What kind of woman can be called tasteful?

Perhaps, she is outstanding in aesthetics. A woman with taste does not lie in what big-name clothes she wears. Even ordinary fabrics can be matched just right.

Or she is very interesting in life. After work, she will arrange her life fully and flexibly. Travel, fitness, music, movies, reading, raising small animals and so on ... she makes every day full and wonderful.

Still in attitude. She is sincere and kind, always gets along with the world with a peaceful mind and has her own aura.

But I think the most important thing to measure a woman's taste is what kind of man she finally chooses to spend her life with.

Taste is the experience of life, which is related to experience and accomplishment.

A woman's taste directly determines whether her future life is poetry and distance, or a chicken feather.

Choosing a man is choosing a lifestyle.

When Alyssa Chia, an artist from Taiwan Province Province, just fell in love with Sun Zhihao, the outside world was particularly pessimistic about them, and Alyssa Chia's fans were even more opposed, because this Sun Zhihao was a famous playboy. Apart from his bachelor status, in their view, he is not worthy of Alyssa Chia, who has just become popular.

Later, Alyssa Chia got pregnant before marriage, gave birth to "Wu Tongmei" and married Sun Zhihao. Rumor has it that Sun Zhihao was having an affair outside the night before giving birth to a girl in Alyssa Chia.

The contradiction between husband and wife's life is constantly superimposed, and even the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is constantly upgrading. No one expected that this 5-year-old "happily married into a rich family" actually reached the point where "husband and wife are in court".

After the divorce, the posture is also "ugly". First, Alyssa Chia fought for custody, but she couldn't see her daughter. Later, she cried at the press conference and asked public opinion for help. Zhao Min, who used to be eccentric, has now become haggard and sluggish, and her life and career have fallen into a trough.

Fortunately, instead of indulging in pain for a long time, she took photos with her heart, enthusiastically participated in public welfare activities and tried to manage her own life. When she embraced the future with open arms, Jie Kaixiu, 9 years younger than her, entered her world.

Now Alyssa Chia, who is in her forties, has begun to grow against the trend and her life is getting less and less. They also have three babies, and the family takes high-profile photos in Weibo every day to show their love.

Taking part in "Fast Forward" with Jie Kaixiu is also to make up for their honeymoon time. When they look at each other, their faces are full of love and sweet.

Fame, wealth and status may be important to Alyssa Chia today, but they are worthless to a happy and complete family. She married a rich family, but the rich family left her scarred.

She knows what kind of person a marriage needs to accompany, and those external conditions are far from those of a person who really loves her. It is important to pamper her with heart.

There is a very strange phenomenon in our generation.

When studying, parents try their best to interfere in our emotional life and prevent us from falling into "puppy love". Once you work, every phone call is nothing more than: Have you found someone? Do you want a blind date?

Of course, parents mean no harm. Their original intention is for our good, but the logic here is completely wrong.

As we all know, love and marriage are essentially interpersonal relationships, which need communication and practice. No one is born with love.

If we haven't had a chance to practice how to communicate with our lovers, it will be difficult for us to deal with the relationship between feelings and marriage after marriage.

Chatting with my friend Qiu Qiu WeChat and talking about the topic of feelings, she told me a secret that has been buried in my heart:

During her internship in the first company, she fell in love with a married man for more than a year.

The other party is a cadre within the system, mature and steady, and distinguished. Qiu Qiu is crazy about him. And consciously or unconsciously reveal his appreciation and admiration.

But compared with Qiu Qiu, a fledgling girl, the married man has seen too much, so he soon sensed Qiu Qiu's mind and said to her:

But Qiu Qiu reluctantly refused. She thinks I like you, which has nothing to do with you, and I don't want to destroy your family. I just want to like you silently.

She also invited him to eat and play badminton in the name of work, but the other party agreed, but did not show up. Once Qiu Qiu sent him a WeChat, but he received a reminder that he needed to be authenticated as a friend, only to know that the other party had deleted himself.

Qiu Qiu said it took her more than a year to get out, and I didn't know this man who loved her and hurt her until now. Recalling that time, she told me:

I smiled with relief and replied: fortunately, you woke up in time, and I wish you real growth.

A woman's emotional taste is not innate, but a vision gained through setbacks and growth.

Feelings are allowed to try and make mistakes. What I am afraid of is that after going through rough times, you will not learn from them and learn to grow up in love.

In last year's hit drama in the name of people, many people were very familiar with the role of Secretary Dakang.

The seemingly far-flung love life between him and his wife, MC Jin, has also attracted great attention. They are under the same roof, but they seldom meet all day. Everything you say has to be relayed by the nanny, and you have to make an appointment in advance when you meet, which is really unlike the way ordinary couples get along.

The two devoted themselves to their careers, but never stopped to think about how to run a marriage.

Later, MC Jin was suspected of taking bribes. In order not to affect the career of secretary Dakang, they agreed to divorce and ended this long-term relationship.

In this marriage of more than 20 years, why didn't they come to the end? In fact, there are reasons for both sides, but I think it is very important that MC Jin always regards herself as a little girl and doesn't want to grow up in a world of love.

At first, MC Jin chose Dakang Li from the countryside among many suitors, because he did something that others were unwilling or unwilling to do: he could dig oysters all night without rest and send them to her far away the next morning.

For a woman like MC Jin, a well-born beauty queen, she actually values the weight of feelings in her heart more than material requirements.

In fact, before and after marriage, men and women will have great differences in the emphasis and way of treating feelings. Love is very important. After all, love is not the whole of life. We also need a job that embodies our own values, a circle that maintains normal social interaction.

So the tragedy of MC Jin's marriage is that she made a mistake that many women will make. After entering the marriage, if you don't choose to adapt to the role, you will feel that men have changed and don't care about themselves as much as they did when they first pursued them.

Yes, a man can't be in love all day just to look around you. Especially for men over 40 years old, for them, love is no longer a responsibility and responsibility.

We all have a period of ignorance, fanaticism and confusion about love. After that, we will be more adapted to our role in love. But remember, I have to give myself a deadline at each stage, look back and tell myself that I don't want to be like before anymore.

Darren Wang has a good proverb:

Everyone is eager to get a true love, hoping that the other person is right and can go hand in hand.

But when we are in contact with the opposite sex, sometimes we can't get true love by giving our heart. Many times you may be confused by the other party and make your own judgment wrong.

It doesn't matter if you don't meet the person you trust all your life. We should learn to stop loss in time. If the direction is wrong, stopping is progress.

Every relationship needs to get along well, and every lover deserves serious treatment. Even if we didn't go to the end, we also enjoyed the meaning and value of love in this process.

Loving a person is both emotional and rational. Deal with emotional problems correctly and rationally, constantly improve your love for your career and improve your getting along skills.

As a woman, we must learn to love ourselves. A woman who doesn't love herself will not be loved by men. Only by being the best you can you meet that better man.

The highest state of love is not how vigorous it is, but I can accept whatever you like. Plain, exquisite and poetic.

The highest taste of a woman is to marry a man who knows, loves, cares and understands her.