There are many year-end friends in the world, and there is also no lack of year-end love in the world. For example, Mr. Lu Xun and Xu Guangping, Jin Yong, who are 18 years younger than him, and Lin Leyi, who is 26 years younger than him.

However, year-end love has been a controversial topic for a long time. Such as Yang Zhenyu and Weng Fan.

The year-end love couple we are going to talk about today also caused quite a stir. These two people are Li Kuncheng and Lin Jingen. 7 years ago, they became famous because of "Grandfather and Grandson Love". Once it was exposed, it caused an uproar.

Li Kuncheng and Lin Jing’en

1. 40-year-old love? Love

Li Kuncheng, born in 1957, is a Taiwanese musician and well-known lyricist. "The Godfather of Vinyl". Lin Jingen, born in 1996, Taiwanese.

In 2013, 17-year-old girl Lin Jingen fell in love with 57-year-old Li Kuncheng. In order to marry Li Kuncheng, Lin Jingen did not hesitate to fall out with her old father and wrote that "love" declaration: In the middle of the night, just... Just now I smashed the computer mainframe at home, freedom and democracy before the age of 18, and the war started. ?

At that time, Lin Jingen was just a high school student.

Lin Jingen was crazy about love, and Li Kuncheng also responded: "If you dare to marry me, I will marry you." ?

In other words, the two met when Li Kuncheng went to Lin Jingen’s house to watch records. Lin Jingen's father wanted his friend Li Kuncheng to teach his daughter to learn music, so he asked his daughter to learn music from him.

I originally wanted each other to be good friends, and since the age difference between my daughter and Li Kuncheng is huge, logically speaking, they should be separated by elders and juniors. Even if the two of them get along together, there will be no problem.

However, unfortunately, feelings seem to have no regard for seniority, occasion, or age. The two of them became familiar with each other as they went back and forth. Especially after watching the movie "Les Misérables", they started to interact intensively.

After that, the two frequently showed off their affection on social platforms, and Li Kuncheng also made a high-profile statement that the two are friends who have talked about everything for centuries.

However, the scene of a white-haired man in his late teens leaning on a teenage girl and pouting cutely made many netizens call him "uncomfortable".

In the face of criticism from netizens and public opinion from the media, Lin Jingen responded: "What I love today is Li Kuncheng, and I am not the 17-year-old child you know."

The two got married shortly after their romance spread. He even expressed his intention to have children.

Now, the two have been married for 7 years. Lin Jingen, a young girl in her prime, seems to have lost some of her childishness and innocent smile, and has become more mature. As for whether the relationship is still the same as before, loving passionately and deeply, outsiders don't know.

2. Controversy about the relationship between grandfather and grandson

Some people expressed support for this love story between the two of them, who are 40 years apart, saying, "Love has nothing to do with age or anything else?" Abandoning worldly prejudices for love is a commendable act of courage!

One is youthful, lively, independent-minded, and the other is mature, steady, and talented in music. Regardless of their age, the two seem to be a perfect match.

The two went from teachers and students to lovers, spanning 40 years of age. They seemed to be in line with the sentence: Love has nothing to do with age, and happiness has nothing to do with the number of marriages. When some people meet, they just pass each other by, and when some people meet, they just want to end each other. ?

Of course, some people bluntly said that it was "irritating", "cannot understand", and "very outrageous"

When the two got married, Lin Jing'en was not yet twenty years old. . Now, 7 years have passed, Lin Jingen is only 24 years old, and Li Kuncheng has entered his sixtieth year. It is really "you are not born before you are born, and I am old after you are born".

Due to the large age difference, there must be a certain generation gap. In addition, there are also different interests and hobbies, so there will be some differences and conflicts between the two.

Now, one is heading towards old age, and the other has a promising future. This makes many people worry that if things continue like this, can they still talk about everything across the century? Can such a love marriage last in the long run?

When talking about this, I can't help but think of the historical poet Su Shi and Wang Chaoyun, who was 28 years younger than him.

Wang Chaoyun’s life was short. He met 40-year-old Su Shi when he was 12 years old and stayed with Su Shi for more than 20 years. When Su Shi was in his sixties, Wang Chaoyun passed away.

It is hard to imagine how an old man who was nearly sixty years old at that time could walk alone in decline and old age after losing a life partner like Chaoyun who could cuddle up and support each other in the wind, food and sleeping in the open air. of?

However, for this grandfather-grandson couple with a 40-year age difference, this problem does not seem to be a problem. As I write this, I can’t help but think of a question:

3. Is it purely for love behind the year-end love?

In today’s society, year-end love is not uncommon. For example, 50-year-old Liang Jinsong and 23-year-old Fu Mingxia, 68-year-old Rupert Murdoch and 32-year-old Wendi Deng, as well as the 28-year-old beauty and the 80-year-old man Yang Weng are in love, etc., are all typical examples.

It is said that love is pure and should not be related to wealth, age, beauty, etc.

However, how much love in reality is so pure?

In such an era of "picking things up", an old man falls in love with a young girl, and an innocent girl falls in love with an old man. Such year-end love is even more "unusual". Are they really just out of love?

I’m afraid, that’s not the case either.

As many people think, in fact, there are some psychological or social reasons behind most year-end love, such as Electra and Oedipus complexes.

Girls who have lacked father's love since childhood will unconsciously want to find the missing feeling of father's love from men who are older than themselves, hoping to be loved and loved. Or, girls have been insecure since childhood and hope to find someone older than themselves to protect them. Vice versa, so do boys.

Of course, in addition to the Electra and Oedipus complexes, some social reasons, such as economic reasons, are also a choice.

Older people have certain social experience and accumulation, and generally have more wealth and resources than young people who have just entered society. This can enable young girls to Live a more stable and prosperous life after marriage.

Wendi Deng and Rupert Murdoch

4. However, will a long-lasting love really lead to happiness?

Many people must be skeptical about this issue.

It is said that love is a matter between two people, simple and pure; but marriage is a matter between two families, and even the whole society. The combination of an old husband and a young wife sounds wonderful, but the problems it needs to face are no less than those faced by ordinary people.

People generally believe that as long as you fall in love, you should stay together for a lifetime, and the best way to stay together for a lifetime is to get married. However, the fact is just the opposite. Many people who love each other cannot spend their whole lives together in the end.

Because once you get married, you will be exposed to too much and watch for a long time, which will lead to psychological and aesthetic fatigue. Furthermore, when it comes to marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt, pots and pans will hit love and it will be riddled with holes. At this time, it will be even more difficult to communicate without having the same interests and hobbies, the same topics, and the same language.

The year-end love combination of an old husband and a young wife obviously needs more spiritual care, and spiritual love requires more time to maintain the relationship.

At this time, the younger wife, who is often pampered, may become more and more willful, just like a spoiled child who has received a lot but never feels satisfied. The old husband is losing vitality day by day, becoming more and more vicissitudes of life, and needs more time and energy to accompany and care for him. At this time, if one party is dissatisfied and the other party is unable to take care of it, eventually it will be difficult to maintain such a marriage.

So, if the age-long love between an old man and a young couple is not free from distracting thoughts, and if it is for money, fame, wealth, or vanity, then the marriage resulting from such impure love will generally be Unhappy for sure.

Writing to the end,

In this world, love can always be shocking and earth-shattering. The 57-year-old lyricist Li Kuncheng and the 17-year-old girl Lin Jing'en talked about love. , faced with doubts, Li Kuncheng declared that "there is nothing to talk about across centuries", making people believe once again that age is not a gap. As long as life lasts, love can span one, two, or three centuries without any problem.

There is a saying: There is no respect or inferiority on the road to death, and there are no elders on the road to love. It is enough to have a close friend in life, and the world should treat him with sympathy. ?Perhaps, for Li Kuncheng, it is a reflection of his heart, and for many people, he hopes so.

However, even so, we should not advocate "forever love", because from an emotional point of view, such a marriage will still be difficult to achieve if the two people cannot reach the same height. realm.

We are free to choose what kind of marriage we want, but not every love that breaks through the world can have a perfect ending.

In short, year-end love is not universally applicable to the public and should not be promoted.