.

"No matter what I have done, people will only see the bad version of myself. The world does not want me to be a good person"

02

Bars are not a sin, prejudice is.

In the world of young people, a bar is just a social place with its own wild atmosphere, explosive music, and seductive cocktails that make the blood boil. It is a place where emotions can be stored.

Young people with evil intentions are eager to meet love and passion here, and have a collision between body and soul.

As for the occurrence of the "cadaver picking" incident, it is the dark side of human nature, not a reason for prejudice against women.

But there are always people who think:

If you often go to bars, you must have a good sleep!

Girls who often go to bars must be very cheap.

Nice girls don’t go to bars.

Some self-righteous people always fall in love with a set of stereotypes.

Her makeup is so thick, she must be wearing it frequently.

She drives a luxury car, so she must be being kept.

She has tattoos and is definitely not a good girl.

She has so many friends of the opposite sex, so she must be a green tea bitch who likes to seduce others...

People always believe what they want to believe.

My friend, she likes drinking and dancing. She is free-spirited and does not want to be restrained.

But she likes to hang out in bars and libraries. She gets scholarships every year. She always completes her own affairs perfectly and treats other people's affairs as her own.

In our eyes, she has no flaws.

But others criticized her because of her enthusiastic personality. Some people even asked her to check her health at school.

03

This is a society full of prejudice against women.

I was recently urged to get married by my mother, and I was only 20 years old. The reason was that two aunts she knew from well-off families liked me.

"If you can marry into their family, you will definitely be happy for the rest of your life."

?

I don’t know since when, age, marriage and wealth have become too involved.

Get married when you are old enough, take care of your children when you have them, and try to give birth to boys... You are only thirty, but you are already useless.

In today's world view, strong women have a sense of ridicule.

Older leftover women are considered to be the remnants of being eliminated by the fittest, but no one thinks that she can stand on her own feet.

I have interviewed several thirty-year-old boys and they told me that men in their thirties can still find girls in their twenties, but things are different when girls are in their thirties.

When I heard this, I couldn’t help but retort, no one should define someone’s thirty years old.

The prejudice in people's hearts is like a big mountain, weighing on people's hearts and blocking the way forward.

In this world, the prejudice against women is always so sharp.

04

I saw this passage on the Internet:

I don’t care if I have a likable personality, I don’t care if I look harmless, I don’t care if Ignorance of the road ahead does not care about the direction of the tide.

I don’t care about fighting alone, I don’t care about how many people cheer in the audience, and I don’t care when “he” appears.

I don’t care about hiding in a sea of ??people, I don’t care about being out of place, I don’t care about having too much, I don’t care about whether this is taboo.

I don’t care how many people look at me, I don’t care that I am “that girl”, I don’t care that “this is too bitter and not suitable for you”.

I don’t care if they say I work too hard, I don’t care if my ambition is written on my face, and what I wear or don’t wear cannot define me.

I don’t care if I rush too fast as long as the wind catches me, and I don’t care if I am a “madman”, as long as I feel it’s worth it.

My life does not need rigid correctness. I do not want to wait for a world without prejudice, which is romantic, intensely lonely, youthful, crazy, and bright. I want to create my own. Life.

Don’t set limits, don’t step back, don’t be afraid of the dazzling light, open up, experience a wider world, and capture it gently.

I hope this world will be less prejudiced and more kind.